Few things before I get into this:
1. Before anyone says "break up". I literally live with her now, and the only place I have to stay is my abusive parents house. So no. Leaving isn't an option.
2. SHE DOES NOT ABUSE/HIT ME. I want to make that very clear because the last thing I want to portray her as is an abuser.
I have an issue where my girlfriend being upset leaves me extra vulnerable emotionally. In an "I want to leave/get out/have this be over" situation. Not break up, just a "please return to normalcy" if that makes sense. This overwhelming feeling often leaves me upset, sad and angry and leads me to say things like "I think it would be better if I went back to my state" out of emotion rather than logic as I have no where to go. I do apologize for these statements but obviously they shouldn't happen in the first place. To put in perspective, I used to live in a house where my parents would argue at 11 PM or later extremely loudly. At most it was just annoying but there was a time where I needed to get law enforcement involved as my younger sibling was screaming scared and I heard hitting coming from downstairs. Point is, sensing stress is something I wish I never got as a skill. The incident that made me make this thread is that my girlfriend yelled at the neighbor for mowing down the flowers she planted multiple times. As in, cussing him out. Even when she apologized to me for overreacting, she still had spite in her apology to me despite admitting she should've made a fence for them to not get run over. We have a MDLG relationship, as a result she plays the mother role. Last time I checked good moms don't yell at people in front of their kids unless it's getting revenge on a bully (and last time I checked adults don't have "bullies" but rather, in the most PG way I can say it, jerks). Her upset isn't always like this, sometimes it's just general stress but it effects me because I feel like I'm out of a support system if something bad happens. What do I do? I can't go to another room because there are only 4 rooms in this house as it's very small and old.
1. Before anyone says "break up". I literally live with her now, and the only place I have to stay is my abusive parents house. So no. Leaving isn't an option.
2. SHE DOES NOT ABUSE/HIT ME. I want to make that very clear because the last thing I want to portray her as is an abuser.
I have an issue where my girlfriend being upset leaves me extra vulnerable emotionally. In an "I want to leave/get out/have this be over" situation. Not break up, just a "please return to normalcy" if that makes sense. This overwhelming feeling often leaves me upset, sad and angry and leads me to say things like "I think it would be better if I went back to my state" out of emotion rather than logic as I have no where to go. I do apologize for these statements but obviously they shouldn't happen in the first place. To put in perspective, I used to live in a house where my parents would argue at 11 PM or later extremely loudly. At most it was just annoying but there was a time where I needed to get law enforcement involved as my younger sibling was screaming scared and I heard hitting coming from downstairs. Point is, sensing stress is something I wish I never got as a skill. The incident that made me make this thread is that my girlfriend yelled at the neighbor for mowing down the flowers she planted multiple times. As in, cussing him out. Even when she apologized to me for overreacting, she still had spite in her apology to me despite admitting she should've made a fence for them to not get run over. We have a MDLG relationship, as a result she plays the mother role. Last time I checked good moms don't yell at people in front of their kids unless it's getting revenge on a bully (and last time I checked adults don't have "bullies" but rather, in the most PG way I can say it, jerks). Her upset isn't always like this, sometimes it's just general stress but it effects me because I feel like I'm out of a support system if something bad happens. What do I do? I can't go to another room because there are only 4 rooms in this house as it's very small and old.
