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Practical Advice im being sexual abused but cannot escape

Nagisa yagami

Nagisa yagami

Member
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I'm not going to say who it is as I'm still trying to get my head around it but they touch me inappropriate and force me to do sexual acts. I feel so dirty and horrible but they is nothing I can do. I'm stuck in a constant cycle where I say no but they don't listen and force themselves upon me. I need idea on how to stop this as if I don't I will end up killing myself to get away
 
may71

may71

mr. may
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This is awful, I"m sorry that you're going through this.

www.hotpeachpages.net has a world wide directory of domestic abuse and violence rescouces. They also have a library of articles about domestic abuse.

If you don't find a resource there that can help, I can keep trying to find other sources of assistance.

I hope something can help.
 
Dots

Dots

Misknown Member
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Nagisa yagami said:
I'm not going to say who it is as I'm still trying to get my head around it but they touch me inappropriate and force me to do sexual acts. I feel so dirty and horrible but they is nothing I can do. I'm stuck in a constant cycle where I say no but they don't listen and force themselves upon me. I need idea on how to stop this as if I don't I will end up killing myself to get away
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Resources above are good. Maybe try making yourself as unappealing as possible. Don't wash for weeks, claim an STD, make loud and erratic noises, something along those lines. This isn't anything you should have to do but these tactics have worked in the past...

Is there anyone in person you can confide in that may be able to help? This can be a relative, or school or work official. Maybe a friend that can help get you away from them?
 
Gwyrdd

Gwyrdd

Well-Known Member
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Is there any specific reason you can't escape? Not blaming you at all, and if you'd rather not say, that's ok, but knowing why you're trapped may open up options for helping you find a way out.

I agree with @Dots telling someone in person that you trust so they can try to help would be worthwhile.
 
Nagisa yagami

Nagisa yagami

Member
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It's somebody in my family and I've truly tried to tell but they didn't belive me and told me to stop lieing and said to everyone not to belive me so I have noone to tell I'm trying to move ot but it could be a while till I can do which sucks I just feel a bit hopless right now

honestly ive tried to make myself unappealing but it did nothing they still forced themselves upon me
 
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Dots

Dots

Misknown Member
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Nagisa yagami said:
Yeah I know that happen it just kills me even knowing people won't listen to me and I feel like I'm trapped with nothing to let me escape
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That is so heart-breaking that you weren't believed by those you expect to most.. that you trust. I've been there.

Is there any way you can present them with evidence? A recording? It twists my gut to think you'd have to... but, well these are the practical steps I'm aware of.
 
Nagisa yagami

Nagisa yagami

Member
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I think that would just cause them to outcast me or worse my abuser may no will cause more physical harm and emotional harm to Me I'm looking for ways out and I've been put forward to a group who deals with abuse so they know about me Thanks to you guys recommend and I'm on the list for housing but it may be a while till I get somewere but it's at least something and I'm trying to get into let's talk to be able to talk about this stuff a bit more and other mental health issues
 
Nagisa yagami

Nagisa yagami

Member
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Dots said:
That is so heart-breaking that you weren't believed by those you expect to most.. that you trust. I've been there.

Is there any way you can present them with evidence? A recording? It twists my gut to think you'd have to... but, well these are the practical steps I'm aware of.
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I think that would just cause them to outcast me or worse my abuser may no will cause more physical harm and emotional harm to Me I'm looking for ways out and I've been put forward to a group who deals with abuse so they know about me Thanks to you guys recommend and I'm on the list for housing but it may be a while till I get somewere but it's at least something and I'm trying to get into let's talk to be able to talk about this stuff a bit more and other mental health issues
 
may71

may71

mr. may
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Nagisa yagami said:
I'm on the list for housing
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That's good
Nagisa yagami said:
it may be a while till I get somewere
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It's terrible that they say you have to wait though.

The forums at www.womensaid.org.uk might be especially helpful, because they're focused on DV and housing issues in the UK. I'm not sure how active the forums are though.

While you're waiting for permanent housing, there might also be temporary shelter that you could have access too. The conditions might not be so good though (like maybe bunk beds or cots in a big room). They may also be trying to restrict housing because of Covid, which makes things even harder.
 
Livelife

Livelife

SF Supporter
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Hi Nagi. What a devastating unacceptable situation to find yourself in. Has it been going on for a long time? Are there are other adults living in the house as well? Are they in the house/on property/nearby when this is actually happening with this abuser? Resorting to biting, kicking, or screaming continually and loudly are what come to mind for me and if he were to strike you in response, which I hope would not happen...that would be difficult for anyone to ignore or minimize. If you loudly screamed with all you had in you, it would possibly take him by surprise and give you some time to get out of the room to a safe place with someone else in the house.
Has anyone in the group you refer to had any interaction with you and if so, had any suggestions that would be of any kind of help?
 
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Nagisa yagami

Nagisa yagami

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Livelife said:
Hi Nagi. What a devastating unacceptable situation to find yourself in. Has it been going on for a long time? Are there are other adults living in the house as well? Are they in the house/on property/nearby when this is actually happening with this abuser? Resorting to biting, kicking, or screaming continually and loudly are what come to mind for me and if he were to strike you in response, which I hope would not happen...that would be difficult for anyone to ignore or minimize. If you loudly screamed with all you had in you, it would possibly take him by surprise and give you some time to get out of the room to a safe place with someone else in the house.
Has anyone in the group you refer to had any interaction with you and if so, had any suggestions that would be of any kind of help?
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I may as well come our with it it's my dad doing this he's been abusing me with verbal and physical harm for year and it's now turned sexual as I'm a adult now I've tried this but I've kinda given up as it has no affect on anyone if I scream or not and it lead to to more pain for me

I would go to a shelter but I'm terrified of being hurt there too and it's not been recommended to be by the DA group and therapist I'm with as I'm a vulnerable person to them and they worried about me being taken advantage of whilst I'm moving and the affect it may have on my mental
health this has had
 
Livelife

Livelife

SF Supporter
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Nagisa yagami said:
I may as well come our with it it's my dad doing this he's been abusing me with verbal and physical harm for year and it's now turned sexual as I'm a adult now I've tried this but I've kinda given up as it has no affect on anyone if I scream or not and it lead to to more pain for me

I would go to a shelter but I'm terrified of being hurt there too and it's not been recommended to be by the DA group and therapist I'm with as I'm a vulnerable person to them and they worried about me being taken advantage of whilst I'm moving and the affect it may have on my mental
health this has had
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Thank you for sharing about it. I hope you find more assistance very soon in relocating and that the therapist is working on relocation connection and contact for you which is what they need to be doing.
 
Nagisa yagami

Nagisa yagami

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Can I just thank everyone who's giving me support and advice on here I've honestly never felt like so much love has been my way and you've honestly given me the courage and confidence to not only talk about whats going on but to go to a domestic abuse resource to get more help

Honestly you guys are live saver as I doubt I'll be here if it wasn't for you guys so thank you from the bottom of my heart

Nagi
Xxx
 
Nagisa yagami

Nagisa yagami

Member
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Livelife said:
Thank you for sharing about it. I hope you find more assistance very soon in relocating and that the therapist is working on relocation connection and contact for you which is what they need to be doing.
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Yeah I have a meeting tomorrow about it all and hopefully it allow me to be moved up the que a bit quicker
 
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