Ideas & Opinions Do you ever cringe over your older posts here?

[ChimeraMonster]

Question for the older members, do you ever cringe over what you have posted here a few years ago? What was it? How do you deal with it?

I ended up seeing some posts of 9-6 years ago and GOD it's cringe 😬 XD. Ok that I was a teen but still

 

[Fleury Dragon]

A few years ago, I had a look at my older posts. Totally different to how I am now.
Yes I guess I did cringe just a little.
But I see it more as how much I've grown. How much better I am now than when I first joined the site.

Remember growth takes time and your past is what you have learnt from.

 

[BarryW]

I can think of a couple threads I was in that didn't go well. I think like Fleury Dragon said, it's live and learn. You are not your past. I do have many things I regret saying or doing, not on SF.

 

[HappyKitty]

all time high hahah the more i cringe, the more I'll reflect about it just so I self-validate cus we spoke without thinking kind🤣

 

[1Lefty]

yes, I do. I just try to remember I was sincere, though occasionally mistaken
but, yeah
I may even cringe over this some day, lol

peace

 

[ChimeraMonster]

But I see it more as how much I've grown. How much better I am now than when I first joined the site.

I can think of a couple threads I was in that didn't go well. I think like Fleury Dragon said, it's live and learn. You are not your past. I do have many things I regret saying or doing, not on SF.

but, yeah
I may even cringe over this some day, lol

I guess I will cringe over everything I have ever done then hahahaha
And I hope (I guess*) you guys continue cringing over yourselves then

 

[Survivorist]

I have such a short memory - I do not remember. I suppose others cringe about me... - which is ok.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Haha sometimes, I just think I sound so weird and annoying and wonder how anyone can stand me

 

[kittykatt]

I haven't posted a lot of things here. But I do put in a lot of thought to those that I do post. I have typed answers to other people's posts but have not posted them. I try to put myself in their shoes and imagine how I would feel if I were in their place. Sometimes that's hard to do because until you are in someone else's place you can't imagine how they would feel.

"Any friend that turns into an enemy has been hating you since day one." I'm not sure that I either agree or disagree with that. But I think that I agree more than I disagree with it. What would turn a friend into an enemy? Maybe they were only friendly acquaintances and not really a friend. A friend in a very special person. They're someone that you want to spend time with.

I don't want to 'cringe' if I read something that I've posted in the past.

But what is written in posts comes from a very special time and place in our lives. People change and attitudes also change. How we feel about things also changes. So what is thought on one day might not be thought on another day.

 

[seabird]

I guess I like to think that on SF I can skip cringing, for a change, because it's one place I feel relatively safe.

 

[Shinzon1]

I have a old account here that I will never admit to owning that I cringe at. I think partially it was down to my age and partly because I would have told younger me that your valid but please for the love of god stop being so whiny it will do you no favors in life.

 

[ChimeraMonster]

I have a old account here that I will never admit to owning that I cringe at. I think partially it was down to my age and partly because I would have told younger me that your valid but please for the love of god stop being so whiny it will do you no favors in life.

But being whine for me just means you have no support, and you learned you need to implore to have it. You got used to the idea of begging for love.

At least for me its something like that.

 

[ChimeraMonster]

Haha sometimes, I just think I sound so weird and annoying and wonder how anyone can stand me

I DO THAT TOO
I feel like I'm just too anoying to be near people normally XD

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I DO THAT TOO
I feel like I'm just too anoying to be near people normally XD

I'm sure you're not as annoying as you think you are. But I don't have a high opinion of myself generally so I tend to view myself negatively.

 

[Shinzon1]

But being whine for me just means you have no support, and you learned you need to implore to have it. You got used to the idea of begging for love.

At least for me its something like that.

honestly this is accurate. I was a floundering mess for my entire 20's. It wasn't till my early 30s life started making sense and then I tried to pickle myself. Life has been kind lol

 

[Ziggy]

I cringe over a lot of things I've said and done in the past, but that's a good thing, you can't improve if things were better in the past.
(Jeez that was an awful response, hope I don't read it again some time in the future!)

 

[ChimeraMonster]

I cringe over a lot of things I've said and done in the past, but that's a good thing, you can't improve if things were better in the past.
(Jeez that was an awful response, hope I don't read it again some time in the future!)

HAHAHAHA I will tag you a few years after this just so you cringe over it

 

[ChimeraMonster]

I'm sure you're not as annoying as you think you are. But I don't have a high opinion of myself generally so I tend to view myself negatively.

Oh well, I guess we are very alike in this point, I do have a very bad opinion of myself.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Oh well, I guess we are very alike in this point, I do have a very bad opinion of myself.

I get that, and it's hard to let go of. But for what it's worth, you seem like a good person.

 

[LumberJack]

I have only been here for 3 years, so maybe I am not exactly a veteran member. I do look at my prior posts and sometimes I feel like I sound like a jerk or a know it all and a hypocrite.

That being said, I don’t cringe over these posts. I instead use this as an opportunity to practice self compassion and give myself some feedback on how to respond more effectively going forward. I have historically cringed over old journal entries, to the point that I stopped journaling at all. It was too demanding for me to figure out how to please future me.

Now, rather than trying to please anyone including myself, I am as honest as I can be at that time. Since I have been doing this, I cringe a lot less. I am not always happy with my progress over time, but I am actually happy if I can see myself grow from how my writing has changed. There is a statement about personal growth that says something to the effect of being satisfied if we are embarrassed by our past selves. The point being, we cannot be stagnant if we are changing into ever more refined versions of ourselves.