Jim's cafe Apr.24-25, 2021

[JMG]

Hey everyone, thought I'd open the cafe today since it hasn't been opened in a couple days.

1. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad or upset?
2. What is something you like about yourself?
3. Do you like singing?
4. What are some things you feel grateful for?
5. Do you think it's possible that one day we can ever know for sure why everything is the way it is?

Ok I guess I will leave it at 5 questions lol. As always, only answer what you want, or if you just want to talk about how your day is going, what you're thinking about or post pix of some things you like then that's fine too. Hope you have a nice day

Some tags: @1964dodge @Lane @MisterBGone @Autumn1973 @adamjam @Walker @Kira @Road to Nowhere

 

[JMG]

More tags: @KM76710 @SummertimeSadness @HappyKitty @Witty⭐️Sarcasm ⭐️ @Baywasp @Sunspots @Innocent Forever @Champagne

 

[JMG]

@KindaOtiose @pooky @foreverforgotten @sinking_ship @Dante @Auri @Nick @Lux

 

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@JDot @britishbloke @LonelyHiker @Inya @Harrow @StrangeRanger @Livelife @A_J_R

 

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@Ash600 @may71 @Pebble mouse @Kiwi2016 @Blue Star @Bergerac @FFurry @Holding my breath
And anyone else who wants to join (feel free to tag more people if you want)

(Something a bit less feminine lol sorry I love feminine stuff what can I say) :p

 

[JMG]

Ugh sorry thought of a couple more people - @The Tigress ♡ @extraterrestrialone
Ok here's my replies to the q's now

1. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad or upset?
Depends on what it's about somewhat, but flattery/compliments/reassurance about myself as a person are all especially helpful cos I am so full of self-doubt and major insecurity about whether I matter or make much difference to anyone. Sometimes a person telling me a story about something that's happened in their life, especially if it's to do with an important lesson they feel they've learned about something can be very comforting to me as well. And of course when people do a kind gesture, whether that's making something for me (can be anything really) to show they were thinking of me, wow that definitely always means a lot to me for sure.

2. What is something you like about yourself?
That I'm accepting I guess, I dunno lol. Hmm maybe this wasn't a very good q, sorry lol tried to make the q's good though... :p

3. Do you like singing?
Yes, I do, but only alone. I do not sing in front of anyone, ever.

4. What are some things you feel grateful for?
Aside from SF of course, some other things I'm grateful for are: Animals, Star Wars, Mark Hamill, art, nature, books, the few friends I have, good people in general, games and the net.

5. Do you think it's possible that one day we can ever know for sure why everything is the way it is?
I want to believe it's possible but...wow...in terms of thinking it's something that seems very realistic...I guess my answer as of right now is "no" but god I really don't want it to be. It's a wonderful idea that one day it could be possible though

 

[PurpleWolf08]

1. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad or upset?
2. What is something you like about yourself?
3. Do you like singing?
4. What are some things you feel grateful for?
5. Do you think it's possible that one day we can ever know for sure why everything is the way it is?

1. I like to be hugged, held, told everything will be okay. I like it when people "pull" information out of me as to what is going on.

2. This is a difficult question lol Ummm... I guess I would have to say I like how powerful and flexible I am with gymnastics.

3. Not in front of people. But alone, yes.

4. My family, friends, the dog, gymnastics, school

5. In my opinion, because of the religion I am, yes. According to my religion, God controls everything.

 

[Saint Rita]

2. What is something you like about yourself?

This is tough. Something I like about myself is the fact that I'm a good hearted person.

3. Do you like singing?

Yes, but I don't sing a lot these days.

 

[SillyOldBear]

1. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad or upset?
I like hugs. Also curling up in warm bed with favorite teddy bear. And, unfortunately, eating.

2. What is something you like about yourself?
Not much.

3. Do you like singing?
Only when other people do it.

4. What are some things you feel grateful for?
My home and yard. I can look out the window and see green, not just pavement and building.

5. Do you think it's possible that one day we can ever know for sure why everything is the way it is?
Not in this life. Perhaps in heaven. But do we really want to know why everything is the way it is. Or does a bit of mystery enhance life.

 

[HappyKitty]

haiii 😺


1. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad or upset?
I usually navigate and acknowledge what I feel, then see how about I can take care of those difficult emotions and I try to reach out to as much variety of resources as I can for help everyday so I don’t have to coop up alone in my own thoughts or wondering alone when does it ever gets better. I don’t have to end up feeling overwhelmed, like I don’t sugarcoat things.

2. What is something you like about yourself?
I see the best out of people. E.g. I know people can get insensitive and criticised because of my uncommon condition but I don’t wish this unimaginable nightmare happen to anyone. At my age, you’re supposed to be doing so many career progressions and enjoying life, not contesting over how I’m always spending so much time in clinical world.

3. Do you like singing?
Nope.

4. What are some things you feel grateful for?
Anyone who supports me and food. 🐳

5. Do you think it's possible that one day we can ever know for sure why everything is the way it is?
I don’t think too much. I live in the present moment to steadily ease out my anxious mind while I ride this uncertainties.

 

[Dante]

Hey everyone, thought I'd open the cafe today since it hasn't been opened in a couple days.

1. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad or upset?
2. What is something you like about yourself?
3. Do you like singing?
4. What are some things you feel grateful for?
5. Do you think it's possible that one day we can ever know for sure why everything is the way it is?

Ok I guess I will leave it at 5 questions lol. As always, only answer what you want, or if you just want to talk about how your day is going, what you're thinking about or post pix of some things you like then that's fine too. Hope you have a nice day

1) Basic understanding and zero-pressure company mostly.
2) I may have lost a couple of my super-powers, but I have a couple left.
3) Not as far as anyone will ever know for certain.
4) My job, my dad being a safety net, and SF
5) Im not sure what you mean, if you mean society, I thought that was obvious, but if you mean science and the laws of nature, no we will never know, something called Gödel's Incompleteness Theorem states that it is impossible for science to prove or disprove everything, and then he even went and proved the theorem, so the furthest reaches will always only be theory.

 

[A_J_R]

1. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad or upset?
Honestly, I love old TV and movies. Things that I've seen a million times before that I love. Also, I like to be left alone. Sometimes I like to just put on a lot of makeup and a nice dress and feel sort of glamorous. It's silly but it's kind of meditative.

2. What is something you like about yourself?
Hmmm... I find that since I joined this group, my empathy is growing, and I like that aspect a lot.

3. Do you like singing?
I'm literally the worst singer on the planet but I LOVE IT so much. I sing along to music all of the time. I turn it up loud enough so I can't hear myself. haha

4. What are some things you feel grateful for?
I have two pet rats who always make me smile. I have two good friends who check up on my regularly to see that I'm OK. I have a home and a job doing something I love. I'm in decent shape and health.

5. Do you think it's possible that one day we can ever know for sure why everything is the way it is?
The whole reason I'm here is because I did not get answers or closure in a way that I needed, and it's been so painful and confusing I can't seem to think about anything else. I do not think I'll ever know why things played out the way they did, and that's just the way life works but sometimes on a much larger scale. I hate it.

 

[Lane]

Thank you for opening and tagging me @JMG .

1) telling me that I care about you because I usually have no one. At least no one that I share how I feel when I'm down.also I like to feel warm and snuggly in bed.

2) something I like about myself, loyal friend.

3) I like singing, I'm tone deaf tho.

4) grateful that I can pay my bills. That 3 of my four children acknowledge me. That I'm healthy physically.

5) I don't know what the future holds.

 

[Lane]

 

[Auri]

Hi everyone! I hope you're all having a peaceful, beautiful Sunday.

1. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad or upset?
1 minute of real compassion and understanding, then moving on to some nicer topic or activity.

2. What is something you like about yourself?
My willingness to learn forever, stay openminded and always leave some room to be wrong (and change my ways/opinions if I am).

3. Do you like singing?
I do, when I'm alone, but I'm terrible at it.

4. What are some things you feel grateful for?
My incredible friends, the blue sky, food, my bed.

5. Do you think it's possible that one day we can ever know for sure why everything is the way it is?
You can believe you know, sure.

 

[dandelions]

hey @JMG thanks for inviting me and thanks for these Qs. I may be able to answer them and i’m feeling a bit more alive today so good timing! 😊

1. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad or upset? actually, being held tightly and with shared tears of sympathy. sounds kinds weird i guess. but...

2. What is something you like about yourself? that i can and do write poetry.

3. Do you like singing? sure do, unfortunately my crazy inhibition prevents me from doing it.

4. What are some things you feel grateful for? well one in particular is seeing that my earthly destination is in sight and reachable if only for the affirmations moving me that way

5. Do you think it's possible that one day we can ever know for sure why everything is the way it is? i think i’ve almost just completed a poem that explains this. i want to share but since i intend to attempt submitting much of my work to publications in the naive hope that one day i will not be rejected i can’t publish them elsewhere. but i am working on another one specifically intended to post here since i keep claiming to be a poet yet rarely do. still i actually do feel sure i know why everything is the way it is, even if i have no idea of why i am the way i am which surely must be connected to the overall picture. i guess there are some fine points too that need clarification. so i’m working on that. hopefully the first one who figures it out will let us all know to avoid redundancy.

ah, i did it - thanks again JMG. i’m glad to be here. and here is a wish for you and all...
🌞🌞🌞

 

[JMG]

But do we really want to know why everything is the way it is. Or does a bit of mystery enhance life.

Yes, very good point. I definitely consider this to be an extremely important thing to consider carefully. My uncle had a chance to know the secrets of it all & purposely decided to not have it revealed to him. I remember at the time when he told me that (I think I was about 14 or 15 years old) thinking he was kinda insane to not take such a chance, but now I understand better and see the wisdom in keeping the mystery. I would choose the same as him I think, despite my endless curiosity about it. Seems like it'd be unnatural somehow to know the answers to all the mysteries of life. God I sure miss talking with him about all that kind of stuff, oh well least I have my own mind to discuss this kind of stuff with lol :p

5) Im not sure what you mean, if you mean society, I thought that was obvious

Lol! Aw come now ha, "obvious" or not, I do not assume what people's opinions on such matters are, and am far to curious to not ask about it and at least try to get a bit of a discussion going about it. I know not everyone has the energy or desire to contemplate such things so sorry, I try so damn hard to not put overwhelming q's in here since I know most people prefer lighter kinds of things, was running extremely low on ideas for q's though and also really wanted a cafe posted. Sorry if people think it sucks, I tried.

but if you mean science and the laws of nature, no we will never know, something called Gödel's Incompleteness Theorem states that it is impossible for science to prove or disprove everything, and then he even went and proved the theorem, so the furthest reaches will always only be theory.

Yes, this is more what I was referring to. Thanks for the info, haven't heard of that theorem but it sounds very fascinating, when I'm not so pressed for time I will check it out.

Thank you for opening and tagging me @JMG .

hey @JMG thanks for inviting me

Special ty to you both for thanking me So many tags, so little...lol k better not say any more than that don't wanna get in trouble, and yes 'fore anyone jumps in saying anything about this I realize I didn't post the cafe all that long ago so I know more time needs to pass, also realize people have their own stuff going on so believe me when I say I do try to be understanding. Anyway yw for the tags lol :p

 

[Walker]

Way to go opening the cafe @JMG 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

 

[Livelife]

Thank you for opening and the tag @JMG

 

[Lane]

If anyone has a sweet tooth today, here are some pastries for you along with coffee or tea 😊.