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20 years and I still can't let go

Aj q8

Well-Known Member
#1
Hi ..I don't know frome whear to start it's way to complicated it sucks
Long story short I fall in love with this guy who my family didn't aprove and did they're best to keep us apart maybe you will ask why to bother with you're family as long as you both are in love ???just get married and ignore you're family!!I wish things was that easy from whear I am I need my father aprovel in writing in order to get married "it's the law here "
So I was painfully separated from the man I love and I lost all contact with him for exactly 20 years in all this time I couldn't get over him I remember our time together I miss his kisses his hugs I miss his perfume I miss every little detail about us .
My family forced me in to an a ranged marriage wich I get out of it by asking for divorce because I couldn't stay in this kind of loveless marriage.
2 months ago I found my guy on fb I contacted him putting in mind that he might not respond to me because he all ready moved on with his life and there is no place for me in his life now especially that he have a daughter now.
He was so happy to know that I didn't forget him and so is he,he still loves me and want to spend the rest of his life with me and he promised me that he will always will be by my side as a lover and a good friend.
But on the beginning of February he unfriended me on fb without saying anything no explanation or anything.
It really brock my heart i can't understand why he did this ???I deserve an explanation not shutting me off like this
I think he rethink our relationship and he find it safer for him to stay away from me but if he talked about this to me i woud understand.
But leaving me suffering like this is just crule
I'm already suffering with my own family and to add this being abandoned by the one person that I counted on is to much to handle
Every day I check my fb hoping to find that he text me or call me and every day there is nothing from him and that's just killing me
I feel alon and sad without him I don't know how to go on
 
#2
I'm sorry you are in pain. I have a mild understanding of the agony of rekindling something only for it to go belly-up again.

How often were you in contact on Facebook? Are you unable to message him now that you are no longer friends there? Or are waiting for him to be the one to reach out?

I wish too that he had communicated as I can only imagine it leaves some what-ifs swirling in your mind. It could be that he needed some space to think perhaps. Just as it may have seemed inconceivable that you would reconnect at all after 20 years, so too it may be possible to happen again, or there may well be someone else in the world for you...

I hope you are able to get some sort of contact from him to help you understand, or that you are able to get some peace of mind even without it.

You are not alone, though we may not be replacements, you have us now, and I hope you keep speaking with us and you can find some support here.
 

Aj q8

Well-Known Member
#3
I'm sorry you are in pain. I have a mild understanding of the agony of rekindling something only for it to go belly-up again.

How often were you in contact on Facebook? Are you unable to message him now that you are no longer friends there? Or are waiting for him to be the one to reach out?

I wish too that he had communicated as I can only imagine it leaves some what-ifs swirling in your mind. It could be that he needed some space to think perhaps. Just as it may have seemed inconceivable that you would reconnect at all after 20 years, so too it may be possible to happen again, or there may well be someone else in the world for you...

I hope you are able to get some sort of contact from him to help you understand, or that you are able to get some peace of mind even without it.

You are not alone, though we may not be replacements, you have us now, and I hope you keep speaking with us and you can find some support here.
Thanks for you're kind words
We used to talk daily for 2 months
Untilhe decided to walk away.
After 2 weeks or so I called him from different number he doesn't know and he picked up we talked for about 15 minutes
He was complaining about my missed up situation with my family especially mom and how he can't be any part of it right now but he will be happy to get together when things are better:(
I needed him to be by my side now when things are missed up even if it was fromantic distance
But what hurt me the most was he blocking my number immediately after I hang up :(in think he was sending me a message loud and clear by blocking my number!
I know it's extremely complicated sutietion I'm stuck in and the fact that I come from a Muslim family and he is a Christian and we live in a Muslim country with Islamic laws that's just adds to the mix of the trouble me and him are facing
But ignoring me like that that's really what I can't figure out
Why he acted like this ??why..
 
#4
Is he married now? If he is married and has a daughter, it might be a big problem for him now to be associated with someone else.

I wish that some comfort could come to you in your heartache
 

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