Being immune to bullying

Discussion in 'Bullying and Violence' started by redfiredsoul, Nov 22, 2012.

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  1. redfiredsoul

    redfiredsoul New Member

    Being immune to bullying

    Bullying can have a very deep impact on people that are being bullied. Some victims of bullying even get to the point that they want to commit suicide. After being bullied myself for more than ten years I can tell you that not only can you survive this.. You can also become immune to bullying.

    In this article I describe how you can be immune to bullying.

    What you first need to know is that people who bully you suffer from self-loathing. This means that they project their issues and problems on you.

    You treat others the way you want to be treated. If they basically treat you like crap it means that they don’t like themselves very much.

    This can only lead to the conclusion that you don’t have to take it personal when you are being bullied. Just accept that there are people who don’t love themselves and when you hate yourself then you also hate others. When they are bullying you.. they are in fact expressing their self-hatred towards you.

    This is a FACT. They may tell you otherwise, but that doesn’t change the truth.

    Bullies do choose victims that are easy to bully. If you are insecure, have low self esteem or you look, act or speak different then you can easily become a target.

    The only way you can be above it is to feel compassion for the people that are bullying you. Please realize that they are only doing this because they hate themselves. There is no other reason..

    There is nothing wrong with you. We all have to learn and grow up but that doesn’t mean that we deserve to be treated like crap. Nobody deserves to be treated like crap. PERIOD.

    Tell yourself every day that you are worthy of loving. There will be plenty of people who will make you feel unloved, unnoticed, invisible, unappreciated, ugly you name it!

    Just always remember that this is the way they feel about themselves. God loves you and so do I. However, the most important thing is that you either love yourself or that you learn to love yourself. Self-love is the key to happiness. If you get to the point that you can love yourself unconditionally then you are immune to negativity.

    Nothing is more powerful than love. And love is within all of us.

    The point is to love yourself back together again. Find your true self.

    Once you do then you have everything.

    There is a positive side to being bullied. It makes you stronger and it pushes you forward.

    People who have been bullied or who faced a lot of adversity are often more successful later in life.

    Just see it as a quicker path to self-love. Without adversity we don’t grow up as quickly. Growing up quickly is a good thing you know.. It sure beats being ignorant, negative and mean.

    Always look at the bright side of life. There really is a positive side to everything. Just fully realizing that already makes you immune to negativity.

    There are things that can help you build self-esteem and confidence. I really suggest self-defense as it can also help you out if a bully wants to beat you up. I would never suggest attacking people without a valid reason. However, being able to defend yourself is important and practicing self defense has the added bonus that it makes you feel better about yourself.

    You will get through this and you will become stronger and more loving as a result of what happens to you. We grow and learn from negative experiences.

    Don’t ever commit suicide because you are being bullied. Don’t feel sorry for yourself.

    DON’T LET THEM WIN.
     
  2. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    I think the most important thing one can do when being bullied is to talk to someone of authority and get it stopped It is a criminal offense now bullying and taking legal action against the bullies will stop this from happening to someone else hugs I don't know if one can truly be immune to the pain people cause
     
  3. redfiredsoul

    redfiredsoul New Member

    I think you can be immune to negativity if you come from a place of love.

    Listen with the ears of tolerance.
    See through the eyes of compassion.
    Speak with the language of love.

    However, you're right that you never go unaffected throughout your day or life when people treat you badly. I think it's important when you meet people that are unloving and cause you pain that you give yourself the love you need and heal that pain.

    If you can do that (love yourself) then I do be believe you can truly be immune to bullying and negativity.

    Easier said then done though.. It's a journey. And along the way you will find out that the journey was always a gift :). I made this article to help people realize that.. Hope it helps.
     
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