Sevven, you seem quite an interesting person with many and diverse interests! Making resin jewelry with natural objects — I’m thinking that would be very pretty! And the other interests you’ve mentioned — you are artistic and arts oriented. I think you are lucky in regard to that!
Yay for frogs, toads, and toadstools!
I had a “frog collection” for many years…ornaments, not real frogs! At the peak of the collection I had over 150. Frogs are very sweet. So are toads!
Could it be that you are a good, interesting person and delightful to boot, but are not necessarily thrilled at being in a “group”? It sounds like one-to-one or a small group of two or three might be your cup of tea. That would probably mean you are an introvert and somewhat reserved. Introverts feel energy being drained when they must interact a lot. It makes it hard for them to be excessively social. Extraverts, on the other hand, thrive on getting energy from being with others. It all comes down to interpersonal style, and one is not really better than the other. Traditionally, people tend to gravitate to the extroverts — likely because they are the ones making the noice and doing the hullabaloo for everyone’s amusemeant. Gravitating at first is not the same as eventually becoming friends with someone. I kind of prefer quieter folks as friends, because I’m quiet and I don’t feel pressured to be louder/bigger/more oomphy than I am.
You sound like someone who observes people, places, surroundings…to get a feel for things before jumping in. Nothing wrong with that. The snag is that other people do sometimes rush past those of us who are sitting quietly and they might think we have nothing to say. And they can get so used to us being quiet that they don’t hear us when we do speak up. So it‘s important to find that delicate balance of liking ourselves for who we are, and extending our comfort zone a bit so people don’t forget about us.
My suggestion to you is to enjoy being yourself. And when there is a chance to join in, do so if/when you are comfortable. To remain comfortable, keep some perspective on what each interaction really means…is it really the only chance to meet people?…does it really matter if this person or this group makes a fuss about you/your project/your interest?…is it a first try to mingle with a group you don’t know well? — that’s hard to measure…There will be more chances. Each time is just one little moment of your life. The people who will appreciate you will come along and you won’t have to fuss to get them to see you and be good to you. I would say, try not to make your whole sense of self rely on how any one group interaction pans out. Some interactions will be okay, some will not. Like other skills, social skills take practice. You’ll do just fine, I’m sure!
Some people, such as me, never particularly enjoy large group things. I do them when I must, but find my real friendships are more often a one-to-one thing or small groups. I’m not unfriendly or unlikeable. I’m quiet and reserved. I think you might be too.