It's been two years since I'm obsessed with a married man.

[MyGirlyGirl]

I don't even see him but I'm very obsessed with him and think about him all day. What should I do?
He's always in my mind. We had no close relationship. I stalk him, have sexual fantasies about him even though I'm not quite straight. I can't stop it. He's 18 years older

 

[MyGirlyGirl]

I know it's wrong but I can't stop it

 

[MyGirlyGirl]

I literally have racing thoughts about him all day

 

[Congratsbaby]

Hi I am pretty young. So what I am going to say , like I understand if you won't take me seriously. But , it's okay. It's alright , feelings don't work that way YK. It just happens , maybe you find him handsome ? Maybe you liked something about him ? It's okay. It's alright.
Yea he's married , as long as you're not acting upon it , it's okay. I understand that you're feeling guilty etc but it's okay. And yea it can be painful and unhealthy especially if you want to actually get into a relationship with him but I think reminding yourself he's married and making a list why it wouldn't work out between you both ( compatability etc ) might help. Take care

 

[may71]

The problem seems to be that he's married, and that you have an unhealthy level of interest.

Do you know why you became obsessed with him? Do you feel like you could develop an attraction to someone else?

 

[capitalism]

It's called limerence. Search it up on youtube, a lot of explanations

 

[Jude]

Two years is a long time. I’m worried that stalking can get you into trouble. Do you know if he’s even worth it? Sometimes I think someone is great, perfect even…then I really get to know them and realize I was wrong. Most times the fantasy is so much better than the actual reality.

 

[Fbr27]

The only thing that I can say is that there are always someone new that you can love.

Don't hurt yourself thinking that he is the only one.