first a disclaimer: this thread is not geared for the very young, those still in school or residing with parents, siblings and such. this is for those who have long ago officially passed over into that frightening world of "adulthood." now with that said, there is a question i wish to ask all who can claim that label...if you were to die/pass on/whatever you choose to call it, just how long would it take for anyone to notice your absence from the world? and most especially, how long would it take, realistically, for someone to find your remains? i ask this question not to be morbid, but perhaps provide some small glimmer of hope for the majority who post here. while as a lifelong severe depressive i understand that one can still feel desperately alone in a sea of loved ones, i do recognize that it does indeed make a difference to actually HAVE loved ones. even if they don't understand or accept you, even if you feel ostracized at times, to know that there is at least someone who cares and that for whatever reason your life holds some meaning for another, has to give you Something. now i will answer the question for myself. i live alone, well, with my cat. i have no "friends" in day-to-day life, just literally two or three people who all live thousands of miles away who occasionally keep in touch via email or phone call. i have a part-time job as a retail supervisor, so if i were to miss a day of work without calling in, that would be noticed. most likely my boss would leave a voicemail on my cellphone asking where the &*%$ i was, and after a couple of days of missed work i would probably be notified that i was fired and there was no need to ever come in. no one would be worried about me, thinking anything had happened to me, because i don't have any connections to my co-workers so they know almost nothing about me, nor do they care to know. i am just a robot who gets the job done. outside of work, perhaps after not responding to a couple of emails or phone calls (which come months apart) my overseas "friends" might wonder what had become of me. that would take at minimum two, two and a half months. as for my remains, in my home, i am a renter so occasionally maintenance people show up just to spiff up this overpriced property. that is more than likely when i would be found...probably after about a month, when some fancy light fixture needed changing or new air filters had come in or something like that. then they'd call the local coroner and that would be that...not even a single person on earth to notify. no next of kin. no partner. no nothing. just a nobody who lived and died without any fanfare. all that is to say, if there were anyone in my real life who truly cared about me, who would miss me if i were gone, who would find my body before it rotted, then maybe, just maybe, i would care about living. so, what is your answer?