I'm sure I'm not the first person who's thought of this. Whenever I'm in a position where I could potentially end up having sex with someone (one night stand or new boyfriend/girlfriend) I immediately think, "Oh shit... what are they going to think when they see my scars?" and that's where my anxiety begins. I've been lucky enough over the years to have pretty understanding boyfriends, even some who have cut themselves, but I still just never know what kind of reaction I'm going to get when I pull up my sleeves, or wear short-shorts. Also having your friends see your scars is often very difficult, as well as your parents/family. I don't know many people who want to sit down and try to explain the addiction of self harm to someone who just doesn't get it. It's like trying to describe an acid trip to someone completely sober.They might seem like understand little bits of pieces, but until the day when/if they do acid, then and only then will they go, "Oh now I understand!". I have been cutting for 10 years now and I really don't see myself stopping. It's very addictive and my favourite stress reliever by far. Sometimes I hate that I do it because I'm afraid to show my arms in public, but I got smart and started cutting my thigh, no one sees it aside from my boyfriend and he doesn't mind. So how many of you has had to have that conversation with a lover/friend/family member about your scars/cuts? I wanna hear your stories.