How Are You Feeling Right Now?

[Lady Wolfshead]

A bit rubbish. Someone asked a question about something related to work on Reddit. I was busy but took the time to answer the question in a couple of sentences. Nobody else replied. Then a day later someone came along calling me a "jerk" for not taking into account the OP's anxiety in the way I answered the question. (It was basically "this is normal, happens all the time, don't worry"). No different to how I post on here. I pointed out that in 24 hours I was the only person to answer the question and started getting downvoted into oblivion for some reason. Makes me think twice about helping out in future and I said as much. Now I have to avoid reddit for a bit because I don't go on there for arguments, just a bit of banter or to help people. Like my remote version of the water cooler chat. Some "jerk" always has to come along and spoil things. I reported them for harassment but feel bad about it now.

Sorry this happened. You are awesome.

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

Tired but struggling to sleep and feeling restless. My Dad passed away on Tuesday, I was by his side, along with my sister and daughters, right to the end. The last few days have felt so completely distorted and I can’t keep track of time or what happened when. The one thing I wanted more than anything was that he was not on his own when he passed. We were all there for him, so he was not alone, and that does bring me comfort. I hope that he took that love with him as he passed over. I miss him so much.

So sorry. I lost my dad 20+ years ago and it still hurts. Be very kind to yourself and don't worry about when anyone else thinks you should be recovered from this loss. It's excellent that you were there with him.

 

[KM76710]

A bit rubbish. Someone asked a question about something related to work on Reddit. I was busy but took the time to answer the question in a couple of sentences. Nobody else replied. Then a day later someone came along calling me a "jerk" for not taking into account the OP's anxiety in the way I answered the question. (It was basically "this is normal, happens all the time, don't worry"). No different to how I post on here. I pointed out that in 24 hours I was the only person to answer the question and started getting downvoted into oblivion for some reason. Makes me think twice about helping out in future and I said as much. Now I have to avoid reddit for a bit because I don't go on there for arguments, just a bit of banter or to help people. Like my remote version of the water cooler chat. Some "jerk" always has to come along and spoil things. I reported them for harassment but feel bad about it now.

You should not feel bad about reporting them. That is how they behaved to deserve it. I imagine they would report me for the type of reply. Something to do with them sucking my ass. I would have given you were much more better in how you handled things.

 

[KM76710]

I made a mistake posting before....I feel really bad right now.

No need to feel bad posting here. You are among people that care about you and want the best for you. Just post, vent away here or elsewhere, we are here to listen.

 

[SillyOldBear]

Tired but struggling to sleep and feeling restless. My Dad passed away on Tuesday, I was by his side, along with my sister and daughters, right to the end. The last few days have felt so completely distorted and I can’t keep track of time or what happened when. The one thing I wanted more than anything was that he was not on his own when he passed. We were all there for him, so he was not alone, and that does bring me comfort. I hope that he took that love with him as he passed over. I miss him so much.

So sorry to hear of your dad's death. However, I am glad that you were able to be at his side. And the rest of the family too. I am sure it brought him comfort as well, having family there. Both of my parents died alone. I will never forgive myself for that.
As you take time to grieve, remember all the good times you shared. No one can ever take those memories from you.

 

[AvidFan]

So sorry to hear of your dad's death. However, I am glad that you were able to be at his side. And the rest of the family too. I am sure it brought him comfort as well, having family there. Both of my parents died alone. I will never forgive myself for that.
As you take time to grieve, remember all the good times you shared. No one can ever take those memories from you.

There's nothing to forgive. Both my parents died alone, we were only able to get there shortly after. I've never felt guilty about it because around the time I was reading a book written by a hospice doctor (preparing myself!) about how some people choose to die alone because they think they're sparing their loved ones - I read tales of people visiting almost 24/7 and then the relative dying while everyone went to the coffee machine for 5 minutes, apparently it's very common and I've heard nurses and doctors in palliative care talk about it as a matter of common knowledge. People make an assumption that everyone wants to die with their family around them, but the amount of people who die when people have stepped out of the room for a minute suggests otherwise. It's a shame that it can upset families when this happens. Dying is a very personal thing for both the person and their family.

I don't know the circumstances of your parent's deaths but I hope you can forgive yourself.

 

[AvidFan]

Woke at 8.30am today. Not so bad, but 2 hours before alarm. It's Friday, got a long stretch between first meeting and last one and messing about with commute, but next week is almost pure remote so I'm looking forward to the weekend then a break from the four-wheeled mobile covid and flu incubator. I feel well enough so my mask strategy must be working!

 

[tearsinmycoffee]

I don't think there's a word for it?

I want to go home but at the same time, I am at home.

 

[MisterBGone]

Tired but struggling to sleep and feeling restless. My Dad passed away on Tuesday, I was by his side, along with my sister and daughters, right to the end. The last few days have felt so completely distorted and I can’t keep track of time or what happened when. The one thing I wanted more than anything was that he was not on his own when he passed. We were all there for him, so he was not alone, and that does bring me comfort. I hope that he took that love with him as he passed over. I miss him so much.

s s s

 

[iloverachel]

Absolutely alone. If I were to go missing there's not one person who would look for me. I just want to die.

We would notice you are missing on here

 

[AvidFan]

Sorry this happened. You are awesome.

Thank you for the vote of confidence! I'm feeling better today. I've gone back on Reddit, I'm just ignoring the alerts about any previous conversations and browsing fresh posts while not replying to anything as yet!

 

[SillyOldBear]

There's nothing to forgive. Both my parents died alone, we were only able to get there shortly after. I've never felt guilty about it because around the time I was reading a book written by a hospice doctor (preparing myself!) about how some people choose to die alone because they think they're sparing their loved ones - I read tales of people visiting almost 24/7 and then the relative dying while everyone went to the coffee machine for 5 minutes, apparently it's very common and I've heard nurses and doctors in palliative care talk about it as a matter of common knowledge. People make an assumption that everyone wants to die with their family around them, but the amount of people who die when people have stepped out of the room for a minute suggests otherwise. It's a shame that it can upset families when this happens. Dying is a very personal thing for both the person and their family.

I don't know the circumstances of your parent's deaths but I hope you can forgive yourself.

TY Avid Fan. This helps.

 

[Searchingforhope]

Feeling just absolutely awful. Don’t know how to make it stop and just don’t feel like I can cope with it anymore. It just feels so pointless.

 

[Lane]

Anxious. I made an error at work and I told the team lead. She said everyone makes mistakes. But the girl who fixes the errors always makes a big fuss and she'll be in on Monday, sigh 😔.

 

[Searchingforhope]

Anxious. I made an error at work and I told the team lead. She said everyone makes mistakes. But the girl who fixes the errors always makes a big fuss and she'll be in on Monday, sigh 😔.

 

[Searchingforhope]

Anxious. I made an error at work and I told the team lead. She said everyone makes mistakes. But the girl who fixes the errors always makes a big fuss and she'll be in on Monday, sigh 😔.

 

[Lane]

Feeling just absolutely awful. Don’t know how to make it stop and just don’t feel like I can cope with it anymore. It just feels so pointless.

I hope you can find a way to feel better @Searchingforhope. Sorry life is so hard for you right now.

 

[Searchingforhope]

I hope you can find a way to feel better @Searchingforhope. Sorry life is so hard for you right now.

Thank you!

sorry for my double posting above, I’m on a train and the connection is very bad.

 

[1964dodge]

Terrible. Not been a great day. My mood has just completely crashed. I think I might just curl up and go to sleep 😢

Can't shake the feeling I've been kicked off my favourite project. So I guess a mix of anxiety and low mood. Maybe I'm just tired.

i hope today is better for you

mike....

 

[1964dodge]

I made a mistake posting before....I feel really bad right now.

i'm sorry that you aren't doing well right now, i hope things get better soon

mike....