Getting ready for the winter today so not doing any job hunting stuff. A friend came over to help me with chores so I didn't have to do them on Sunday and could play. He stressed that I was a wonderful person and that I should know that others wanted me around. Made me uncomfortable because of my attempts. He is just a good friend - maybe a close best friend. But I sometimes think of ctb occasionally but I don't know why I don't entertain the thoughts besides urges. That's what I'm most scared about unemployment - that the urges will come more urgent and stronger.
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Congrats on deciding to quit smoking! I think that quitting smoking is the most difficult thing I have accomplished in my life. By comparison, the graduate school entrance exams are the second hardest thing I have done. I wish you well, and please reach out if you want to know about my quitting process.
Thanks. Right now, I'm just doing everything I can to ease the cravings. They're absolutely brutal. I'm using patches and lozenges to help. From past experience, every time I've had no choice (i.e., I was in a hospital, rehab, etc), stopping smoking was easier then. But knowing I have the choice at home makes it so much harder.
I know. They are severe, especially in the first week.
I’m guessing that might be mitigated a by the nicotine replacements. I went cold turkey, so I don’t know. I finally quit by using peer support. There was no particular methodology, except for people to share experiences, ask questions and so on. In that group we called the first week off cigarettes “hell week”. The second week is “heck week”. Hope that helps.
I’m guessing that might be mitigated a by the nicotine replacements. I went cold turkey, so I don’t know. I finally quit by using peer support. There was no particular methodology, except for people to share experiences, ask questions and so on. In that group we called the first week off cigarettes “hell week”. The second week is “heck week”. Hope that helps.
This is the worst time of day for me. Except for the few minutes when I wake up. It's 5 pm here where I am and when people are gathering as family or friends for the evening I'm alone. And I get sad. So I end up in bed early and turning on the tv, regardless of whether it's been a full day or not.
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It was the most difficult habit I ever gave up. Even my mother dying of lung cancer didn't stop me. And for some unexplainable reason 15 years ago the physical cravings and desire when emotionally or mentally stressed stopped and so I was able to quit. I can't even stand the smell of it nearby any longer. I hope this happens for you.
My Sister, is like that @Lane . . . (probably even worse!) "Stand up for what's right!" Fight/fight-fignh..
~usually w/mixed results
~usually w/mixed results
Wel, I'm not worried about you @cymbele -in that, or because, you've got what it takes... to deliver the goods! (which not a lot, can always say~)* / maybe a little worried, for you, if that makes (any) sense? Because of how you are feeling so uncertain. But it'd be different if you didn't have any of those skills that employers were, or are generallly looking for & so on/so forth* ( : mrb.
The truth is these past few months, my smoking habit has gotten worse than I remember it ever being. I go for a cigarette every 20-30 minutes. And I feel nothing but fear and shame every time I give into it again. It's become much more than just a nuisance. I have to free myself from it. I can't go on like that. When I was working, I couldn't even manage to wait 3 hours for a smoke break. But today, going on 5 hours now smoke-free. I plan to see it through because I don't want the alternative.
I managed to quit just about in time, probably. I do wonder what my running would be like if I hadn't smoked heavily for the first 15 or so years of my adult life! But what's done is done! I tried to quit loads of times, then one time it just clicked and I stopped and that was it. It was actually different for me than @Aurelia as I kept a pouch of rolling tobacco and papers handy at all times, knowing it was there and my choice not to use it was the key. Then one day I really felt like a smoke, went outside with the pouch and papers, considered rolling up, then threw it in the bin and went back in, and that was it.
It may be helpful, or prove beneficial for you, if you're somehow able to release yourself from the power that-that brings, when you do do that (every time you give in). Because, although it means so much for you to give it up, when you beat yourself up over having "failed," for lack of a better. I think, it just psychologically makes things that much worse (counterintuitive as it seems). For we are then even more apt, or likely, to go ahead & just do it again (later on). For we keep feeling defeated, as we've beaten ourselves down furhter and further. However, I also konw that it is not as simple as that. And that there is a lot more else that is (also) going on - in order to stop doing it. Just thinking this might be one thing you could do, if you can catch yourself, and try to reduce these sometimes overwhelming feelings, with that which may be in somewhat of your control. In spite of otherwise thinking (your), as a result of it being so behavior oritented (or just what you're used to doing: like a 'reflex.') Good luck with this either way/or no matter what!
