You're not suffering enough to get help?

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by TheBLA, Jul 17, 2008.

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  1. TheBLA

    TheBLA The biggest loser alive.

    There are many reasons for people to become depressed and suicidal, some reasons some of us find acceptable and others some find not as good reasons.

    Some will commit suicide because their entire family died in a tragic car accident, you really cannot blame the poor person can you?

    But then for example, what if someone commits suicide because he did not get accepted into his college, didn't do as academically well as he/she wanted? Many will say that is ridiculous, why would you kill yourself over that, but it is still very serious to them. They were raised in a culture of always getting high marks, have tremendous pressure upon them.

    But the former person who commit suicide, his/her suicide will seem more "understandable".

    Those are just examples. Everyone copes with problems more or less than others. Some will quickly get over the breakup of a girlfriend/boyfriend, for some it will be the end of the world and they cannot imagine living anymore.

    These people are still suffering greatly but some will not help them or help them enough because they think their problems are too trivial, that there are others suffering more than them so they are ignored.

    I am feeling this way, that I am suffering but yet not enough, there are others suffering more than me and there's only so much resources to go around so they are all diverted to them and there's nothing for me. Like on this forum. Its perfectly understandable but yet not fair either. Of course life is not fair. :unsure:
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  2. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    It is not the seriousness of the vent that determines how deeply a person is affected. It is the way the person deals with it. People are affected by things in different ways. It does not make it any less serious or important. Your issues are important rahulIt is not a competition to see who should be suffering most when the reality of the situation is you are suffering. You are no less important than anyone else. :hug:
  3. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    Rahul- your problems mean the world. They mean the world because they are yours and you are important.

    Your post generally describes me, at times when I'm feeling great I think, I can't believe this I'm feeling great and when most of my life is just basic survival a lot (many people won't understand this but I love being alive).

    But then when I feel bad, I think, yeah I feel bad- I hate living like this. I hate it.
    I've recently been feeling quite down/had a huge flashback recently so I've been spewing everywhere.
    I'm generally fragmented. So i could be saying i'm feeling great (I am) but struggling a lot in other areas of my life (independent living), so a lot of people don't really know what goes on with me. But when I say I'm feeling 'bad' then, yeah it means I'm feeling really bad.

    I've felt like you in MH services ignoring me and it does feel awful. But that doesn't mean you're suffering any less than anybody else here. When it comes to resources, this forum works on members contributing who are in pain themselves so can't offer everything you'd like.

    Take care. :hug:
  4. leftoutsidealone

    leftoutsidealone Well-Known Member

    I agree. I also feel guilty why should I feel depressed when some people have much worse problems. But then again, maybe they have means or skills to vent them, and I don't. Ah, confusing.
  5. bleach

    bleach Well-Known Member

    I feel as you do, my problems seem too boring and mundane to be important to anyone else. Which makes me feel like I am on my own dealing with them.
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