I know I should eat...

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by angelicgoddessofdeath, Jul 18, 2013.

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  1. angelicgoddessofdeath

    angelicgoddessofdeath Active Member

    But I'm afraid I'll gain weight. Everytime I go on a diet, at first I start to do really well. But then I cave in and start eating more than I normally do. (I normally eat a small portion once a day)
    And as you guess, I gain all the weight back. I try to eat like a normal person and I get fat from it. (Normal being eat 3 times a day) I give up food and I slowly lose the weight.
    It's hard as it is for me to hate myself for how I look but sometimes the people at work for whatever reason feel the need to comment about my weight. Almost as if they feel like its okay to mention something just because they think I wanted input.
    I didn't ask so why do they feel the need to tell me?
    They say things like, " oh your ass looks a lot tighter. Have you been working out? Because it really shows. " My honest reaction was kicking him in the sorry ass of his and told him to stfu. And just recently, my boss whom I rarely even talk to out of nowhere felt the need to say something too. " You look like you've been losing weight. "
    I don't know they just mind their own business. I never asked for people to judge me. I honestly just want to cry now but big girls don't cry.
    Sorry. As usual I talk to much. I can't ever seem to shut up lol
  2. Sadeyes

    Sadeyes Staff Alumni

    Maintaining a healthy body is a life style change,as you know...so please eat, exercise and ignore the morons
  3. angelicgoddessofdeath

    angelicgoddessofdeath Active Member

    If I eat, I gain weight. And they are not morons. I wouldn't care or bother with them if they were morons.
  4. meaningless-vessel

    meaningless-vessel Well-Known Member

    Regarding the people commenting, there's not a lot that can be done because that is their choice. How you respond is your choice.

    I'm sorry you're struggling with trying to go down the 3 meals a day path. Have you ever considered writing a food diary? As in, your intake, your exercise, and what it does to you? Possibly there's something even in your genetics that does this to you, and armed with a food diary, prospective doctors would need to take that into consideration.

    But also, it's about self-control and sticking to a routine. If you have trouble with routines, try having a rough sketched plan for a week or two.

    Just ideas, you may already have tried them.
  5. Mayflower7

    Mayflower7 Banned Member

    If you are happy with your body ignore them. Sometimes people just say that as a way of interacting with you or to give a nice comment. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell them to stop. It is okay for anyone to cry, releases that built up emotion and does me good. Should you want a life-style change look at sports or exercise you enjoy. Walking really helps and swimming, cut out the unhealthy foods more. Some great diet clubs with added support as well. I am sorry this has upset you, joining a gym if possible could really help.
    Take care
  6. Lux

    Lux Well-Known Member

    No matter where you go, you always get the creeps. If you're happy, then that's all that matters. Hold your head high and wear what you like, and eat what you like. As long as you're healthy, that's all that matters :)
  7. Geworfenheit

    Geworfenheit Member

    Do you happen to know what your BMI is? It's a pretty poor measure of health (champion athletes with single-digit body fat percentages end up being considered "obese" because all it is is a ratio of weight to height), but it's good to have a ballpark.

    Unfortunately, human biology is not very well adapted to the sort of food that is ubiquitous in the modern world. Some people can tolerate modern foods better than others (think people who are lactose-tolerant, when 3/4 of the world is lactose-intolerant, and people who can eat all the junkfood they want without getting fat), and others can't tolerate them very well at all. Regardless of where you fall on that particular scale, though, so long as you feed your body the foods to which it is biologically attuned, you will naturally gravitate towards a healthy weight and physique. In other words, if you eat the right stuff, you will never be hungry for more than you need, and you will never put on unhealthy weight (so long as you maintain reasonable health otherwise).

    What does a typical day of food look like for you?

    As for your coworkers, the one guy was complimenting your ass, and almost certainly flirting with you. Maybe you don't want that kind of attention from him, but don't assume he was passing judgment; clearly he just thought you had a nice ass. It sounds to me like your boss was just concerned for your health, especially if he rarely talks to you otherwise.
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  8. flowers

    flowers Senior Member

    I personally think that uninvited/unsolicited comments about people's body parts or weight is an example of what is wrong with our society. I personally consider ot ti be acceptable..... unless someone is causing physical harm to their body with ano or bul. We are so caught up, as a society on how people look. We go not even care what they are feeling. Or what their deeper substance is as humans.

    I remember many years ago I was not overweight. But the friend of my boyfriend, at the time, told me that my boyfriend wanted me to tone up my body. Because I was used to being treated as an object I didnt say anything. But it didnt help with my body dysmorphia, the shame, the lack of confidence. Funny though that my boyfriend was a teacher of psychology on the college level. He was a lot older than I.

    The goal for me is to become more comfortable with the body I have. To not accept people's unsolocited opinions or comments about my body. Those opinions are theirs. My body is my own business. I can achieve that goal as I work successfully on finding the path to accepting moi. This has nothing to do with calories or bmi. It comes from something much deeper. It comes from true healing. As I can heal, then other things such as food, can be successfully worked on. But the main thing for me is to heal the places in myself where I feel bad about myself. The other food issues will be easier or possible to successfully work on.
  9. angelicgoddessofdeath

    angelicgoddessofdeath Active Member

    I keep a constant log about what I eat and how much I excersise and even how much I weight. Right now I only eat once a day, im constantly moving thanks to my job, and I weight in 112 pounds.
    My bmi is 19.8 but that doesn't mean anything to me. Im ugly no matter how I look at myself. I have been working out (stides, speed walking, push ups, jump rope, crunches, pull ups, curl ups) because running hurts and im too weak to do weight lifting probably because im a fat overweight bitch.
  10. flowers

    flowers Senior Member

    when I had trouble losing weight, my doctor ran tests on my thyroid. both the TSH and T 3 and T 4. It turned out I was hypothyroid. And my cortisol levels were high causing the T3 and T4 to be not okay. I take bioidentical thyroid for the TSH. And I take something else for the cortisol. Maybe you might want to get the thyroid levels checked. But not just the TSH. T3 and 4 are important also because of cortisol. Most doctors do not see that.
  11. angelicgoddessofdeath

    angelicgoddessofdeath Active Member

    First whats a thyroid and second what kind of doctor looks at thyroid and third how does a thyroid has to do with my weight?
  12. flowers

    flowers Senior Member

    I can tell you that when I started taking something for thyroid my weight went down. I was diagnosed with a low functioning thyroid. In addition to that, I was diagnosed with T3 level that was off. I produce too much cortisol ( aka the stress hormone). Its called "low T3 syndrome" when it is present, even though the TSH levels can be normal.

    The thyroid is a gland near the throat. It is part of the hormonal aka endocrine system. People with low functioning thyroid are often tired and cold. And they have trouble losing weight. They may have brittle hair and nails. And also may lose hair easily. Endocrinologists specialize in the thyroid. Because it is part of the endocrine system. But general practioners can also order and read thyroid panels ( the test). Just as long as they know to also test T4 and T3.

    The important thing as far as I am concerned is never self dx or self medicate for this. Because its such an important gland.
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  13. flowers

    flowers Senior Member

    I am not good enough at medical info to say much here. I know that the thyroid is near the throat. And the doctos who specialize are called endocrinologists. I know that there is the TSH test for the basic thyroid, then there are the T3 and T4 tests. Some doctors think that if TSH is normal then T3 cannot be off. But there are specialists who say that TSH can look normal and T3 still be off. Its called low T3 syndrome. I dont know too much more. but your doctor would know. General practioners do know about thyroid. Some symptoms of low TSH and T3 might be tired, and not able to lose weight. Other symptoms might be brittle hair and nails. Even hair that falls out easily. I take prescription medication for it.
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