what advices can you give about visiting a therapist? how can i start? should i start? Can you tell about your expirience with it???

[valerazimov]

what advices can you give about visiting a therapist? how can i start? should i start? Can you tell about your expirience with it???

altough I'm getting over it, my struggle sreems fragile and i feel devasted and don't mind help, + i heard that it is necessary sometimes to get back to normal life
I kidna feel lost of question about visiting a therapist, so i ask your advice
Thanks for answer beferehand, wish you much happines and power :>

 

[Something.idk]

You could write down things that you would like to tell them on a notepad. You can start with the basics if you dont feel comfortable enough.
I haven't been to a therapist but i hope this advice helps!

 

[valerazimov]

You could write down things that you would like to tell them on a notepad. You can start with the basics if you dont feel comfortable enough.
I haven't been to a therapist but i hope this advice helps!

thanksss, it makes sense and would order the mess in the head before first session

 

[may71]

The ideal thing is to get a personal recommendation for a therapist, but recommendations are often not available.

You might want to try having an initial visit with several therapists to see if there is one that is a better fit than others. Not all therapists are necessarily good therapists, and not all good therapists are necessarily a good match for everyone.

You have to decide for yourself if the time and money that you put into therapy is worth it. There are some therapists who will try to pen you in for as many appointments as possible, and don't seem to be that concerned with whether or not you're actually getting any benefit out of therapy. Ultimately you get to control whether you are in therapy or not, and just like with other medical appointments, you can even just walk out of a session if you want to. The treatment is for you, you're not a prisoner there.

Some therapists will specialize in dealing with particular issues, so in principle one who specializes in your area of concern might be good to try. Still, how well you click with a therapist and their general competence may be more important than specialization.

There are several different styles of therapy. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) can help when someone's outlook is a factor in their illness. There's evidence that people can get at least some of the benefits of CBT from a book. One of the most frequently recommended CBT books for depression is this:

Mind Over Mood, Second Edition: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think
Dennis Greenberger, Christine A. Padesky

I haven't read it, but it's on the reading-well.org.uk book list, and every book there has been vetted by at least one healthcare professional. In any case, reading a book like that might help you get a feel for what CBT is like in addition to getting some direct benefit.

There's also group therapy, which is usually less expensive than individual therapy, but it would probably be less focused on you.

The people who benefit the most from therapy seem to typically be people who have something they feel like they really want to express to a therapist, or they are going to learn something valuable from a therapist. Therapy is not necessarily worthwhile for everyone. There are also more treatment methods available than medication and therapy, though those are the ones that are most often promoted.

 

[notjoaorauta]

Can you tell about your expirience with it???

Im a biologist so I knew Freud and stuff wasnt for me, I chose cognitive behavioral therapy because I do think humans are more alike Skinner rats than we rather admit.

In the time i was dating a psychology student. She asked a professor for a recommendation. I asked for someone intelligent and just starting a career. I wanted someone who had a 'always learning' mindset.

CBT is not for everyone. Choose a path you find alike with yoursel and try a recommendation from a psychiatrist. Sometimes you just have to do a little trial and error.

Good luck

 

[valerazimov]

Thanks @may71 and @notjoaorauta, you helped a lot! Thank you again :>
I have another question
What can you tell about school free psychologists? Is it a true casino what kind or person and specealist can be?

 

[notjoaorauta]

What can you tell about school free psychologists? Is it a true casino what kind or person and specealist can be?

Its a gamble and it isnt a gamble at the same time. If they are being schooled there must be a professor behind the scenes organizing everything.

If i would go with this option. I would focus in finding someone that gets well along with me, that I feel I can trust and I feel he/she is trying their best

 

[may71]

you helped a lot! Thank you again :>

You're welcome!

What can you tell about school free psychologists? Is it a true casino what kind or person and specealist can be?

It's hard to say. I think a school psychologist, and any psychologist who is going to treat a minor is not necessarily going to keep what you tell them a secret from the school administration or your parents. They otherwise might be just fine.

Especially for minors, if you tell any therapist or helpline that you're suicidal, there's a good chance that you'll be hospitalized. That may vary a lot from country to country. Going to the hospital is not necessarily a bad idea, but you should be aware that mental health services tend to be hyperactive when dealing with suicidal minors.

 

[valerazimov]

You're welcome!

It's hard to say. I think a school psychologist, and any psychologist who is going to treat a minor is not necessarily going to keep what you tell them a secret from the school administration or your parents. They otherwise might be just fine.

Especially for minors, if you tell any therapist or helpline that you're suicidal, there's a good chance that you'll be hospitalized. That may vary a lot from country to country. Going to the hospital is not necessarily a bad idea, but you should be aware that mental health services tend to be hyperactive when dealing with suicidal minors.

but beign hyperactive with suicidal minors is kinda stupid, isn't it? I heard a lot of stories of hospitalising in my region, i can say beign hospitalized is the worst thing could happen to you in this world, especially when you suffer. i guess the best option would be run as fast as you can when hear "hospitalization". Can't say anything about other places, but region of eastern europe (russia, ukraine, belarus, rtc) is exaclty what i discribe

Thank you very much for answer, wish ya bright days, and much of happines

but still i dont know where to start, where i go, what should I do

 

[may71]

but beign hyperactive with suicidal minors is kinda stupid, isn't it?

Yes and no. Being in the hospital usually keeps someone safe, so if they're really on the verge of a suicide attempt, hospitalization is a good idea. On the other hand, some hospitals are of poor quality, and even when they're not being forced to go to a hospital can be traumatizing.

i guess the best option would be run as fast as you can when hear "hospitalization".

I think you can still talk to a therapist, but if you're fearful of hospitalization, you may want to say that you're depressed but not suicidal.

You can also explore some self-treatment methods.

 

[valerazimov]

Yes and no. Being in the hospital usually keeps someone safe, so if they're really on the verge of a suicide attempt, hospitalization is a good idea. On the other hand, some hospitals are of poor quality, and even when they're not being forced to go to a hospital can be traumatizing.


I think you can still talk to a therapist, but if you're fearful of hospitalization, you may want to say that you're depressed but not suicidal.

You can also explore some self-treatment methods.

An idea of hospitalization seems strange, like, you should spend time with other mentally ill people
as in SF, mentally ill people help each other and spending time here usally works, but in mental hospitals, it can be bad to do so, but anyway, i do not relate negativly to hosiptals, just my thoughts, nothin more

 

[valerazimov]

Yes and no. Being in the hospital usually keeps someone safe, so if they're really on the verge of a suicide attempt, hospitalization is a good idea. On the other hand, some hospitals are of poor quality, and even when they're not being forced to go to a hospital can be traumatizing.


I think you can still talk to a therapist, but if you're fearful of hospitalization, you may want to say that you're depressed but not suicidal.

You can also explore some self-treatment methods.

and thanks for answer btw, wish ya good day and hopefullness