Jim's cafe November 16th 2019

[Petal]

Late opening so its just drinks on the house and as I messed up my laptop settings, i can't post links/pics so please feel free to make me a pina colada on the house

What is the best advice you have been given here at SF? Mine that has stayed within me all these years is from @Rockclimbinggirl She said today is a new day with no mistakes in it yet (i think i might have a word or two wrong there). But it has been on my mind every day when I awake.

Do you have go-to people to see if they are doing okay, or just check things in general? For me, I check on the new members to make sure they are not feeling left out of the community.

Come join us @lastlegs @1964dodge @Sunspots @Lotus @JDot @extraterrestrialone @DowntheRabbitHole @Gonz @Kiwi2016 @sinking_ship

Have a fantastic weekend all 🍕🍔🍿🎗🎈

 

[Petal]

@Walker - please add some fancy pics to the bottom of my post thanks x

@Aurelia @Auri @Gonz @Baywasp @Shade. @All These Years @Trapper @Judi B @A guy with feelings

 

[Petal]

@Citizen Insane @Raven @ravens @Leav @ameliaQ @Charlene @Bergerac @DrownedFishOnFire @Nick @AFlower @Fleurise @sassy123

 

[AFlower]

@Petal thanks for the tag
I can’t think right now on proper answers but I brought coffee and a chocolate cake!
I try to check up on people but I’m always terrified I annoy everyone

I hope everything had or will have a wonderful day! *grouphug

 

[Petal]

Omg, I wanna just through the screen and eat that cake @AFlower

Don't feel you're annoying anyone darling, i'm sure checking on people makes them feel cared for

Thanks for bringing the goodies

 

[Walker]

I try to check up on people but I’m always terrified I annoy everyone

I'm sure you've never annoyed anyone in the history of SF. Seriously... Not kidding.

 

[1964dodge]

thank you @Petal for opening the café and inviting me, and now for the questions:

1. the best advice I got from SF is to never give up, and if you fall to get up and fight again. this is advice I try hard to follow and also try to get other members to do it.

2. yes I have some members that I feel very close to. I try to check on them if they appear to not be themselves, and the reverse some people check on me...mike

 

[1964dodge]

@Petal thanks for the tag
I can’t think right now on proper answers but I brought coffee and a chocolate cake! View attachment 28091 View attachment 28092
I try to check up on people but I’m always terrified I annoy everyone

I hope everything had or will have a wonderful day! *grouphug

you can check on me anytime, i'll never be annoyed if you do...mike...

 

[Anne Charlotte]

thanks for the tag @Petal

What is the best advice you have been given here at SF?

to be just me.

Do you have go-to people to see if they are doing okay, or just check things in general?

I have people I follow even when I am not active myself on here. Like @Innocent Forever journal - she always gives me a lot of thoughts to chew and I do and enjoy to follow her thoughts for they feel so familiar to my own thoughts. Then there is @Walker who feels like a brother I always wished to have. And @nobodyknows71 who I would like to know that she initiated a huge change in my life just by reassuring me that I am worthy no matter what. And @1964dodge who I adore for always being here to make everyone feel welcome and heard and many many more. I like to just come here and check how things are going for the most clesest ones. I love SF for it allows me to be just me in my ups and downs. And it stays what it is, a neutral place that welcomes me whenever I need it.

 

[Walker]

who I would like to know that she initiated a huge change in my life just by reassuring me that I am worthy no matter what

That's a good lesson there. You *are* worthwhile. You *are* valuable and meaningful. You're special. You're more than you realize.

there is @Walker who feels like a brother I always wished to have

I got a sister but she isn't as great as you are. Thank you

And it stays what it is, a neutral place that welcomes me whenever I need it.

❤️❤️

 

[Shade.]

Thanks Petal for remembering me

 

[Anne Charlotte]

I got a sister but she isn't as great as you are. Thank you

And I have a brother who isnt as great as you are. So welcome to my inner family.

 

[Walker]

And I have a brother who isnt as great as you are. So welcome to my inner family.

Let's trade them!

 

[Walker]

Heya @Shade. That avatar reminds me how much I love trees every time I see it. Thanks for picking something so great for us to look at.

 

[1964dodge]

thanks for the tag @Petal

to be just me.


I have people I follow even when I am not active myself on here. Like @Innocent Forever journal - she always gives me a lot of thoughts to chew and I do and enjoy to follow her thoughts for they feel so familiar to my own thoughts. Then there is @Walker who feels like a brother I always wished to have. And @nobodyknows71 who I would like to know that she initiated a huge change in my life just by reassuring me that I am worthy no matter what. And @1964dodge who I adore for always being here to make everyone feel welcome and heard and many many more. I like to just come here and check how things are going for the most clesest ones. I love SF for it allows me to be just me in my ups and downs. And it stays what it is, a neutral place that welcomes me whenever I need it.

that was elegantly put. and is what this forum is here for, and don't forget you, for the people that you help..mike...

 

[Petal]

Thanks Petal for remembering me

That is no problem at all, I hope you are settling in here nicely now, we all look out for each other here and that includes newbies, I hope you are doing better

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

It's hard to say, I get great advice here all the time. I guess mostly that things can get better and I'm not a bad person, that has really helped me.

There are people here I am closer to than others, but I tend to check on anyone who is not doing so well and make sure they are ok.

 

[Nick]

Ohhh ... the cafe is open. My tags seem to be lost in space today (like my mind).

What is the best advice you have been given here at SF?
This person probably doesn't even remember giving this advice, it was a long time ago, but it's stuck with me:
You can't change the past, you can't predict the future, the only thing you can do is live today.
I'm not so good at remembering that in the moments I need it most, but there's a lot of truth going on there.

Do you have go-to people to see if they are doing okay, or just check things in general?
I have people I check in on. New people, people who have been around awhile, people I know are struggling, people who've gone quiet. The list is always changing.

 

[nobodyknows71]

I am worthy no matter what.

I’m glad you’ve finally realised what we’ve known all along
S x

 

[dandelions]

Late opening so its just drinks on the house and as I messed up my laptop settings, i can't post links/pics so please feel free to make me a pina colada on the house

What is the best advice you have been given here at SF? Mine that has stayed within me all these years is from @Rockclimbinggirl She said today is a new day with no mistakes in it yet (i think i might have a word or two wrong there). But it has been on my mind every day when I awake.

Do you have go-to people to see if they are doing okay, or just check things in general? For me, I check on the new members to make sure they are not feeling left out of the community.

Come join us @lastlegs @1964dodge @Sunspots @Lotus @JDot @extraterrestrialone @DowntheRabbitHole @Gonz @Kiwi2016 @sinking_ship

Have a fantastic weekend all 🍕🍔🍿🎗🎈

Hey Petal Good Morning (shhhhh don’t tell anyone i’m a day late). I do wish the tags would actually reach me so if i get bogged down with things like i was yesterday i’ll still be aware enough to make it here! which leads me to the answer to your first question. (But first Thanks for tagging me and for opening the cafe. & i was not completely bogged down yesterday - one thing nice i did was my poetry meetup. hmm, i think i should open a cafe one of these days soon. i haven’t in a long time and i should now that i have more daytime free time).

but anyway, the best advice that i’ve gotten here on SF was from @Walker which was if i believe i have not been tagged for Jim’s Cafe, to drop by anyway. and since i find the cafe to be the most fun part of SF, i do take that advice and often find that the tag was there - it just got stuck in a box of donuts or something. so thanks! walker btw.

Now for Q2,
there are certain people here who i do go to more often than others and they do have there ups and downs. there are also people who i find have been absent for an extended period of time and i wonder what’s going on. then i’ll stop by and say hi, leave a smile or some kind of positivity (that is not in my nature to be very proficient doing - though i do try). I find i’m full of mysterious issues myself and i think it is those issues and similar that attracts me to certain other people. i try to offer from my own experience in the hopes that somehow it will make them feel like they are not the only one and thus feel more hopeful. or maybe they’ll gain a little more of an idea of what to do. on the other hand, sometimes i think that because i’m so full of my own blah-blah-blahs that these same people may think i’m just there asking them for help! its not really the case, but i think offering help makes people feel better also so maybe it still works out to be something ok. i guess its a group struggle and with everyone overlapping receiving and giving help, its what makes SF such a special and positive place. and i do sometimes see who is new and say hi or check out whose birthday it is and leave them a HB wish!

so thanks much for this cafe and these questions Petal!