Practical Advice I found out my ex is dating someone else

[Mysticrose]

I was never attracted to him but for some reason I still feel hurt. I don't understand why I feel this way. I haven't thought about him since we broke up and it's been a year ago.

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

I was never attracted to him but for some reason I still feel hurt. I don't understand why I feel this way. I haven't thought about him since we broke up and it's been a year ago.

I don't know if you have other people in your life who love you? When I was 19-22 I was with someone older who literally helped rescue me from my abusive mother. He loved me and I loved him and we were lovers but I was never very attracted to him in a sexual or romantic way, and we were quite incompatible and he had some major flaws. Leaving him was the best thing I ever did, but he was not a bad person. I met my husband and we have been married many years but I still think about my ex sometimes and wish he were my cousin or something rather than ex lover. So few people in my life have actually loved me. There are few people in this life to form a deep connection with.

So maybe you are just mourning his loss because he loved you and now he's not in your life.

 

[Mysticrose]

I don't have a lot of people in my life who love me. There are a few family members but they're toxic at the same time. Not being with him was the best choice. I wasn't attracted to him sexually, I think we might have been sexually incompatible, and he had some issues. I think that's what I'm grieving about. Someone who loved me but is not in my life anymore.

 

[may71]

It's understandable that this would stir up emotions. It's ok to grieve about this.