I have been struggling very badly with feeling insecure about my appearance lately. I know a lot of people struggle with insecurity, and I'm high school age so it's especially common but I've had a lot of problems with jaw deformities that affect my facial appearance pretty badly. I am going to get surgery for it soon hopefully but I feel like I've wasted a lot of my youth being ugly. I haven't dated anyone and high school's almost out and I feel like I'm socially behind because of it. I hate feeling like it's too late for me and even if I end up fixing my face it won't matter because I'm past my prime. It seems too late to fix anything for it to matter, that I won't ever get back my youth and will just live a boring life afterwards. I can't stand having had an ugly face throughout most of my prime years and it makes me think of giving up entirely instead of going through even more disappointment. Does anyone have any advice to get over this?
Practical Advice Help with moving past fears and anxieties
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The only way I know for sure to feel good about yourself is to do affirmations. They really work if they are done every day for a long time. It is a process of changing your mind about yourself. Affirmations
It is hard and I wont lie, but one lucky thing guys have (I am assuming you are a guy by your username. Sorry if i am wrong) is that women are a lot less into looks in general. Men are way more into looks than women in general which is lucky for us. I am by far not stud in any department... But if you can have a conversation and tell a joke or 2 you will be fine. Try, if you can, to not even worry about it. The worrying itself will be the main thing that will not be attractive.
I have seen guys with big deformities and missing limbs have no issues at all. Thankfully women like a good personality in most cases... No matter what the media tell you.
I hope this helps. It is a hard question to answer because confidence comes from trying and that is hard when you feel how you have described yourself
I just think if you really knew how women generally are you would see that they are a lot less shallow than us guys are.
I have seen guys with big deformities and missing limbs have no issues at all. Thankfully women like a good personality in most cases... No matter what the media tell you.
I hope this helps. It is a hard question to answer because confidence comes from trying and that is hard when you feel how you have described yourself
I just think if you really knew how women generally are you would see that they are a lot less shallow than us guys are.
Sorry that you're going through this.
CBT might be good for you. There's evidence that you can get help from learning about CBT from a book. This book is one of the most highly recommended CBT books for depression:
Mind Over Mood, Second Edition: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think
Dennis Greenberger, Christine A. Padesky
I think it's possible for you to have an inner change that dramatically improves the way you see things.
I hope something can help.
CBT might be good for you. There's evidence that you can get help from learning about CBT from a book. This book is one of the most highly recommended CBT books for depression:
Mind Over Mood, Second Edition: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think
Dennis Greenberger, Christine A. Padesky
I think it's possible for you to have an inner change that dramatically improves the way you see things.
I hope something can help.