So yeah, my $*(#%# habits have finally caught up with me. I got the notice today that I have until the 27th to comply with my apartment complexes demands. I do not trust these guys as far as I can throw them. They have a very specific list of demands that I have to follow, but these guys are basically slum lords. I will comply with everything they will say and they will still evict me. Once I am evicted I cannot get a new place to live. No one wants a tenant who was evicted because his apartment smelled of cat pee. Hell no one wants a tenant who was evicted period. So yeah.... My mom is trying to help me and she will work herself to the bones... but... all I can say is that I know these guys want me gone so they can remodel my place and jack up the price. I cannot just rage quit and leave I will still get a bad reference.... I am so very and totally screwed.... why do I have to love so close to an interstate highway bridge? For the first time ever... I have felt like maybe I should just end it. Ruin some other poor saps life wait for the inspection open the door... well you know the rest.... and my kitties would be homeless... I must be in an really dark place if that is barely causing me any second thoughts.
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You are in a dark place and I'm sorry your situation brought you there. Glad you've got some kitties and a mom who cares about you. Housing bullying situations like this are real and it's a troubling thing but it's not the end of your life, it's a forced move and a new chapter. Depending on where you are there are housing support options usually. Let your mom help you. Don't assume there's no answer just because it looks bad right now.
I am just lucky my mom is visiting. I really have no options should I get evicted. I cannot live at either of my friends places because all places have very strict visitor rules. I just do not know what to do. How does someone get to be allowed to rent a place after you get put on the bad renter list?
What is the bad renter list?
There are people and places that will rent to you without a reference. Also your mom might be able to cosign something? Either way it's a blessing that she's visiting yes, so hopefully she can help you sort things out.
Lots of people have been in your situation and have found another place.
Have you checked to see what housing supports you can find through the municipality?
Whatever you do, take it a day at a time.
There are people and places that will rent to you without a reference. Also your mom might be able to cosign something? Either way it's a blessing that she's visiting yes, so hopefully she can help you sort things out.
Lots of people have been in your situation and have found another place.
Have you checked to see what housing supports you can find through the municipality?
Whatever you do, take it a day at a time.
I have heard that if you are a crappie tenant there is like an informal list that various land lords keep around to remind them of who is a crappy renter and as you ask for references that gets passed around. At least I think there is something like that especially now with the internet. People have to protect their assets.
Yes I am very lucky, she is a bit of a neat freak. She was talking about washing my walls even. I do not want to rely on my mom for something like that. I have been fairly distant from her these past years and she has taken it really hard. I feel like I would just be coming back to her because I am in deep trouble. I feel like I am using her, even if she says she would do it anyway. I feel guilty just having her clean.
I have not looked into any kind of housing support. I did not know such a thing existed or I figured it was only for those who cannot afford housing. I just hate how this happens so soon into my new lease. I cannot try to find a new place to start fresh until March.
I know I am reaping what I sewed..... it is just hard to coup when this is the first time in 10 years of renting that I have ever had this problem with anyone. Especially since I have lived at this place for 3 years and this is the first time I have ever received any neighbor complaints.
Yes I am very lucky, she is a bit of a neat freak. She was talking about washing my walls even. I do not want to rely on my mom for something like that. I have been fairly distant from her these past years and she has taken it really hard. I feel like I would just be coming back to her because I am in deep trouble. I feel like I am using her, even if she says she would do it anyway. I feel guilty just having her clean.
I have not looked into any kind of housing support. I did not know such a thing existed or I figured it was only for those who cannot afford housing. I just hate how this happens so soon into my new lease. I cannot try to find a new place to start fresh until March.
I know I am reaping what I sewed..... it is just hard to coup when this is the first time in 10 years of renting that I have ever had this problem with anyone. Especially since I have lived at this place for 3 years and this is the first time I have ever received any neighbor complaints.
If they're kicking you out to renovate, you may be able to leave on good terms with them so you don't mutually fowl their name or make a fuss. It's totally possible.
Housing supports are to help anyone I'm pretty sure, especially if you feel stigmatized.
There have got to be apartments that don't pay attention to that list - lots of managements are old school and don't know the fancy Internet tricks.
Take the help from your mom but help her help you also - don't let her wash the walls alone, you know?
Housing supports are to help anyone I'm pretty sure, especially if you feel stigmatized.
There have got to be apartments that don't pay attention to that list - lots of managements are old school and don't know the fancy Internet tricks.
Take the help from your mom but help her help you also - don't let her wash the walls alone, you know?
I don't know where you live but if you call the municipality or the housing authority they should be able to guide you in the right direction, if not help you find something. Let your mom help even if you're not comfortable with it. Some people support you by doing things for you, not emotionally. It sounds like there's history there maybe this is the first step to resolving it. You never know.
Sounds like you've got help to clean up the apartment and stay on the good side of the landlords if you put some work into it over the next 2 weeks. So either you stay there or you move but regardless it'll be clean again and you're not in the crapper with the landlords when finding a new place to stay. I get that you're feeling shitty but put on some music, loud, and get to work cleaning everything up so you can stay there and not worry about it. Killing yourself over the possibility of an eviction makes no sense when you've don't have an eviction staring at you and you have someone telling you the'll help you. Come on, man, you can do this.
I have just never considered I would be in this situation. Like I said I do not know what they are doing so I don't know if they are preparing eviction documents so they can basically kick me out or if they are going to give me an honest chance. I feel like I am being paranoid but I cannot sit still at the same time.
It is hard to believe that they would say I complied but they want to renovat so they are kicking me out anyway. It is even harder to believe that I would leave on good terms with them. However, I guess that it is possible.
I fully intend on helping my mom just when I am not at work.
Thanks for the encouragement, trust me this is not the first thing to happen in so many weeks. Between the tax fraud getting laid off and getting an unstable job. My life honestly feels like it is over. I am seriously tempted to just...well suicide or do a complete reset and start fresh with nothing. But I have too many sentiments to do that I would rather just die
It is hard to believe that they would say I complied but they want to renovat so they are kicking me out anyway. It is even harder to believe that I would leave on good terms with them. However, I guess that it is possible.
I fully intend on helping my mom just when I am not at work.
Thanks for the encouragement, trust me this is not the first thing to happen in so many weeks. Between the tax fraud getting laid off and getting an unstable job. My life honestly feels like it is over. I am seriously tempted to just...well suicide or do a complete reset and start fresh with nothing. But I have too many sentiments to do that I would rather just die
I know how that feels it is one of the reasons I didn't kill myself after I graduated college. I still believe that I accomplished everything worth accomplishing on that day but I figured why not just see what happens. I am still not sure if I regret that choice or not.
I hope things start to look up for the both of us.
I am going to try. I hope that if I get to stay, knowing the increased scrutiny that I will be under, life won't be too miserable until I can finally leave. I also not sure if this will put permanent stress on me. Thanks for the encouragement
I hope things start to look up for the both of us.
I am going to try. I hope that if I get to stay, knowing the increased scrutiny that I will be under, life won't be too miserable until I can finally leave. I also not sure if this will put permanent stress on me. Thanks for the encouragement
Well I am lucky my mom was in town. We got the apartment cleaner, minus the carpet for the moment, than it was when I arrived in it. Yet I am still terrified that I will get evicted. My mom has assured me that there is no way that I can fail this inspection. For some reason I seem to be unable to shake the feeling that I will and the anxiety that comes with it.
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