Why does he not see the problem in it why no one sees it

[Congratsbaby]

My uncle has this habit of touching me. He stops for a while but continues again when he is in the mood of it. I don't think it's sexual but it makes me really uncomfortable and I have expressed it a lot of times.
It's in gestures like he would touch my arm , I would retrieve and he would come close and touch it again. I sometimes say it out loud , sometimes I struggle to say because I feel like if I say something I might cry. He keeps pursuing me till whatever time he pleases for. He giggles too when he sees he retrieve or shout or when I ask him to stay away or push him.
My mom has seen it , my aunt , my brother , everyone knows but it doesn't bother them.
My mom blames me and calls me disrespectful.
I feel helpless too but it also just feels so disgusting. I sat to study today , tomorrow is my exam. First my mom kept blabbering about a trip I don't wanna go to then he came and started touching me , I left the room and he followed and tried some more.
I hate when I cry because of them . I feel so disgusted with his touch.
I don't know why no one sees the problem in it. This seems like harrassment to me. These people... I don't know if I will ever forgive my uncle. He did so much wrong.

 

[Congratsbaby]

My uncle has this habit of touching me. He stops for a while but continues again when he is in the mood of it. I don't think it's sexual but it makes me really uncomfortable and I have expressed it a lot of times.
It's in gestures like he would touch my arm , I would retrieve and he would come close and touch it again. I sometimes say it out loud , sometimes I struggle to say because I feel like if I say something I might cry. He keeps pursuing me till whatever time he pleases for. He giggles too when he sees he retrieve or shout or when I ask him to stay away or push him.
My mom has seen it , my aunt , my brother , everyone knows but it doesn't bother them.
My mom blames me and calls me disrespectful.
I feel helpless too but it also just feels so disgusting. I sat to study today , tomorrow is my exam. First my mom kept blabbering about a trip I don't wanna go to then he came and started touching me , I left the room and he followed and tried some more.
I hate when I cry because of them . I feel so disgusted with his touch.
I don't know why no one sees the problem in it. This seems like harrassment to me. These people... I don't know if I will ever forgive my uncle. He did so much wrong.

He also constantly keep his gaze on me whenever I am in his view.

 

[may71]

It sounds like he knows that you don't want him to do it, but he does it anyway.

It also sounds like because he has greater relative power or status in the family, it's easier to blame you for what he does than to blame him.

It's wrong and it's not fair. I'm sorry that it's happening.

 

[total eclipse]

He should respect your boundaries and your family mother especially should tell your uncle to stop it
I'm sorry no one see your pain.

 

[Fbr27]

Well, maybe I can really say is that you should try to keep yourself away from him as much as you can.

Have you said to your parents that him touching you makes you uncomfortable "sexually"? Even if your uncle doesn't mean it, maybe you should talk about that with them.

Maybe you can say that you feel uncomfortable with his "presence" instead of touching. Maybe you can say that you are already grown up and that you need some privacy from other men in your family.

Once I had a family member living in my house and he was very nosy around my stuff. It took some months to my parents to realize how annoying this situation can be.

 

[Congratsbaby]

It sounds like he knows that you don't want him to do it, but he does it anyway.

It also sounds like because he has greater relative power or status in the family, it's easier to blame you for what he does than to blame him.

It's wrong and it's not fair. I'm sorry that it's happening.

Thankyou. Yes indeed you got it all right , I am sure he knows it. Everyone fears him in my opinion because he provides money also a sick asshole who might do something in anger.
Thankyou for your understanding , I appreciate it and it means something to me.

 

[Congratsbaby]

He should respect your boundaries and your family mother especially should tell your uncle to stop it
I'm sorry no one see your pain.

Thankyou.. yes indeed they should. But I don't know , I don't trust my family

 

[Congratsbaby]

Well, maybe I can really say is that you should try to keep yourself away from him as much as you can.

Have you said to your parents that him touching you makes you uncomfortable "sexually"? Even if your uncle doesn't mean it, maybe you should talk about that with them.

Maybe you can say that you feel uncomfortable with his "presence" instead of touching. Maybe you can say that you are already grown up and that you need some privacy from other men in your family.

Once I had a family member living in my house and he was very nosy around my stuff. It took some months to my parents to realize how annoying this situation can be.

I do try to keep myself away from him as much as I can.
I haven't said to my parents because my uncle often tries to touch me in front of other people ( my mom is often present ) I think the situation gets pretty clear yet she never stops him seriously and I mentioned , I often get blamed. I also don't trust my parents. My father also thinks he can keep touching me no matter how many times I have told him not to , he doesn't understand boundaries. Also I don't feel it sexually , I am just utterly disgusted. Sometimes I do feel it sexually too. I don't know what his intentions are but if I am telling you to stop , you should.
Also honestly I don't think talking to my parents will do anything or stop my uncle