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Does anyone else not feel they're very good at adulting?

Witty_Sarcasm

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#1
There are plenty of things I feel like I should have been taught when I was younger, but no one really bothered to do that for me. Basic things like how to tie my shoes, and that's why I wore shoes without ties until maybe...late elementary or early middle school when I finally figured it out on my own. How to socialize, because I wasn't really allowed to do that, and still struggle with that now, unless it's talking online, which seems easier for some reason. Doing mental math, or any kind of math really, because that was always something I've really struggled with. Trying to fold or cut a straight line...that seems insignificant, but I can't make a paper airplane or wrap gifts worth a crap lol. And there's other random things like riding a bike, swimming, braiding hair...a lot of these seem basic but then no one really took the time to help me with them. Does anyone else feel the way I do, like they're sort of stuck in some perpetual adolescence at times? And how do you escape this feeling?
 

seabird

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#2
There are other issues for me, mostly around self-esteem, but, yes.

I don't want to put myself down, because that is a virus which will feed on you. So that is my first advice: sincerely but lightheartedly look at who you are and what you do as just fine, and if there's more you want to learn, go ahead. It's always fine to try new things small or large. I've stumbled through kind of halfway adulting, I guess you could say? I've accepted that. The other advice is just maintaining self care, and other small but good habits - the ones you know help. I'm repeating what I've mentioned elsewhere on the forum but the book by James Clear called Atomic Habits is worth buying. I re-read it from time to time.
 

Witty_Sarcasm

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#3
There are other issues for me, mostly around self-esteem, but, yes.

I don't want to put myself down, because that is a virus which will feed on you. So that is my first advice: sincerely but lightheartedly look at who you are and what you do as just fine, and if there's more you want to learn, go ahead. It's always fine to try new things small or large. I've stumbled through kind of halfway adulting, I guess you could say? I've accepted that. The other advice is just maintaining self care, and other small but good habits - the ones you know help. I'm repeating what I've mentioned elsewhere on the forum but the book by James Clear called Atomic Habits is worth buying. I re-read it from time to time.
Thank you, that helps me to put things into perspective. I'm glad to know I'm not alone in feeling this way, because sometimes I feel like I'm very far behind everyone else, but I'm sure that I'm being too hard on myself.
 

seabird

meandering home
SF Supporter
#4
You're welcome. : ) I'm also glad I'm not alone in the feelings.
This sounds trite but I'm gonna write it anyway: there isn't any truth to a linear assessment of us, our existence entails far more than what fits on those kinds of scales or graphs.
 

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