Good Afternoon everyone. I was friends with a female coworker for over 23 years. She helped me with being more social and getting out of my comfort zone. We would hang out when we could and talk all the time. I was single at the time and she was married but separated. One day a mutual friend asked me why me and Jill never hooked up since we hang out all the time. So that Morning we went out for breakfast. I asked about taking our friendship to the next step. She informed me that she didn’t see us being more than friends. We were able maintain our friendship. A few years later, I got another job with the same organization in another office. On my last day at my job with her. I told her it was going to be tough not seeing her everyday anymore and maybe it was for the best that I was leaving because I had developed strong feelings for her. She told me that we shouldn’t be friends anymore. At the time I had been married for two years. I know some of you would say I should have ended my friendship with her once I got married but I saw nothing wrong with it at the time. We were able once again to remain friends threw this also. Flash forward to last year. We talk almost everyday about work, life, relationships, almost everything but we haven’t hang out just us two in a long time. On my part because I know I wanted something romantic to happen with her and I’am a married man. One day on the phone with her, I asked if it was wrong that I wanted to kiss her. She made it seem that I was in a emotional relationship with her. I know I was and so was she, and the same that we shouldn’t be friends any more. That she knew it was wrong talking to a married man about her problems and so forth. We talked a couple of days later and agreed to not talk as much and when we did I wouldn’t be about my marriage or are relationships. It went on like that for awhile. Than it started back to the same thing. Talking pretty much everyday about everything. I realized my marriage was suffering because of it so I slowed down my communication with her. When I did call she sounded happy to here from me and thanked me for calling her. Sometimes she would call just to say hi or to rant or get something off her chest. About two months ago. I called after not speaking for about two weeks. She said how she thought about me all the time and loved me and missed me and right before hanging up the phone told me I love you. I didn’t get a chance to tell her the same but sent her a text I felt the same way. I also texted her that i didn’t think she knew how much she really meant to me. She texted back that her mother used to say if you love someone. You don’t tell them with words you show them with actions!!! I interpreted this as she wanted me to show her my love for her so I sent roses to here Apartment. She called when she received them and asked if I sent them. I told her I did and she asked if I know they were roses, and I said yes. She says roses mean love and I said yes. Then she says she thinks of me as a friend that’s all I’am a married man we can’t continue be as close as we have been, and I’am ok with that. She was going on vacation with her grandkids. And I texted her to wish her a wonderful trip. She texted back as normal. I called before she left to wish her a safe trip, and she sounded angry at me on the phone. I didn’t know what to think? While on vacation. I texted her. Hoping her vacation was going good. She called me immediately. She sounded like the way we used to talk. She sounded happy to here from me and told me all about her vacation, and that we would talk when she got back. On her first day back at work. I texted. Wishing her I good first day back, no response. I tried calling a couple of days later, didn’t pick up the phone. A week later tried called again. No response but she did text that she does feel comfortable talking to me anymore and she’s sorry she didn’t tell me earlier. I don’t know what to do. I know I should just let this relationship go for my marriage, but I miss her. Thoughts?
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