how should I go about this

[amethystmindset]

So I posted in my story I wanted to include this but felt like maybe this was more suited for this thread I was diagnosed with just regular HIV recently it’s not full blown AIDS yet but I looked up how long someone can live without taking the meds and if I remember correctly it said 8-10 years I’ve opted to not get on the meds for several reasons ONE OF WHICH IS MY MEDICADE ISN'T ACTIVE per the doctors office I called

everyone I know irl has told me that even though I got it I can basically make it dormant in my body/undetectable with the meds but why would I want to do that knowing having it has permanently altered my love life do you think someone is gonna want to be with me if I have HIV? Even if it’s dormant? no! and my sister said why don’t you find like a group for people with HIV and find someone like that and to that I can only say that’s just unbelievably stupid to hear because now I’m confined to a specific group you know? and I already had my eyes on this girl ✨ and now it’s all down the drain because I wanted to go and figure out my sexuality….for those who’d be wondering how I got it no I don't abuse drugs that involve needles shits scary
I smoke pot that’s about it and nicotine

 

[SamB]

The people you have spoken to in real life are correct that the drugs can reduce the amount of the virus in your body to very low levels. Levels such that you will not pass it on to anyone else and can live an almost normal life.
Research and development is still on going and I know that their is still the goal of being able to completely eliminate it and effectively cure it.
There will be some people who don’t want to be with you because of your diagnosis but there will be plenty of people that will still want to be with you. If you manage it with the drugs, then they are safe and you can still live a full life and even have children. There is also the possibility that there will be a complete cure one day.
Have you considered joining a HIV support group or forum and talking directly to some others that have it. They will be able to give you first hand experience of dealing with things and how it will and won’t effect you. At least then you will know what you are really dealing with before you make any decisions.

 

[may71]

everyone I know irl has told me that even though I got it I can basically make it dormant in my body/undetectable with the meds but why would I want to do that

Getting full blown AIDS would be a disaster. Like if you could talk to your future self with AIDS, he would probably tell you to get some form of treatment now that would prevent getting AIDS.

Living with HIV is a struggle on top of the other struggles that you've had. There are probably some sources for help with learning to live with HIV, and I hope you can try to follow that route. I can't guarantee that you'll be happy with the results, but maybe you would be. I hope you can give that path a chance.

I can try to help you get access to medical benefits if you'd like.