How Are You Feeling Right Now?

[AvidFan]

Came home and took some time out safely in bed. Finally feel out of that heightened state of panic. Trying to be gentle with myself the rest of the day.
This time of year is A LOT!

Go easy on yourself. This time of year certainly is! Take care

 

[AvidFan]

Relaxed but excited.

 

[Searchingforhope]

I've been feeling extremely sad and lonely and I kept thinking that being single had a lot to do with that, but now I think maybe it's not my life that's the problem, maybe it's my perception of everything. But how do I change it? How do I accept things for what they are?

Oh, what a question.
My huge desire for life is that I can learn to be happy enough in myself that I can enjoy time on my own. I’m not convinced I’ll ever get there.

 

[DowntheRabbitHole]

Irritated, beyond Irritated. About to lose my cool with my son.

 

[SillyOldBear]

In pain, tired of it

 

[KM76710]

Feeling a little low. My Dads funeral is next week and I’m finding it difficult to accept that he is no longer here with me. I look back at photos and it feels like he is there. Just need to put this out there. I miss my Dad.

Sad to hear of the loss of your dad in this tough time.

 

[cymbele]

The house is empty and quiet after a happy Christmas party for the kids. I am touched by @Aurelia ’s post about being single. I myself thought it would be better by now but it seems hopeless for me to find someone special. I’m sure I am better off without my ex husband but I miss having someone special and a family.

 

[DowntheRabbitHole]

Emotionally all over the place. Like crazily going from crying laughing to deadly depressed to serene in half a second and then continuing to cycle through that on repeat. Not sure what's triggering this in such fierce amounts. Hope it ends soon.

 

[MisterBGone]

The house is empty and quiet after a happy Christmas party for the kids. I am touched by @Aurelia ’s post about being single. I myself thought it would be better by now but it seems hopeless for me to find someone special. I’m sure I am better off without my ex husband but I miss having someone special and a family.

I'm sorry to learn of this relatively new experience cymbele. I don't know that I have much positive, or optimistic to add, given that I've never truly, actually experienced that which you've now more suddenly lost in life. But, as a single man who's never really ever had anybody, when it comes to Chirstmas's & being with my immediate, or even extended family. Largely because of distance, among other factors such as work schedules, or what not. I don't believe I've had more than a small handful (easily counted on one hand) wherre I have not been all by myself on the big day. Sometimes I've had a cat. As for whether or not it gets better, I guess that may tend to depend on whether or not your life does. So for me, it's largely either always just, "stayed the same" or gotten occasionally worse, as I said, if things were otherwise crumbling all-around me regardless of Holiday time, or not. So that has been my experience with it: & I would argue that it is not a whole lot better feeling to have not known what I now have lost. Maybe I'm wrong, but I'd kill to know the feeling... "to have been loved," not saying it would be desirable. I guess I'm suggesting 'preferrable,' how ever to this more . . . without feeling, feeling that then does tend to accompany the Holidays (the food has lost it's flavor, & the smells; their scent...). There is no joy, there is no smiling - not much to smile about, others happiness, I guess~ ?* Sorry, the reason this is taking so long, I think, is in part, I can't seem to get out, whatever it is that I am trying to say. And I feel, or I fear that I have strayed or deviated just a bit too far, from the original "narrative," if we can call it that. Or main idea, and theme. Anyway, reminder that is a sample-size of "One!" And yours (& the prospects therein) sounds/or sound a whole lot more hopeful to me, than do mine, or how I have been. So no where to go, but up - really - & just try to avoid those Holidays where there is devastation suddenly present. As those can be unsavory, to say the least. . . ; ) Not that we've always got a whole lot of control over it, mind you~ (^:

 

[MisterBGone]

Now I should say... it hasn't always been - all, "doom & gloom!" One thing I forgot to mention is that, or how what kind of a job (if any at all, that is) you are working can have a significant impact on your health when it comes to the Holidays & such things. So, for instance, if I was working a job that I loved, or even if I didn't, but I was incredibly happy & ecstatic to be there, whether it be the co-workers & the staff, or those that we were offering care to (say in Adult Foster Care, or whatever) then that would be enough to propel me forward & to, or through this "abyss." The egg nog tastes spectacular; or magnificent, as they say! ;D Hopefully that makes sense? @cymbele : ) // I'm remembering in particular, as recently as '12, was it? But I think that that Christmas was unreal/outstanding/off of the charts, in terms of all of this & more! ;^)

p. s.) I swear, you'll think that "Last Christmas," song is the best song you've ever heard in your life!!!

 

[MisterBGone]

. . . & that's 2012 on the 'Family,' and NOT The job..~ Sorry I couldn't make it any more clear: but I didn't want to waste (or take up) more space, with a second "chunk" of information. . :^)!*

 

[Windhover]

I'm feeling strange, adrift and missing someone who I probably shouldn't

 

[Searchingforhope]

I'm feeling strange, adrift and missing someone who I probably shouldn't

I don’t think there are any shoulds or shouldn’ts in life really. Certainly not when it comes to feelings. We feel what we feel. It’s hard, because it’s not always rational or sensible or even nice!

 

[Searchingforhope]

Emotionally all over the place. Like crazily going from crying laughing to deadly depressed to serene in half a second and then continuing to cycle through that on repeat. Not sure what's triggering this in such fierce amounts. Hope it ends soon.

I Hope it ends soon for you too. That is a dizzying feeling.

 

[Lane]

Completely unable to cope with life. Anxiety higher than ever, struggling to calm my breath.

I'm sorry that you're struggling so much. Life can be so hard. I'm glad that you're here with us @Searchingforhope.

 

[Lane]

I've been feeling extremely sad and lonely and I kept thinking that being single had a lot to do with that, but now I think maybe it's not my life that's the problem, maybe it's my perception of everything. But how do I change it? How do I accept things for what they are?

@Aurelia. Sorry to hear how sad and lonely you've been feeling lately. Perhaps focus on your own strength to get you through any issues. think that's what has helped get me through my own life's difficulties.

 

[Lane]

Working as hard as I can

That is all we can do, I feel @Bergerac, is do our best.

 

[Bergerac]

That is all we can do, I feel @Bergerac, is do our best.

Absolutely. The pressure I've piled upon myself isn't right.
How are you, @Lane ?

 

[Lane]

Absolutely. The pressure I've piled upon myself isn't right.
How are you, @Lane ?

I hope you can be a bit easier on yourself. I'm doing ok, thanks. There's a bit of holiday stress going on but I hope to get that in order ☺️.

 

[Bergerac]

I hope you can be a bit easier on yourself. I'm doing ok, thanks. There's a bit of holiday stress going on but I hope to get that in order ☺️.

Yes, it's a stressful time of year. I must admit, I'll be glad when it's all over.