My ex

[Sassy Cat]

I am not sure how to feel right now because I just found out that my ex passed away last Friday. I hated him in many ways but I still feel really sad right now and am crying about it.

I think death is always so sad. I hoped my divorcing him and cutting him off from my life would help him change his drinking habits that he would have to start taking responsibility. I don’t think he ever would now the drinking has taken his life. I feel it’s hard to know how to feel other than sad

 

[Ineluki]

Sassy, you did what you had to do to keep yourself safe You will probably feel anger, sadness, and a lot of other emotions over the next few days, but please don't feel any guilt ok?

The only person that could have actually made your ex quit drinking was your ex.

 

[MisterBGone]

I'm truly sorry to hear of this news for you... My heart aches--& brakes, for you! I think this is one of the saddest stories I've read in a very long time.

Sending you well wishes, and hopefully some speedy relief from the immediacy of the pain you're now surrounded and engulfed in. Hoping that in time - it begins to subside.

And for the record, I've never known how to help someone who is in the absolute throes of the worst of it, with the bottle. Really just thinking the best and most positive thoughts, for you & your future. . . Take care!

 

[Sassy Cat]

Thanks @MisterBGone and @Ineluki

 

[Fleury Dragon]

@Sassy the Wonderful Cat I have no words but I'm here for you

 

[KM76710]

That is the thing with emotions, you be as sad as you feel it. If at the least for what should have been if things had gone better.

 

[Sassy Cat]

That is the thing with emotions, you be as sad as you feel it. If at the least for what should have been if things had gone better.

Yeah things could have been so much better

 

[Sassy Cat]

@Sassy the Wonderful Cat I have no words but I'm here for you

 

[britishbloke]

@Sassy the Wonderful Cat much like @Fleurise said, I don't have words but here for you

 

[Kira]

I am not sure how to feel right now because I just found out that my ex passed away last Friday. I hated him in many ways but I still feel really sad right now and am crying about it.

Regardless of your relationship with him, what you're feeling is completely natural
Just please be kind to yourself and don't suppress your feelings regardless of how confusing they are.
You're a wonderful lady, Sassy 💕💕💕🐈🐈🐈oxox

 

[FlamingoWrangler]

Hi @Sassy the Wonderful Cat , I am so sorry for this loss. I think it is quite normal to have these feels. In the beginning, you loved him enough to marry him. I belief that in death we cant help but see lost potential. Addiction is an ugly beast that can only be managed by the addicted. It hurts to see it happen. Be kind to yourself. 💜

 

[LonelyHiker]

How we feel about our family (or ex-family) is a complicated thing. I think it's perfectly natural to feel sad when someone who was once a part of our lives dies, even if the relationship wasn't a particularly good one. My condolences to you, Sassy..

 

[Unknown_111]

Sorry for your loss. Yes it's hard to accept the loss of life from a previous relationship.

You need to be strong and have no regrets for the past. Just think of the good times you experienced with you ex.

One day at a time and take care now. Sending a virtual hug to YOU.

 

[BlueGreen]

Sorry for your loss @Sassy the Wonderful Cat. People and relationships are complex, it's only natural how you are feeling. Take care,

 

[Waves]

Condolences Sassy. Been a long four years. May he Rest In Peace now.

 

[Sassy Cat]

Thanks allits really hard. I have been letting myself cry and feel sad. I think I need to. I have many thoughts and feelings right now. I hope he is at peace

 

[Rockclimbinggirl]

 

[Withe]

kondolencje

 

[SillyOldBear]

Grieving is the most natural thing in the world. It is also one of the hardest. But you will get through it. Frankly, I would be more worried about you if you didn't grieve. This man was your husband once. You love each other and committed your lives to each. A divorce cannot take that away. I am so sorry about your loss and that he could not beat the alcohol addiction, but very few succeed in that.

 

[Sassy Cat]

Grieving is the most natural thing in the world. It is also one of the hardest. But you will get through it. Frankly, I would be more worried about you if you didn't grieve. This man was your husband once. You love each other and committed your lives to each. A divorce cannot take that away. I am so sorry about your loss and that he could not beat the alcohol addiction, but very few succeed in that.

Thanks