Ideas & Opinions I really need your help, its a crazy big decision....

[PrincessPure]

Just leave your opinion or advice please, what you would do in such a situation, what you think in general, or even call me stupid for being so easily influenced, unstable, and not having my mind together, ever. Anything is appreciated...

*I am 22 and barely know about what I am interested in (academic wise). I have always made stupid drastic decisions and got myself in trouble. When I was 16, I changed my high school major from Biology to Math (I guess some countries don't have high school majors but we do). I did that all after just 2 days of thinking. Students who study Math in high school can only pursue engineering and majors related to Math in college. So I was eligible to study medicine at first, but now I had to think of pursuing engineering.

*When I was 17, a senior, I decided that I was sick of school, and wanted to be homeschooled. I made the decision after 3 or 4 days of thinking. I f**ked up, that hurt my grades so much and I failed and had to retake some courses.

*When I was retaking courses of high school, a teacher took a look at my results from college entrance exam. He was shocked that I had gotten a 100% on English yet failed Math and Physics. He said I am better set to study languages in college. I said that I am sick of English, because I studied it since I was a kid. He said I can study French or Russian per say. I guess I accepted his words so fast because I was afraid of studying Math again.

*I took the college entrance exam again, this time for foreign languages category. My results arrived so I decided to choose my major (It works that way here. You get your raw score and then choose major). I wanted to choose French, but my family said English was safer. So, boohoo, I accepted that as easily again. I was back to English, something that I knew I was kind of tired of, even if I am not perfect at after all these years.

* Now it's been 3 years. I will graduate this January. And I still hate my B.A major aka "English Translation". Every time I am in class, I wanna scream "I DON'T CARE".

* I like to study abroad with my best friend. We were gonna apply for majoring in English Literature or something similar for our Masters degree. But, isn't it crazy???? I hate that major, why would I do that???? Nowadays, I think I like to study medicine again. Again, isn't it crazy??? I am the girl who switched from Biology to Math in high school. Idk, may be another crazy, sudden decision when I am clearly unstable. But I really like the idea of being a doctor. Tbf, I kind of chickened out when I was in high school. I thought I wasn't smart enough to get into medical school, since the demands are high.

* I live in a collapsed economy, horrible government, cheapest currency in the world, zero future for young people. It is very important for me and my friend to be accepted to study abroad. Preferably Italy. If I risk for applying for medical school, my chance might be lower. Nothing is impossible, but medical school is no joke right??? On the other hand, if I study Masters in a major related to mine, I stand a great chance. I have a decent resume and excellent grades. But.... I really don't like studying English, plus English as a major doesn't offer you the best income. If I risk to become a medical student, I may not have the chance to migrate because it isn't easy to get in. I may be stuck where I live for another year. Now.... I think I don't deserve making decisions, clearly I am not deserving of it. I have messed up many times. What should I do?? What would YOU do???

Sorry If it's a long and boring story...

TLDR; Would you study medicine or masters in a humanities major???

 

[Brit]

Hi, Princess Pure,
You are conveying a very clear message that you do not enjoy studying English, so probably not a good choice. However, since you are still contemplating a masters, why not apply for medical school AND an MA in a related major? See what happens. I suspect you would need excellent grades in chemistry and biology for medicine, which - as you know - is very competitive. I'm not clear if you have them or not, but if not - and you commit to pursuing a career in medicine - why not increase your chances of being accepted by improving your science grades and volunteering/working at a local hospital for a year. At only 22 you have time on your side.
I wish you all the best

 

[PrincessPure]

Hi, Princess Pure,
You are conveying a very clear message that you do not enjoy studying English, so probably not a good choice. However, since you are still contemplating a masters, why not apply for medical school AND an MA in a related major? See what happens. I suspect you would need excellent grades in chemistry and biology for medicine, which - as you know - is very competitive. I'm not clear if you have them or not, but if not - and you commit to pursuing a career in medicine - why not increase your chances of being accepted by improving your science grades and volunteering/working at a local hospital for a year. At only 22 you have time on your side.
I wish you all the best

Hi, thanks for your opinion ♡
Actually, I didn't have biology in high school because as I mentioned we had majors in high school and I chose Math. However, as for Italy's case, seems like GPA will not matter much. You need to pass the entrance exam with high score instead. Although I will also check my high school degree with the embassy to make sure I am eligible.

And for some reason, I can not apply for both. Something which has to do with pre-enrolment procedure on a site, you can only focus on one major... Makes me feel lost.

 

[Brit]

Hi again, Princess Pure,
I've just Googled the English speaking medical schools in Italy, which do seem fabulous. When I was your age I would not have been bold nor brave enough to study abroad - I do admire that! Can you apply to two different schools (on different sites), one for the MA and one for medicine? Yes, I did notice you dropped Biology at 16, but wondered if you picked it up again - the system is different in England. One things certain, if you study in Italy you will learn Italian, such a beautiful language. Despite your indecision, I suspect wonderful things await you x

 

[PrincessPure]

Hi again, Princess Pure,
I've just Googled the English speaking medical schools in Italy, which do seem fabulous. When I was your age I would not have been bold nor brave enough to study abroad - I do admire that! Can you apply to two different schools, one for the MA and one for medicine? Yes, I did notice you dropped Biology at 16, but wasn't sure if you picked it up again - the system is different in England. One things certain, if you study in Italy you will learn Italian, such a beautiful language. Despite your indecision, I suspect wonderful things await you x

Thanks a lot for your opinion <3 I am already learning Italian
I can try 2 different universities, maybe a less prestigious one for Masters. I hope that nothing will get in my way...

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

Hi there. I want to say study what you are passionate about, but it seems that since you have not taken Biology recently, you might not yet know if you enjoy it. But you know you don't really want to study English. It sounds to me like you know that, anyway.

I think you need to dig deep down and maybe talk to some people in different careers. Talk to a doctor about what being a physician is like, day to day, and what med school was like.
You could also see if there are aptitude tests online or talk to a career counsellor.

In the end it's a decision only you can make.

 

[PrincessPure]

Hi there. I want to say study what you are passionate about, but it seems that since you have not taken Biology recently, you might not yet know if you enjoy it. But you know you don't really want to study English. It sounds to me like you know that, anyway.

I think you need to dig deep down and maybe talk to some people in different careers. Talk to a doctor about what being a physician is like, day to day, and what med school was like.
You could also see if there are aptitude tests online or talk to a career counsellor.

In the end it's a decision only you can make.

Thanks a lot, I appreciate it so much lady <3

 

[may71]

I guess the ideal career would be something that you like, something that you're good at, and something that will provide lots of job opportunities and income.

But I really like the idea of being a doctor

What is it about being a doctor that you like?

 

[PrincessPure]

I guess the ideal career would be something that you like, something that you're good at, and something that will provide lots of job opportunities and income.


What is it about being a doctor that you like?

Mostly because of the fact that it may help me be more logical about my hypochondria. And perhaps live a good life with a decent income.

 

[may71]

There may be something medicine-related that you'd like other than being a doctor. I think you can become a biomedical engineer with only an undergraduate degree.

Mostly because of the fact that it may help me be more logical about my hypochondria

I'm not sure it would help with your hypochondria. It might even make it worse.

I'm not sure what medical school is like in your country, but in the US, it's quite brutal. They really try to drive people out of the program. Also, if you don't get a good medical internship, you won't necessarily get a job even if you get a medical degree.

If you're at risk for suicide, something that involves less pressure sounds like a good idea.

 

[Starry Starry Night]

Just leave your opinion or advice please, what you would do in such a situation, what you think in general, or even call me stupid for being so easily influenced, unstable, and not having my mind together, ever. Anything is appreciated...

*I am 22 and barely know about what I am interested in (academic wise). I have always made stupid drastic decisions and got myself in trouble. When I was 16, I changed my high school major from Biology to Math (I guess some countries don't have high school majors but we do). I did that all after just 2 days of thinking. Students who study Math in high school can only pursue engineering and majors related to Math in college. So I was eligible to study medicine at first, but now I had to think of pursuing engineering.

*When I was 17, a senior, I decided that I was sick of school, and wanted to be homeschooled. I made the decision after 3 or 4 days of thinking. I f**ked up, that hurt my grades so much and I failed and had to retake some courses.

*When I was retaking courses of high school, a teacher took a look at my results from college entrance exam. He was shocked that I had gotten a 100% on English yet failed Math and Physics. He said I am better set to study languages in college. I said that I am sick of English, because I studied it since I was a kid. He said I can study French or Russian per say. I guess I accepted his words so fast because I was afraid of studying Math again.

*I took the college entrance exam again, this time for foreign languages category. My results arrived so I decided to choose my major (It works that way here. You get your raw score and then choose major). I wanted to choose French, but my family said English was safer. So, boohoo, I accepted that as easily again. I was back to English, something that I knew I was kind of tired of, even if I am not perfect at after all these years.

* Now it's been 3 years. I will graduate this January. And I still hate my B.A major aka "English Translation". Every time I am in class, I wanna scream "I DON'T CARE".

* I like to study abroad with my best friend. We were gonna apply for majoring in English Literature or something similar for our Masters degree. But, isn't it crazy???? I hate that major, why would I do that???? Nowadays, I think I like to study medicine again. Again, isn't it crazy??? I am the girl who switched from Biology to Math in high school. Idk, may be another crazy, sudden decision when I am clearly unstable. But I really like the idea of being a doctor. Tbf, I kind of chickened out when I was in high school. I thought I wasn't smart enough to get into medical school, since the demands are high.

* I live in a collapsed economy, horrible government, cheapest currency in the world, zero future for young people. It is very important for me and my friend to be accepted to study abroad. Preferably Italy. If I risk for applying for medical school, my chance might be lower. Nothing is impossible, but medical school is no joke right??? On the other hand, if I study Masters in a major related to mine, I stand a great chance. I have a decent resume and excellent grades. But.... I really don't like studying English, plus English as a major doesn't offer you the best income. If I risk to become a medical student, I may not have the chance to migrate because it isn't easy to get in. I may be stuck where I live for another year. Now.... I think I don't deserve making decisions, clearly I am not deserving of it. I have messed up many times. What should I do?? What would YOU do???

Sorry If it's a long and boring story...

TLDR; Would you study medicine or masters in a humanities major???

Princes Pure - First let me congratulate you on all your achievements. I don't believe the brain actually is at its peakest until you're 25. Why not do both? If you're gonna dream, dream big. You are young and very smart. You will never have everything figured out and making mistakes is how we learn. Try to get over to Italy and study medicine while you're there. I'm sure there are some curves up ahead but I believe in you. Focus on what you want for yuor future

 

[PrincessPure]

There may be something medicine-related that you'd like other than being a doctor. I think you can become a biomedical engineer with only an undergraduate degree.


I'm not sure it would help with your hypochondria. It might even make it worse.

I'm not sure what medical school is like in your country, but in the US, it's quite brutal. They really try to drive people out of the program. Also, if you don't get a good medical internship, you won't necessarily get a job even if you get a medical degree.

If you're at risk for suicide, something that involves less pressure sounds like a good idea.

I've never been suicidal, but thanks a lot for the advice ♡

 

[PrincessPure]

Princes Pure - First let me congratulate you on all your achievements. I don't believe the brain actually is at its peakest until you're 25. Why not do both? If you're gonna dream, dream big. You are young and very smart. You will never have everything figured out and making mistakes is how we learn. Try to get over to Italy and study medicine while you're there. I'm sure there are some curves up ahead but I believe in you. Focus on what you want for yuor future

Thanks a lot for your opinion ♡
I don't believe I have achievements hahaha

 

[may71]

I've never been suicidal

Sorry, I made an incorrect assumption.

I think if you're really devoted to going to medical school, it's ok to follow that path. In addition to the stress of going through medical school though, it's also not a guarantee of employment. I know someone who had to wait five years after getting his degree to get an internship. He's technically still a doctor, but he's working as a massage therapist now and has $500,000 in medical school debt to pay off.

Imho, medical school is only for people who really want to become doctors, and who are prepared to face the challenges and the risks. I don't mean to discourage you from doing this if you decide it's right for you, it's just that I think "going for it" is not always the best plan of action.

 

[PrincessPure]

Sorry, I made an incorrect assumption.

I think if you're really devoted to going to medical school, it's ok to follow that path. In addition to the stress of going through medical school though, it's also not a guarantee of employment. I know someone who had to wait five years after getting his degree to get an internship. He's technically still a doctor, but he's working as a massage therapist now and has $500,000 in medical school debt to pay off.

Imho, medical school is only for people who really want to become doctors, and who are prepared to face the challenges and the risks. I don't mean to discourage you from doing this if you decide it's right for you, it's just that I think "going for it" is not always the best plan of action.

I do understand you very well, I made the thread to read objective opinions so I very much appreciate your point of view.
I have always relied so much on intuition to make my decisions. I was young in high school so it was understandable to get overexcited about something and wanting to achieve it right away, but I feel like even now, I am not mature. All these days, I have been thinking of how all the people who used to look down on me would react if I get into medicine and got very excited, tbh it came with a lot of morning anxiety and heart palpitations as well.
To apply for medical school, since it has something to do with "only pre-enrolling for one major" on the university application site, I would blow off my chance to get in one of the most prestigeous universities in Rome offering Masters related to my major, and I know I stand a great chance for getting accepted in that and applying for medicine is a huge risk. However, all the excitement in my head seems to be winning over. I wish there was a way I could calm down and actually think of it.
As for debt though, there perhaps will be no worry. I don't come from a poor or unfortunate background, however since I will be studying abroad, due to the HUGE currency difference, the college will offer me scholarships if I get in, no matter the major. However, getting a job as a doctor will sure be an obstacle, since I will not be a citizen by time I graduate.

 

[DrownedFishOnFire]

Go for your dreams. If you feel the spark for medicine, GO FOR IT. Wondering what ifs later on in your life isnt fun. Im a former pre vet major and do have regrets later on in life for taking the easiest path out of biology/chemistry/math and went for psychology. Just go for it if opportunities is there you will have an easier time knowing you gave it your all. Best of luck 💜💙💚💛🧡❤️🤎

 

[PrincessPure]

Go for your dreams. If you feel the spark for medicine, GO FOR IT. Wondering what ifs later on in your life isnt fun. Im a former pre vet major and do have regrets later on in life for taking the easiest path out of biology/chemistry/math and went for psychology. Just go for it if opportunities is there you will have an easier time knowing you gave it your all. Best of luck 💜💙💚💛🧡❤️🤎

Thanks a lot for the advice ♡

 

[SaFa61947]

My country does not feature this system of majors/minors, here every discipline has the same importance until you are at college. I see that it puts you in a place of frustration having to pre-choose your career, believe or not this was designed to make the decision easier, not more difficult.

I would keep studying English and stick with it since it's somewhat you already chose. It doesn't matter if it was pressure from the family, I'm a person that values sticking to a decision, because being hesitant can make you feel lost.

I am really passionate about Philosophy but when I told it to my family they disapproved: "you're do where this Philosophy? Another teacher in the family?" And even though I love the subject I didn't like much the idea of being a teacher. We have many teachers in the family, and none of them earns a lot of money. So I gave up.

Understand that even though you made the decision under pressure, or influence, the decision was yours, so stick with it. I would not dream about being a physician, even I thought about that for myself a few times, but it's competitive, lots of doctors start early and the profession itself is a lot of pressure and anxiety. Suicide rate is one of the highest.

However, as others have pointed, if you want it deep down, give it at least one good try. It's your life, it's your dream.

I ended up working with computers and I've grown to like it as a profession. And because I kept specializing with it -- even though I do not love it to bits -- now I earn some good cash in a stable job.

This is why I say stand behind the decisions you make, good luck in your choice if you haven't already.

 

[PrincessPure]

My country does not feature this system of majors/minors, here every discipline has the same importance until you are at college. I see that it puts you in a place of frustration having to pre-choose your career, believe or not this was designed to make the decision easier, not more difficult.

I would keep studying English and stick with it since it's somewhat you already chose. It doesn't matter if it was pressure from the family, I'm a person that values sticking to a decision, because being hesitant can make you feel lost.

I am really passionate about Philosophy but when I told it to my family they disapproved: "you're do where this Philosophy? Another teacher in the family?" And even though I love the subject I didn't like much the idea of being a teacher. We have many teachers in the family, and none of them earns a lot of money. So I gave up.

Understand that even though you made the decision under pressure, or influence, the decision was yours, so stick with it. I would not dream about being a physician, even I thought about that for myself a few times, but it's competitive, lots of doctors start early and the profession itself is a lot of pressure and anxiety. Suicide rate is one of the highest.

However, as others have pointed, if you want it deep down, give it at least one good try. It's your life, it's your dream.

I ended up working with computers and I've grown to like it as a profession. And because I kept specializing with it -- even though I do not love it to bits -- now I earn some good cash in a stable job.

This is why I say stand behind the decisions you make, good luck in your choice if you haven't already.

Thanks a lot for your advice. I am still open to hear different opinions from everyone.
But what do you mean about "doctors starting early"?? If you mean the age of them being accepted in medical school, I am pretty sure the average age of students who get into medical school in the USA is 24 which is still 2 years older than me. Although 18 year-olds could get into Italian medical schools, many students change path and pursue medicine in their 20s.

 

[eF577w0mK]

It seems to me that you are really not sure about what you'd really enjoy studying or working on, so studying a different career when you have no idea about whether you'll like it on the long run may be wasted effort. If you have a passion that is really deep, or if you really dislike your career, by all means follow your desires without thinking of the practical difficulties, but otherwise I think it's a matter of doing the best you can on the path you find yourself in, and use that time to clarify what you want and enjoy. You can always go study something else if you want to; there's no time limit.