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Nobody loves me
- Thread starter V0rt3XtheV0ID
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When I read this, I felt a bit of concern about the possibility you might be looking for someone to âfixâ you, as in take away your pain and make you feel good. But you did write that you are looking for someone to
-help- you heal. Nobody can fix anyone. We all have our own struggles to deal with, and if we take on those of another, it just hurts both.
My experience has been that love is something two people (or more, if thatâs your thing) build together. The love at first sight phenomenon is infatuation, not love, and youâre lucky if that lasts for 6 months.
I am worried about people taking advantage of you. There are predators out there who will exploit the emotional wounds of others to their own advantage. See catfishing and pig butchering scams for how this plays out in online dating. But someone doesnât need to be a scam artist to exhibit predatory behavior. There are also people who will take emotional advantage or even get off on humiliating the other. These types will look for someone who is hurting to pull in, if for no other reason than itâs easy to fool someone who wants to believe they have found the one.
In short, be safe. Learn your boundaries and set and enforce them before you open up in a relationship.
-help- you heal. Nobody can fix anyone. We all have our own struggles to deal with, and if we take on those of another, it just hurts both.
My experience has been that love is something two people (or more, if thatâs your thing) build together. The love at first sight phenomenon is infatuation, not love, and youâre lucky if that lasts for 6 months.
I am worried about people taking advantage of you. There are predators out there who will exploit the emotional wounds of others to their own advantage. See catfishing and pig butchering scams for how this plays out in online dating. But someone doesnât need to be a scam artist to exhibit predatory behavior. There are also people who will take emotional advantage or even get off on humiliating the other. These types will look for someone who is hurting to pull in, if for no other reason than itâs easy to fool someone who wants to believe they have found the one.
In short, be safe. Learn your boundaries and set and enforce them before you open up in a relationship.
