*haha either that was a typo or freudian and I was wondering why I'm single because I'm SO lovely (yeah right) but the title to this thread should've been* YOU'RE INSECURE, SINGLE, LONELY AND HAVE NEVER BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP... NOW WHAT? That about sums me up. I'm single. I'm lonely. I'm insecure. And I have never had (what I would call) a real relationship. I've dated people for short bursts and I've had sex, but nothing that could be considered a relationship. And I turn 26 in two and a half months. I was sat there thinking about this long and hard this afternoon. I don't want to be single forever and I know there is no doubt somebody out there for me, but I just don't know how to be with them. I'm so insecure I have a wall between myself and everybody else. I'm sociable, but I'm talking to everybody over that wall - if that makes sense? No-one can really get too close. If I feel somebody getting close, I get scared and have to get away from them as quickly as possible or get them away from me. I know it's my insecurity and fear of being hurt (basically it's my fear of never recovering if I ever did get hurt, because I'm fragile enough, if I fell in love and my heart gets broken, that may send me over the edge). How do I build up my confidence/self esteem etc. How do I become secure enough to enter into a relationship with somebody? Does this even sound possible? Because it's sounding like a distant dream to me right now!! More than anything, can anybody else relate to any of this? And what is your take on it all? Do you think you'll ever be strong enough to attempt a relationship with somebody?