Yeah. You've read that right. This is the first time that I am writing about this. I guess this is why I'm depressed. I can't tell everyone the truth and it is killing me. My coworkers always remind me of what I've done and it makes me sick of myself. They don't believe me anymore and I can't blame them. I can't tell my family about this because I am ashamed of myself. So here I am, crying myself to sleep.. thinking how I can survive another day
I am a thief
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Hi there, I am sorry you are in this situation, cannot be nice but we ALL make mistakes. No mistake is worth killing yourself over. Apologise, show remorse if you have some and draw a line under the sand. Sorry your co-workers are giving you a hard time. Do you want to share more about what has happened?
Welcome to SF @Anj
Welcome to SF @Anj
Hi Anj, welcome to the forum but so sorry for the pain that brought u here.
We all make mistakes. The good news is u have admitted it and are facing the truth now so u can change that. And that is what matters now. U are young and can have a really good life. It is so not too late for u! And u won't always be around these judgemental ppl, thank God. Try to get a new job so u don't have to put up with their shit.
Please don't harm yourself. Think about what u want in this life and go for it!
Please get medical help for the depression. It is an illness that can be treated. And at the minimum get help before u give up. Just think what if your life actually turns out good? U have kids and a lover and happy. U never know, stranger things have happened.
You have taken a brave and wise step here and we will never judge u. I hope u keep posting so we can support u. Feel free to PM me anytime. Wishing u all the best and many blessings.
We all make mistakes. The good news is u have admitted it and are facing the truth now so u can change that. And that is what matters now. U are young and can have a really good life. It is so not too late for u! And u won't always be around these judgemental ppl, thank God. Try to get a new job so u don't have to put up with their shit.
Please don't harm yourself. Think about what u want in this life and go for it!
Please get medical help for the depression. It is an illness that can be treated. And at the minimum get help before u give up. Just think what if your life actually turns out good? U have kids and a lover and happy. U never know, stranger things have happened.
You have taken a brave and wise step here and we will never judge u. I hope u keep posting so we can support u. Feel free to PM me anytime. Wishing u all the best and many blessings.
Thank u but please don't worry about offending. We know that sometimes we don't say the right thing for u, even tho we try.
Please tell us what's going on because that way maybe we can help and it will help u to get it out and be able to think of it more logically than it just staying in your head. Don't worry about offending us and I can tell u don't want to do that by your response. Glad to see u back
Please tell us what's going on because that way maybe we can help and it will help u to get it out and be able to think of it more logically than it just staying in your head. Don't worry about offending us and I can tell u don't want to do that by your response. Glad to see u back
Are you a thief though? Really? From reading your post it sounds like maybe you were a thief. Are you still stealing today?
You are not whatever mistakes you have made in your past, no matter how awful they may seem or be: they do not define you and you have the power to not let it control the rest of your life.
Frankly, we are all to some degree a mixture of bad and good. Focus on being the best you that you can be today, and think of how you want to be even better in the future and work towards it.
It sucks when people around remind us of who we were, but the best apology is always changed behaviour I think.
Is it possible to look for a new job, if they make it really unbearable, or do you like it apart from their comments perhaps? There are ways out. If you want to or have to stay in the job, try to even fake it to not let them see it getting to you.
Is HR aware? It's hard to advise in a general way but just know we are here if you want to share anything further, and you have us supporting you to be a better you.
You are not whatever mistakes you have made in your past, no matter how awful they may seem or be: they do not define you and you have the power to not let it control the rest of your life.
Frankly, we are all to some degree a mixture of bad and good. Focus on being the best you that you can be today, and think of how you want to be even better in the future and work towards it.
It sucks when people around remind us of who we were, but the best apology is always changed behaviour I think.
Is it possible to look for a new job, if they make it really unbearable, or do you like it apart from their comments perhaps? There are ways out. If you want to or have to stay in the job, try to even fake it to not let them see it getting to you.
Is HR aware? It's hard to advise in a general way but just know we are here if you want to share anything further, and you have us supporting you to be a better you.
I think just being honest, talking about it, admitting to it and feeling bad about it is a good sign. What you can do now is show others that you've changed. But if you're going to be around people constantly reminding you of it, I don't think it's very healthy since they don't believe in your change. Just be humble, tell them "yes" that you've made that mistake, own up to it, and say you wouldn't do it again. If you're humble and its sincere, they will loose their power because other good people witnessing that will see that you've changed.
If that doesn't help I'd consider moving to another job. Maybe you'll feel like they won but I think its very destructive to be around people always reminding us of our mistakes.
If that doesn't help I'd consider moving to another job. Maybe you'll feel like they won but I think its very destructive to be around people always reminding us of our mistakes.
So I'm curious - what're you stealing? Is this impulsive? Are you stealing because you need things or because you just can't stop doing it or because you want things but don't really need them...? There are so many reasons so it would be helpful to hear more about why you're doing this. If you're stealing food that's different to a lot of people than stealing jewelry. Care to tell us any more about what's going on, specifically?