Conflicted.
I'm part of an amazing discord server but I'm considering leaving cause I find part of the admin's username offensive even though I shouldn't.
The part in question is an autism joke and I've never found those kind of jokes funny. Honestly, I wish there was a way I could tell them, 'Look, I really love this server, but I don't find the autism joke in your username funny. Please change it so I can have some peace of mind and not have to leave,' without sounding like a complete and total entitled jerk.