I really want to make today the last day I complain about anything I have even started doing it without realizing i'm complaining. Also, because I have BPD I can have instability in relationships, I am trying to find a middle ground, not overly trying vs doing nothing. How do I spark up conversations that I want to keep going? To make that person think, wow she seems better. Or for people to think my attitude has changed. People that know me very well know that when people close to me say hurtful things they HURT. But with people outside that close zone I am not that sensitive. How do I become more ''approachable''. I really want to try and have a good stable relationship with all around me. I am able to talk to strangers better than I can talk to those close to me. Go figure!!