What Wise Ones Do
Part Two
The level of someone’s spiritual maturity reveals itself in nothing more clearly than in the ability and willingness – or otherwise – to agree to disagree with others in times of conflict. As Nietzsche put it: ‘You have your way and I have mine. As for the right, correct and only way, it does not exist.’ To my mind, heroes are those who go through their daily lives by following what their inner guidance tells them is right, even though it may not be right for anyone else. And so whenever in future you get involved in a dispute of any kind, remind yourself of the fact that two people can look at exactly the same things and perceive them in totally different ways.
Wise ones know that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences we have behind us and what we have learned from them, than how old we are. They are aware that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. As we move along on our healing journey, it does not take long until we discover that there are many times when it is necessary to forgive ourselves and that is by no means as easy as it sounds. But, as the Buddha pointed out: ‘Conquering our own lower nature is better than winning a thousand battles. That victory is ours to keep in all Eternity and can never be taken from us, not by Angels or demons, Heaven or Hell.’
Wise ones, when reflecting on the lessons they too in past lifetimes must have battled their way through, realise that it is necessary to find forgiveness and compassion, love and affection for themselves just as much as for anybody else. As difficult as this can be at times, it is necessary and so they heed the advice of Alexander the Great: ‘Nothing is impossible for those who are willing to try.’ And when it comes to forgiving others for their trespasses, wise ones bear in mind Katie Curran Taylor words: ‘You cannot change the way someone else feels if their mind is set or their past has too much of a hold on them. Until they themselves want to change, you have to let them be. Be brave, gentle and set yourself free.’
They comfort themselves with the knowledge that, as Elisabeth Kübler-Ross points out: ‘The most beautiful people are those who through experiencing defeat, suffering, struggle and loss have found their way out of the depths of depression. Through this they have gained an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness and a deep loving concern for all life. Such gifts do not just happen, they can only grow inside us.’ In any case, the happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything. They are happier than others because they realise that life is a precious gift and their contentment grows from the ability of making the most of everything the Universe places before them.
Wise ones in general have more happiness in their lives than others because they bear in mind that things can all too easily be said and done that bring heartache and pain to others and themselves, not only for the rest of this lifetime but also beyond. They know that we earthlings are responsible for every thought, word and action, irrespective of the way we feel at any given moment, and that whatever we send out into the world unerringly finds its way back to us. These wise ones consciously guard their attitudes and thinking, feeling and behaviour patterns, so that they cannot control and run their lives for them.
And at all times they carefully watch what they think, say and do because they share the Buddha’s opinion: ‘Words have the power to destroy and heal, and words that are true and kind can improve our world.’ Lao Tzu added to this: ‘Kindness in words creates confidence. In thinking it brings profoundness and in giving love.’ Appreciating that we are all together on the Earth to help each other, wise ones are happy to follow the Dalai Lama’s suggestion of: ‘If you can, help others. If you cannot do that, at least do not harm them.’
Wise ones never overlook that credentials on a wall on its own never did make anyone into a good human being. Aware of what a long time it takes to become the person we would like to be, and that this is the case for all human souls on the Earth plane, they never allow anything to stop their progress of working on themselves. And when they look back from the evolutionary point they have reached by now, it dawns on them that the people who once treated them badly were in truth their best teachers, as they were the ones who taught them how they did not wish to be. And so they do not forget to give thanks to the great wisdom of the Universe for providing them with the gift of such excellent teachers.
Once in a while, when something or someone has upset them, even wise ones cannot help getting angry. Knowing that being wise never stopped anyone from feeling that way and that it is their good right to feel angry, just the same as everybody else. What makes a wise one stand out from less highly evolved souls is their awareness that this does not give anyone the right for being violent and cruel. That’s why they look for a creative and constructive outlet for their anger, for example through letting off steam by writing an angry article, letter or poem – to themselves. Such documents are not meant to be kept but destroyed, ideally by incineration in a quiet spot in the open air, where the anger can be blown away by the wind and go up to the Heavens with the smoke.
Truly wise ones go one step further by asking the Air elementals to carry their negative feelings, together with every last shred of the hatred, aggression and anger that has accumulated down the ages on the Earth plane, into the temple of healing in the heart of the Highest Star and the brightest Light, the Christ Star, to be uplifted and transmuted into blessing, healing and harmonising energies for all life.
Another good way of getting things off their chest for wise ones is a spot of flow-writing by jotting down whatever comes into their mind. Aware that getting angry is not some kind of a shortcoming on their part, but an ordinary aspect of everyone’s character make-up, they refuse to blame their parents or other ancestors for any of their negative characteristics. They realise that each one of us alone is responsible for who and what we presently are, and that only to a certain extent our background and circumstances have influenced our development. All human beings on the Earth plane at any given time have developed the majority of their traits, good and bad ones alike, in previous lifetimes. We ourselves have brought them with us into this one.
All of that does not stop wise ones from appreciating the love of families and friends as the most precious gift life can bestow upon any one of us. Painfully aware of the temporary nature of all human existence, they realise that each occasion could be the last time for seeing someone. That’s why they never forget to leave one of them without some kind and loving words.
A birth certificate shows that we were born.
A death certificate reveals when someone has died.
Pictures are proof that we have existed in earthly life.
But only the footprints in the hearts of those we leave behind
verify how much we conducted our life in keeping
With God’s laws and our true nature –
And that is love.
Knowing all these things can help every aspiring wise ones to become more tolerant and loving towards everybody.
Recommended Reading:
· ‘Varying Perceptions Of Life – Why?’
· ‘We Are Our Own Ancestors And Descendants’
· ‘Our Afflictions Are Not Ancestral Curses’
· ‘Family Energies’
· ‘Forgiveness Grows From Understanding’
· ‘The Art Of Forgiveness’
From
‘Words & Prayers For Friendship Healing’
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