To get this out of the way, i never really had friends in early school years and most of middle school. My voice was very quite and i am a very quite person in general. I don't think i was an obnoxious boy???? maybe just boring? But until 8th grade i started trying to get out of my bubble and i did end up with a group of pretty great friends. I joke around a lot more, and i'm not as enclosed.
but despite all that, i'm still very conscious about myself. even joking around or talking directly to one of them straight up kind of 'unsettles' me(???) i can't properly look at any of them in the eyes, and personal problems is just a whole other story i can't ever bring up. And it's not like they're unfamiliar with mental illnesses or anything (i think??). One of them had a lapse when his grades were declining and his family relation wasn't going to well. One of them has pretty bad stage fright and i think a bit of anxiety.
but i don't know how to bring up anything with my friends 1) i'm (as said before) very conscious of what others think of me including friends and family and, 2) most of the time they brush off what i hint at or directly state. i mean, it's probably my fault. i always joke about this type of stuff about myself and i don't think they take me seriously anymore. everything i like i purposely do crap at now because i feel like i'm just showing off to my friends, now i find no enjoyment into what i like and i'm just that one friend who's bad at everything but's he's funny.
i know they probably don't and wouldn't think bad of me, but i'm still so paranoid of what everybody sees of me and how i present myself i can't do anything to better help myself. i have to wait hours or even days before i read replies or post something like this because i'm scared
i really just want to be able to go out with them and properly be a good friend
but despite all that, i'm still very conscious about myself. even joking around or talking directly to one of them straight up kind of 'unsettles' me(???) i can't properly look at any of them in the eyes, and personal problems is just a whole other story i can't ever bring up. And it's not like they're unfamiliar with mental illnesses or anything (i think??). One of them had a lapse when his grades were declining and his family relation wasn't going to well. One of them has pretty bad stage fright and i think a bit of anxiety.
but i don't know how to bring up anything with my friends 1) i'm (as said before) very conscious of what others think of me including friends and family and, 2) most of the time they brush off what i hint at or directly state. i mean, it's probably my fault. i always joke about this type of stuff about myself and i don't think they take me seriously anymore. everything i like i purposely do crap at now because i feel like i'm just showing off to my friends, now i find no enjoyment into what i like and i'm just that one friend who's bad at everything but's he's funny.
i know they probably don't and wouldn't think bad of me, but i'm still so paranoid of what everybody sees of me and how i present myself i can't do anything to better help myself. i have to wait hours or even days before i read replies or post something like this because i'm scared
i really just want to be able to go out with them and properly be a good friend