Hey,
I work in a electrical panel assembly plant and one of my coworkers likes to tease people a lot including me. I sometimes get purposefully left out of conversations with the rest of my coworkers. Last year he hosted an annual party at his house and invited a whole bunch of people from the plant with a list of their names. I declined because I was already going to my friend's birthday party that same day. Fast forward to a few days ago and I said I might go and the rest of my coworkers including him said "so that means no" and continued to tease me. Normally I don't mind teasing and I usually laugh along but I've always hated when I'm ganged up on by multiple people. This bothered me so I told them that it's emotional harassment and if they could simmer down on the teasing. Now they don't even talk to me at all and sort of give me the silent treatment. I don't mind as they're not very nice people to begin with. However, for future relationships, I was wondering if I dealt with it correctly. I've looked online about being assertive and how sometimes it may be perceived as aggressive provided that there is a self-righteous tone in it. I guess I'm just looking for an outside perspective. Maybe I shouldn't have mentioned it being emotional harassment. I'm not sure.
Thanks
I work in a electrical panel assembly plant and one of my coworkers likes to tease people a lot including me. I sometimes get purposefully left out of conversations with the rest of my coworkers. Last year he hosted an annual party at his house and invited a whole bunch of people from the plant with a list of their names. I declined because I was already going to my friend's birthday party that same day. Fast forward to a few days ago and I said I might go and the rest of my coworkers including him said "so that means no" and continued to tease me. Normally I don't mind teasing and I usually laugh along but I've always hated when I'm ganged up on by multiple people. This bothered me so I told them that it's emotional harassment and if they could simmer down on the teasing. Now they don't even talk to me at all and sort of give me the silent treatment. I don't mind as they're not very nice people to begin with. However, for future relationships, I was wondering if I dealt with it correctly. I've looked online about being assertive and how sometimes it may be perceived as aggressive provided that there is a self-righteous tone in it. I guess I'm just looking for an outside perspective. Maybe I shouldn't have mentioned it being emotional harassment. I'm not sure.
Thanks