I read on another forum recently, a theory about depression which I find I relate to quite a bit What the poster said was that depression was a response to what a human being would view as an unsolvable problem. They said that humans were wired to be problem solvers, that is basically a big part of our cognitive power, and a lot of things human do is fundamentally problem solving. So if a person comes up against something that they view as unsolvable, or unresolvable or that jars with their view of the world it can cause depression. I guess one of my problems is that I can't seem to make friends as easily as other people do. I'm a bit reserved and anxious around people which might be part of the problem, but even when I get talking to someone I can't seem to keep the relationship going. To be honest I tend to obsess about this issue. I just feel huge pain that I can't seem to do something everyone else can do. Everything I try to do to solve the problem doesn't really work. Sometimes I even make friends and they end up rejecting me, and that hurts too. I feel so confused about everything and it's so painful. Apparently humans are social creatures so maybe that's why social rejection is so painful. I don't know what to do, this problem is only going to get worse as I get older, being alone when you're old seems like the most frightening thing. Edit: I guess what I want to ask is how to get out of a thought loop such as this one. How to not care about being alone. I like my alone time but I need friends. I don't see how I can live without good friends in my life. I just see it as part of being a happy human being, so I can't see anyway out of this problem other than by killing myself. How do I stop caring about people rejecting me, about seeing other people with their friends.