How Are You Feeling Right Now?

[Lane]

While I am okay, I also feel I've made a decision about going back. To being a single person I mean. I am better, more peaceful, more myself, when I am away from this person. He's not bad or anything like that but there's just nothing except negative remarks about other people every day and evening. I cannot be listening to this much longer. How do I get out without hurting someone's feelings - is a dreadful feeling. I can intellectualise all I want about this but hard cold fact is he wants confirmation of his attitude of doom and I can't provide that anymore. I am a sunnier person than I used to be. SO i feel dreadful.

I'm glad to hear a lot of your post seabird. Sad to hear about listening to someone be negative though, can be a real downer I suppose. You don't owe him any type of "not hurting his feelings". You can't change someone.

Glad to hear you are moving along on your journey. You will make the decision that's right for you and we will support you friend.

 

[Lane]

4 days into unemployment and I’m already getting nervous. I’m afraid I’m going to have to vent my frustration here at the job market as I am already feeling insecure. I’m in good shape financially but medical insurance and bills are going to take the nest egg away until I qualify for social security In August. Even then I’m going to have to pay for supplemental insurance.

so tomorrow I’m going to start anew and look for jobs. I will try to keep my venting to a minimum but I’m hoping that I won’t go suicidal again. Jobs have a tendency to bring out suicidal thoughts and venting keeps them from being acted on. Please bear with me

S, you need to talk about it and we're here to listen. You have great skills and you're sure to find something soon anyway I hope.

 

[Lane]

I feel awful. I've had a stomach flu since Friday. I will avoid TMI but its been bad.

I have an appointment for some tests tomorrow morning at my doctor's office, and I really don't want to go.

My thoughts have been very sad today, and my nightmares don't help. Its one of those days where I am suicidal simply because I feel bad mentally and physically.

I hope that you feel better soon Angie and any suicidal feelings disappear.

 

[Lane]

I'm feeling a lot of sadness and distress. My friend who was in ICU passed away today. She was a wonderful person. She was in the knit and crochet group I used to facilitate before the pandemic. It was wonderful to watch her teach another person how to crochet. I learned a lot from how she could teach another.

I'm sorry for loss of your friend Chargette.

 

[Bergerac]

Hopeful

 

[Angie]

Overwhelmed. I have so much to do. Basic adulting plus college work. I've been sick the last few days and didn't sleep last night.

 

[SillyOldBear]

While I am okay, I also feel I've made a decision about going back. To being a single person I mean. I am better, more peaceful, more myself, when I am away from this person. He's not bad or anything like that but there's just nothing except negative remarks about other people every day and evening. I cannot be listening to this much longer. How do I get out without hurting someone's feelings - is a dreadful feeling. I can intellectualise all I want about this but hard cold fact is he wants confirmation of his attitude of doom and I can't provide that anymore. I am a sunnier person than I used to be. SO i feel dreadful.

It is really rough being around a negative person all the time. It brings you down and can make you go negative. We all need positivity in our lives. I am sorry he cannot bring this to you. I hope you can find a more positive life by getting away from him.

 

[Auri]

OMG OMG OMG I'm gonna be an aunt!!!!!! By my first cousin, but we grew up together, she's kinda like a sister. I am so SHOCKED, as it wasn't in her plans, she's younger than me, and the first in my circle of friends/close family to have a baby... but I am beyond HAPPY! I didn't expect to be so overjoyed, it's crazy! I can't stop smiling and looking up baby clothes!

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Now I'm a tiny bit sad that we live in different countries...

 

[Auri]

Also, your doctor should never tell you that it's impossible to conceive (unless you lost both your ovaries). It only makes you not protect yourself in case you don't want any babies and that's no good. People with PCOS, endometriosis and other conditions do get pregnant.

 

[Ash600]

Also, your doctor should never tell you that it's impossible to conceive (unless you lost both your ovaries). It only makes you not protect yourself in case you don't want any babies and that's no good. People with PCOS, endometriosis and other conditions do get pregnant.

I find that rather bizarre a doctor telling someone with PCOS that it's impossible to conceive. Difficult yes, but impossible? That's bollocks. I had to do some research into PCOS and pregnancy for a friend of mine and that was over 20 years ago so it's not exactly a newly found discovery. The clinical information is readily accessible ffs. Only thing is though, PCOS can lead to an increase risk of pregnancy related complications (if that is what the person has) so naturally it'll be advisable to be under the care of a medical team that has experience with such conditions.

 

[puffymilk]

Feels like I died in 2018. Sometimes I feel like I don't know who I am anymore.

 

[Livelife]

I feel wonderful.
The weather is heaven, first off, these last days which helps me so I've been outdoors most of the time.
And I've spent 2 of the last 3 days with people and kids and in the country and meeting new people today at an outdoor event I worked and got info on an app that is heavily used (INaturalist) that no one has ever taken the time to help me learn to use it although I've been asking for over a year. And someone I've never met before in this group did that for me today. And gave me other helpful needed info. And I learned a lot about a nature topic I'm interested in.
And had just nice conversations too.
All that put together is energizing me physically and mentally. Not to mention spiritually.
I guess I'm experiencing some joy and I'm grateful. I actually feel human. Had lost touch with what days in a row of it feels like.
Just wanted to share something positive about my life with ya'll.

 

[Livelife]

While I am okay, I also feel I've made a decision about going back. To being a single person I mean. I am better, more peaceful, more myself, when I am away from this person. He's not bad or anything like that but there's just nothing except negative remarks about other people every day and evening. I cannot be listening to this much longer. How do I get out without hurting someone's feelings - is a dreadful feeling. I can intellectualise all I want about this but hard cold fact is he wants confirmation of his attitude of doom and I can't provide that anymore. I am a sunnier person than I used to be. SO i feel dreadful.

 

[Harrow]

Feel like I'm spiralling again to a really bad place and eveything feels like a blur.
Also from stress the knot in my stomach is becoming incredibly painful that it's doubling me over a lot

 

[LumberJack]

… I am better, more peaceful, more myself, when I am away from this person. He's not bad or anything like that but there's just nothing except negative remarks about other people every day and evening. I cannot be listening to this much longer. How do I get out without hurting someone's feelings - is a dreadful feeling. ...

just my thoughts, but it’s laudable that you are so concerned for his feelings. I think we should have respect for how we can influence the feelings of others, I mean that I can’t have a clear conscience if I am going around being a jerk.

Nonetheless, I would also argue that we are ultimately only responsible for your own feelings, and it’s not fair to you that your needs are going unmet, and your difficulties are being aggravated. You mentioned (I think) that you have discussed this with him and he is persisting with the behavior. I don’t want to say what to do; I am not a couples counselor. I do, however, wish I could encourage you to consider your needs are at least as important as his, and that it shouldn’t be your job to suffer for fear of upsetting him. Gosh I hope that doesn’t come across as me being a busybody; and if I am, I apologize in advance.

 

[LumberJack]

Also, your doctor should never tell you that it's impossible to conceive (unless you lost both your ovaries). It only makes you not protect yourself in case you don't want any babies and that's no good. People with PCOS, endometriosis and other conditions do get pregnant.

That’s terrible. I had no idea how badly women are treated in the medical system. I have a close friend who is a female human, and I have heard about her experiences. It’s mind boggling to me that half the population is marginalized just because of their anatomy.

 

[LumberJack]

Feel like I'm spiralling again to a really bad place and eveything feels like a blur.
Also from stress the knot in my stomach is becoming incredibly painful that it's doubling me over a lot

I’m sorry. I know that spiral. I wish I could help. Here’s wishing you that the pain will level off.

 

[From_Venus]

Miserable

I want to get out of the military and Singapore so badly

 

[mosaic hearts]

@Chargette, I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend.

@Angie, I hope you feel better soon!

Loving thoughts & safe {{{hugs}}} to you both!

 

[mosaic hearts]

OMG OMG OMG I'm gonna be an aunt!!!!!! By my first cousin, but we grew up together, she's kinda like a sister. I am so SHOCKED, as it wasn't in her plans, she's younger than me, and the first in my circle of friends/close family to have a baby... but I am beyond HAPPY! I didn't expect to be so overjoyed, it's crazy! I can't stop smiling and looking up baby clothes!

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Now I'm a tiny bit sad that we live in different countries...

Congratulations @Auri! That's great news!