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I'm 26 and new. Needing recovery partner / friend / community.

#1
Hello. I'm kinda tired now, but I feel like I always need someone to talk to and vent a lot to regulate my emotions and distract myself from surges of anxiety.

(mod edit) For the past week I'm desperate looking for any form of forum where I could find someone I could trust and match my frequency.

I was recovering from kratom addiction. And I'm also trying to get back to society and finding a job. I've been at least secluding myself at home for the last 6 months. I ghosted everyone irl for 3 months now.

I feel kinda embarrassed to introduce myself more and kinda tired to explain my whole lore, maybe I'll do it later. I know this supposed to be a welcome forum but... Yeah... I don't know if I would get anything at this moment if I don't be direct.

I would just say my mental and mood fluctuates lots and I tends to dump my feelings to people I could trust. I don't know if it's a good thing for me or for the people who I talked to, but I think it's the most helpful things I could think about right now.

Anyway, thanks for listening. I still don't know how to chat personally here, but feel free to reply or reach me (well I wish someone would)

Thankyou!!!
 
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Congratsbaby

Well-Known Member
#2
Hello. I'm kinda tired now, but I feel like I always need someone to talk to and vent a lot to regulate my emotions and distract myself from surges of anxiety.

I come from SaSu. For the past week I'm desperate looking for any form of forum where I could find someone I could trust and match my frequency.

I was recovering from kratom addiction. And I'm also trying to get back to society and finding a job. I've been at least secluding myself at home for the last 6 months. I ghosted everyone irl for 3 months now.

I feel kinda embarrassed to introduce myself more and kinda tired to explain my whole lore, maybe I'll do it later. I know this supposed to be a welcome forum but... Yeah... I don't know if I would get anything at this moment if I don't be direct.

I would just say my mental and mood fluctuates lots and I tends to dump my feelings to people I could trust. I don't know if it's a good thing for me or for the people who I talked to, but I think it's the most helpful things I could think about right now.

Anyway, thanks for listening. I still don't know how to chat personally here, but feel free to reply or reach me (well I wish someone would)

Thankyou!!!
Hey , I used to be like that. Maybe a part of me still is , wanting to vent to regulate myself.
It's alright to vent sometimes , people here would offer whatever they can , whenever. Usually posts always receive replies.
I don't wanna discourage you or anything and oh neither I am a therapist. But , I have figured that venting all the time to people , as in making it the sole coping mechanism can be unhealthy for you personally. You're always welcome on SF to vent though , I just mean I hope you heal and learn other ways too.
I am from india and currently a student , a bit background info of me.
 
#3
Hey , I used to be like that. Maybe a part of me still is , wanting to vent to regulate myself.
It's alright to vent sometimes , people here would offer whatever they can , whenever. Usually posts always receive replies.
I don't wanna discourage you or anything and oh neither I am a therapist. But , I have figured that venting all the time to people , as in making it the sole coping mechanism can be unhealthy for you personally. You're always welcome on SF to vent though , I just mean I hope you heal and learn other ways too.
I am from india and currently a student , a bit background info of me.
I just graduate. I've been experienced enough to know when vent becoming toxic. Well I'm hopeful if anyone also at the point where they could understand that as well and manage to mitigate that. I'm hopeful in anyone who already able to recover so I could learn or influenced by their experience. And still having people around who could understand and comfort me on my worse time.

This really sounds like I'm looking for partner.. well in nature it's sounds like it's the nature of partner relationship. But I don't really intend it to be that way, but yk- yeah I feel like it's pointless to talk to people unless I could talk really deeply with them.

I guess that's the kind of thing I always looking for. Maybe most people feel the same.
 

Congratsbaby

Well-Known Member
#4
I just graduate. I've been experienced enough to know when vent becoming toxic. Well I'm hopeful if anyone also at the point where they could understand that as well and manage to mitigate that. I'm hopeful in anyone who already able to recover so I could learn or influenced by their experience. And still having people around who could understand and comfort me on my worse time.

This really sounds like I'm looking for partner.. well in nature it's sounds like it's the nature of partner relationship. But I don't really intend it to be that way, but yk- yeah I feel like it's pointless to talk to people unless I could talk really deeply with them.

I guess that's the kind of thing I always looking for. Maybe most people feel the same.
I see. Mhmm , are you looking for a friend specifically from here?

I like deep connections too. I won't stereotype. I personally think a lot of people need and want deep connections yet their own traumas and other things hold them back.
 
#5
I see. Mhmm , are you looking for a friend specifically from here?

I like deep connections too. I won't stereotype. I personally think a lot of people need and want deep connections yet their own traumas and other things hold them back.
Deep connections is a good way to describe it. Been in a lot of it. Though I feel really cautious about it. It could either heal or worsen trauma.
 

LumberJack

Huggy Bear 🐻
SF Supporter
#12
Sorry I am late to welcome you, but welcome, nonetheless. I am familiar to kratom, although I don’t like the way I felt when I tried it, so I stayed with the cannabis concentrates at the time. I still have seen people recovering from kratom addiction in the recovery (of sobriety) community where I alternate between serving as a volunteer and showing up as just another guy in the interest of giving and getting peer support. I have been clean and sober from my problem substances for 4 years now. I can say that the longer I go without addictive substances in my system, the more thankful I am that I made that decision.

My understanding is that the physical withdrawal phase with kratom is pretty similar to opiate w/d, and like with any drug, the severity of it is going to vary depending on how much you used, how frequently, and for how long. I’ve been through opiate w/d (more than once and some of those were not voluntary!). Given that, I wanted to say ā€œgood for youā€ in deciding to quit your addiction.

I wondered if you might be affected by agoraphobia (fear of being in public or getting too far away from home) based on your mention of self isolation. I have been through that, too. I’m happy to share what I did to get past my agoraphobia if you are interested, but I don’t want to dump a bunch of advice on you without permission.

Actually, I try to be clear that my story is only about what worked and didn’t work for me. You know yourself best and I would prefer that you decide for yourself about your strategy, if any. What I do know, though, is that many people are encouraged just to know that it is possible because others have succeeded, and I include myself in this group. In that sense, I am offering my story in the hope that someone else might be inspired by my story in the same way I was inspired by others’ . I don’t even want to assume that you are experiencing agoraphobia, or that if you are that you’d be interested in working against it. So - just an invitation offered without expectation.

Also just in case you have not already found it, there’s an addiction recovery sub-forum here that may be interesting for you. :)
 
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valerazimov

Well-Known Member
#13
Heya
I am also new, also sorry for welcoming you sooo late, I joined just yesterday... I would like to contact you, I look for recovery friend too to be honest. (mod edit)
 
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