How Are You Feeling Right Now?

[Inanimate]

Lazy and uninterested in life. I struggle to decide how to deal with things, so I decide to deal with them later even though I never do. In turn, those things become more challenging to deal with and conditions become more depressing to live in.

I seem to be in a perpetual state of giving up. I dare not take the irrevocable step of doing something about my miserable life because once I do, I’ll have to commit in order to make it better. I don’t take commitment lightly, so I rarely commit to anything. It’s easier to just concede that life is and will always be shit regardless of whether or not I commit to masking the stench.

 

[TragicReality]

I'm feeling hopeful that it's a nice and relaxed Christmas day with 3 of my 4 children coming over and that my son keeps his snarky comments to himself, he's 29. His father had that sense of humor, or has, I don't really know anymore, that pokes fun at people, as his father does too, so I think my son gets it from them, but it comes off as mean....like poking fun at my cooking, the way I dress, my past, anything, you name it. I said I'd drink some wine as a crutch. Then I give each of them cash for Christmas and he gets mad. We argue, thank God I'm on my meds otherwise I'd probably go off on him, ha. How does one handle difficult relatives or loved ones?

I wish I knew how to handle it, it sounds like he's like my older son. Christmas wasn't great with him, I wanted it to go well. But I also don't blame him for getting upset, it's upset directed at the younger, and it's reasonable for him to be. It just went too far. I gave my older something expensive that would be useful to him, and he started with ''I wish you didn't do this without asking''... it felt not good. I've also given him cash and he was upset about it. I think sometimes we just can't always get along or understand what they are thinking.

 

[AvidFan]

Bit pissed off. Settled down to watch a light hearted Christmas Special, no dark subjects welcome at this time of year, turns out they centred the storyline around a bit of a miserable topic, et's just say a version of the Big C that runs in my family so I know that messaging about such things is important, but I didn't find it funny and didn't really want to hear about it, there is a time and place, and I don't understand why they have to ruin everything with their serious messaging these days. We get it, life can suck, bad things happen, but please not in a Christmas comedy.

Add to that, as soon as I switched it off, the bird started cutting through my white noise. Apparently it's noise habituation - my brain is doing such a good job of tuning out the white noise that it's started picking up the bird tweeting and zooming in on it again, so I've had to turn up the white noise, and basically in my own living room have to play sound so loud through the big speakers, that I can't hear music through my laptop speakers, just for a bit of peace from a neighbour's pet. Any sane neighbours would likely attempt to do something about it if they heard me yelling about it through the wall, it's impossible they can't have heard, I can hear their bird all fucking day unless I take extreme measures.

And thus ended my supposedly relaxing Boxing Day.

 

[Lane]

Mervous that my daughter was accousted at a work holiday party and now they're calling a meeting title with my daughter's name. The man is very wealthy l, with body guards and polo ponies, which I didn't even know was a thing, the whole situation hasu stomach in knots, we met at a a nice bar and discussed it, but my stomach is still in knots.

 

[1964dodge]

Sad and sick.

i'm sory that you feel sad and sick @Angie i hope you feel better soon

mike....

 

[1964dodge]

This was almost the worst Christmas day I've had. I'm not sure if I'll be able to sleep. I hope things change in 2025

 

[Lane]

I wish I knew how to handle it, it sounds like he's like my older son. Christmas wasn't great with him, I wanted it to go well. But I also don't blame him for getting upset, it's upset directed at the younger, and it's reasonable for him to be. It just went too far. I gave my older something expensive that would be useful to him, and he started with ''I wish you didn't do this without asking''... it felt not good. I've also given him cash and he was upset about it. I think sometimes we just can't always get along or understand what they are thinking.

You hit the nail on the head, it's how they are thinking, and we can't be responsible. I also think it's not having another person in our corner, to back us up. Married couples have a united front.

 

[1964dodge]

Mervous that my daughter was accousted at a work holiday party and now they're calling a meeting title with my daughter's name. The man is very wealthy l, with body guards and polo ponies, which I didn't even know was a thing, the whole situation hasu stomach in knots, we met at a a nice bar and discussed it, but my stomach is still in knots.

 

[1964dodge]

Lazy and uninterested in life. I struggle to decide how to deal with things, so I decide to deal with them later even though I never do. In turn, those things become more challenging to deal with and conditions become more depressing to live in.

I seem to be in a perpetual state of giving up. I dare not take the irrevocable step of doing something about my miserable life because once I do, I’ll have to commit in order to make it better. I don’t take commitment lightly, so I rarely commit to anything. It’s easier to just concede that life is and will always be shit regardless of whether or not I commit to masking the stench.

life can suck from birth till death, but it doesn't have to. i had a good childhood but had setbacks in my adult life and my remaining years will be filled with chronic pain and illness, but i had and still have positive things in my life. i'm not saying you will have a great life but i can and will say it's possible of having a better life if you keep trying.

mike....

 

[1964dodge]

I wish I knew how to handle it, it sounds like he's like my older son. Christmas wasn't great with him, I wanted it to go well. But I also don't blame him for getting upset, it's upset directed at the younger, and it's reasonable for him to be. It just went too far. I gave my older something expensive that would be useful to him, and he started with ''I wish you didn't do this without asking''... it felt not good. I've also given him cash and he was upset about it. I think sometimes we just can't always get along or understand what they are thinking.

wow i'm sorry but i was raised a bit different and my kids and grandkids are the same. we are grateful for any gift we get and if we like it or not we appreciate the thought and the fact that they tried and we thank the person that gave the gift and say we like it. i'm not putting him down but he should show you more respect and gratitude. just my opinioin. i hope he learns how good a person you are someday

mike....

 

[1964dodge]

i'm actually doing well. pain level is 4 which is great for me. christmas was a little complicated but we worked it out so everyone could meet. i ordered my wife a power lift recliner with heat and massage, it came in a heavy box . my son and son in law put the chair kit together lol. i got a 75 inch uhd tv. it omes with 2 tiny legs so i got a table stand for it and my son put that together. i should thank my cat as much as my wife because if he didn't break my 55 inch tv i wouldn't get this one lol.

i have a great wife and 3 wonderful children and we all help each other. i also have all my friends here on SF so between family and friend and the little things i do here i am very fulfilled, how am i ? happy

mike....

 

[Windhover]

I'm relieved as f*** to be over the sickness and back to whatever spectrum of normality is for me. I have some obstacles to deal with but at least right now I'm feeling alright. Christmas eve and Day were really nice, though compleetely different than the experiences I thought I'd be having. Life rolls on for now. I even got my run in this afternoon just before the rain came back.

 

[ClassicsFan]

Disgusted.

 

[Windhover]

Mervous that my daughter was accousted at a work holiday party and now they're calling a meeting title with my daughter's name. The man is very wealthy l, with body guards and polo ponies, which I didn't even know was a thing, the whole situation hasu stomach in knots, we met at a a nice bar and discussed it, but my stomach is still in knots.

That's extremely unfortunate, I'm sorry Lane. Hope she can get fair treatment from those in power, in both the legal and emotional ways.

 

[HappyKitty]

my neighbour is noisy and my heart is full of love and support. meep😸🐬

 

[HappyKitty]

christmas was fun with vouchers gifts and souveniers gift which my cousin just return from her honeymoon from Japan and I had a great me time spending vouchers during christmas and hang with my cousin next day then being lazy Fri & Sat, im hoping my cousin can help do some spring cleaning on Sun before NYE. so much funness in upgrading every year even just little bit cause no ones staying younger. 😸

i hope ya'll had great Christmas. my aunts invited me for night walk this weekend but nvm it was a 2 hr walk. i usually just do anti-gravity exercises so if its cycling/swim/or short walk/ bring kitties to the park... im in..😸✨

 

[ClassicsFan]

Great.

 

[Lane]

I feel anxious, worried. I get my emotions from my children at times. My daughter, 21, was fired from her job on grounds that she didn't meet job requirements and for acting inappropriatly at the Holiday party (she got drunk) and this is the other side of the story.

She was upset about losing the job but I don't see where she's feeling any remorse for her actions and this concerns me. I feel like it's my responsibility to have a talk with her. I just want this to all blow over, I know life has it's ups & downs but it doesn't make it any easier. I think it may be a pattern for her, she was banned from her Yoga studio, had a falling out with her former boss and can't go to her previous place of employment, now this. Questioning my ability as a parent.

 

[ClassicsFan]

Afraid.

 

[TragicReality]

unloved, unwanted, useless, alone
Just got settled in apartment, all utilities and paid up till end of feb. now landlord evicting me because of my son breaking window, shouting, figth with his brother on christmas
i'm empty
younger son crying to me, text, call, please help me.. i can do nothing he's not allowed here and i cant handle him, he pushed me already a bit on top of stairs
i cant even help myself anymore
i've no where to go
no one i care about is answering me irl.