- What historical moment stands out most in your memory? 9/11 attack. Apollo 11 landing on the Moon is vaguer but I do remember it playing on the black and white TV we had then.
- What did you find most difficult about growing up? Nothing particularly difficult. Money was always a bit tight but enough for all the necessities and a few luxuries so we got by quite well.
- Were your parents strict or lenient? More strict than lenient but not really extreme on it.
- Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like? I remember my maternal grandparents well since they both lived until I was grown and I saw them most every weekend. My paternal grandparents only vaguely and nothing of great grandparents.
- If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be? To be rich enough to retire and do nothing but be too busy being lazy.
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- What historical moment stands out most in your memory? I can't think of something too huge after I grew up. Well, there were some horrific protests in my country for sure. And how they were being handled isn't something you would like to hear about.
- What did you find most difficult about growing up? Losing my grandma?
- Were your parents strict or lenient? Not stricts, i doubt many parents let their kids in kindergarten use makeup. Although it's same as any other toy to a kid, i don't see the harm. When I was 8 they let me try a bit of alcohol actually lol. As small as a spoon, but enough to end my curiosity.
- Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like? I had both grandmas when growing up, one passed away and one is still doing well. My grandma who passed away was like a loving mother, all the time that my parents were at work.
- If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be? Heal from the damn health anxiety
- What historical moment stands out most in your memory? 9/11.
- What did you find most difficult about growing up? Being gay in a religious family.
- Were your parents strict or lenient? Strict.
- Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like? I remember my grandmothers. My grandfathers and great-grandparents died before I was born. Both of my grandmothers were deeply religious women. My maternal grandmother used to make dresses for me. I still have one.
- If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be? I would get rid of my depression and anxiety.
My weekend passed by all too quickly, and I plan to just keep my head down and make it through the coming week, that way I can make it to the holiday faster. (My work shuts down for Christmas for a week or two, benefit of working for a company that deals exclusively with schools.
"One small step for man" Face it, those guys must have been bloody crazy to go all the way to the moon in a can like that.
People, they were shit, but now that I have grown up, I have learned the truth about people. I was right, they really are shit. The only ones who arent shit are the ones who realised they are shit and tried to be better, but oh how rare they are. I like SF especially because of the alarmingly high amount of people here who aren't shit. I kinda wish I could arrange a meetup with several of you rather than try to make friends with the dregs I find around me.
Both. My dad was strict about property and money and lenient about behaviour, my mum was the opposite.
Dad's Mum: I barely remember her, she died first, she was just the stereotype of the "kind old grandmother" to me, she always made sure we had plastecine to play with when we were visiting, she made jam sandwiches with Mr Kipling French Fancies, and occasionally she would make the PERFECT apple pies. I have never had one as good since she died.
Dad's Dad: He was a jammy git, liked to tease and be fun, but was a real working man, up until the week he died he was still working out in the garden growing vegetables. He was also tough as all hell. He once broke his hip falling down the stairs, then dragged himself through his house, up into a chair by the phone and called for help, he was about mid 80s at the time.
Mum's Mum: A truly amazing person, she could stare down the sun, stubborn beyond reason, she got arthritis at 30 and kept playing piano into her 60s, she also had not time for modern nonsense, anything she didn't like or agree with you would hear "don't be stupid" and she would always say stupid as if trying to fit it into 1 syllable, and I have never met a more religious person in my life (wholesome religious, not in-your-face religious).
As an example of her stubbornness, she had maybe 5 deathbeds, she just refused to die, she KEPT bouncing back, and on one of them she said afterwards that Jesus came to her and said "Come with me to my father's kingdom", now if you believe in God or not, she did, and she saw him, she believed she was being ushered to heaven personally by Jesus, and she said "Sorry, I cant, I still have people to pray for". A lot of people are all talk, but not her. She is probably the best person I have ever met.
Mum's Dad Last man standing, another of the working men, a dying breed, he is softer and friendlier than his wife was, but also didn't care for nonsense, and loved football, but his wife would never let him watch. He is generous and kind, but his heart isn't in this world anymore, ever since his wife died he has just been waiting to be with her again, he isn't miserable or anything, this life just doesn't hold any interest for him without her in it.
Really all of my grandparents, they just don't make people like that anymore.
I have 2 ideas:
1) MASSIVELY inflated income. This is by no means my goal, but it would allow me to have a decent home, to afford to go out dating, to meet someone, to stop worrying about finances and my future etc, to start LIVING LIFE rather than just waiting, money is the lubricant that makes life go I'm afraid, and I don't have enough right now.
2) To meet "the one". I already know what she is like, I just need to meet her.
Number 2 is my ultimate goal, but number 1 will help get me to that goal and also to several others.
"One small step for man" Face it, those guys must have been bloody crazy to go all the way to the moon in a can like that.
People, they were shit, but now that I have grown up, I have learned the truth about people. I was right, they really are shit. The only ones who arent shit are the ones who realised they are shit and tried to be better, but oh how rare they are. I like SF especially because of the alarmingly high amount of people here who aren't shit. I kinda wish I could arrange a meetup with several of you rather than try to make friends with the dregs I find around me.
Both. My dad was strict about property and money and lenient about behaviour, my mum was the opposite.
Dad's Mum: I barely remember her, she died first, she was just the stereotype of the "kind old grandmother" to me, she always made sure we had plastecine to play with when we were visiting, she made jam sandwiches with Mr Kipling French Fancies, and occasionally she would make the PERFECT apple pies. I have never had one as good since she died.
Dad's Dad: He was a jammy git, liked to tease and be fun, but was a real working man, up until the week he died he was still working out in the garden growing vegetables. He was also tough as all hell. He once broke his hip falling down the stairs, then dragged himself through his house, up into a chair by the phone and called for help, he was about mid 80s at the time.
Mum's Mum: A truly amazing person, she could stare down the sun, stubborn beyond reason, she got arthritis at 30 and kept playing piano into her 60s, she also had not time for modern nonsense, anything she didn't like or agree with you would hear "don't be stupid" and she would always say stupid as if trying to fit it into 1 syllable, and I have never met a more religious person in my life (wholesome religious, not in-your-face religious).
As an example of her stubbornness, she had maybe 5 deathbeds, she just refused to die, she KEPT bouncing back, and on one of them she said afterwards that Jesus came to her and said "Come with me to my father's kingdom", now if you believe in God or not, she did, and she saw him, she believed she was being ushered to heaven personally by Jesus, and she said "Sorry, I cant, I still have people to pray for". A lot of people are all talk, but not her. She is probably the best person I have ever met.
Mum's Dad Last man standing, another of the working men, a dying breed, he is softer and friendlier than his wife was, but also didn't care for nonsense, and loved football, but his wife would never let him watch. He is generous and kind, but his heart isn't in this world anymore, ever since his wife died he has just been waiting to be with her again, he isn't miserable or anything, this life just doesn't hold any interest for him without her in it.
Really all of my grandparents, they just don't make people like that anymore.
I have 2 ideas:
1) MASSIVELY inflated income. This is by no means my goal, but it would allow me to have a decent home, to afford to go out dating, to meet someone, to stop worrying about finances and my future etc, to start LIVING LIFE rather than just waiting, money is the lubricant that makes life go I'm afraid, and I don't have enough right now.
2) To meet "the one". I already know what she is like, I just need to meet her.
Number 2 is my ultimate goal, but number 1 will help get me to that goal and also to several others.
End of my weekend; beginning of the work week. Made Christmas cookies for two days worth and goofed off one day. Now it will be long days to Christmas Break and am still without Christmas plans which scares the bejesus out of me.
- What historical moment stands out most in your memory? 9/11 attack - I always remembered people talking about the day JFK got shot and wondered how come they remembered it. now I know based on my experience of 9/11 (I was too young for JFK)
- What did you find most difficult about growing up? Dealing with loneliness just like now.
- Were your parents strict or lenient? Pretty lenient to the point of neglectful. But they did care about us.
- Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like? Nothing; my mom was an orphan and my dad's mom came to live with us but she couldn't speak English and died shortly after my younger sister was born.
- If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be? To have more friends. Some weekends I have no one to be with, no one to cuddle with. I dread retirement cause I will be even more alone.
4. Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like?
An addition on what my grandparents(mom's side) were like. Both were born in 1909 so they were in their teens and twenties during the depression so both were frugal to a fault. I know that neither of them ever own a credit card, they paid in cash or a check so they never bought things without the money to back it up right then never owing someone. When they would buy more land or tractors or cars it was always paid in full with a new car driven off the lot paid off, that sort of thing. Both were stout believers in personal responsibility that nobody owes anybody anything, you make your own way and handle your problems. Neither of them had time for foolishness or frivolous natures because they worked every day except Sunday from 5:00 or so in the morning until after 10:00 at night. Both of them had quite a bit of skills passed on after they retired from farming, grandkids started showing up and knowledge was passed down. My granddad taught me how to hunt, fish, woodcraft and carpentry. My grandma taught me how to cook and do things such as making candles, lye soap, what plants to use as medicine, herbalism. I still know the things they taught me.
An addition on what my grandparents(mom's side) were like. Both were born in 1909 so they were in their teens and twenties during the depression so both were frugal to a fault. I know that neither of them ever own a credit card, they paid in cash or a check so they never bought things without the money to back it up right then never owing someone. When they would buy more land or tractors or cars it was always paid in full with a new car driven off the lot paid off, that sort of thing. Both were stout believers in personal responsibility that nobody owes anybody anything, you make your own way and handle your problems. Neither of them had time for foolishness or frivolous natures because they worked every day except Sunday from 5:00 or so in the morning until after 10:00 at night. Both of them had quite a bit of skills passed on after they retired from farming, grandkids started showing up and knowledge was passed down. My granddad taught me how to hunt, fish, woodcraft and carpentry. My grandma taught me how to cook and do things such as making candles, lye soap, what plants to use as medicine, herbalism. I still know the things they taught me.
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Thanks for the invite @Champagne
What historical moment stands out most in your memory?
In my lifetime there were many significant historical events. I recently watched the Chernobyl tv series, so at the moment it is the one that stands out.
What did you find most difficult about growing up?
Not being able to live alone.
Were your parents strict or lenient?
They were too busy avoiding and ignoring each other to notice me, I pretty much raised myself. And I was very lenient lol.
Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like?
My maternal grandparents were abusive fake moral hypocritical snobs and I couldn’t care less about them. My paternal grandfather died before I was born and grandmother was an amazing woman.
If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be?
My location.
What historical moment stands out most in your memory?
In my lifetime there were many significant historical events. I recently watched the Chernobyl tv series, so at the moment it is the one that stands out.
What did you find most difficult about growing up?
Not being able to live alone.
Were your parents strict or lenient?
They were too busy avoiding and ignoring each other to notice me, I pretty much raised myself. And I was very lenient lol.
Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like?
My maternal grandparents were abusive fake moral hypocritical snobs and I couldn’t care less about them. My paternal grandfather died before I was born and grandmother was an amazing woman.
If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be?
My location.
What historical moment stands out most in your memory?
Fall of the Berlin wall.
What did you find most difficult about growing up?
Growing up in a alcoholic home, living with the emotional, physical and psychological destruction that it causes.
Were your parents strict or lenient?
Lenient
Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents?
What were they like?
My Grandma's one is 93 the other is past on, I would not of had a childhood or a chance without them they made me the man I am today they are both angels.
If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be?
Improve my mental health, never take it for granted.
Fall of the Berlin wall.
What did you find most difficult about growing up?
Growing up in a alcoholic home, living with the emotional, physical and psychological destruction that it causes.
Were your parents strict or lenient?
Lenient
Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents?
What were they like?
My Grandma's one is 93 the other is past on, I would not of had a childhood or a chance without them they made me the man I am today they are both angels.
If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be?
Improve my mental health, never take it for granted.
1. Still learning about it but our national hero Jose Rizal using words to fight for freedom.
2. Communication with my family and still do until to this day
3. Both? Maybe they became lenient when they realized that I'm too hard headed for them.
4. My grandfather is the best periodt Hahaha no cap
5. My hopes for myself
2. Communication with my family and still do until to this day
3. Both? Maybe they became lenient when they realized that I'm too hard headed for them.
4. My grandfather is the best periodt Hahaha no cap
5. My hopes for myself
I'm surviving and I hope that anyone who is going through a hard time right now, hold on it'll get better 
@Champagne thanks for the invite!
Wish you all to have a great day! Anything but a bad day
@Champagne thanks for the invite!
Wish you all to have a great day! Anything but a bad day
Thanks for opening the cafe and for the invite @Champagne.
What historical moment stands out most in your memory?
One I was around and properly aware for - 2016 election.
Events that I weren't around for but stick out to me - WW2, WW1, War of the Seventh Coalition, Seven Years' War.
What did you find most difficult about growing up?
Getting bullied.
Were your parents strict or lenient?
Down-the-middle. Pretty reasonable.
Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like?
I do remember one, but they weren't around for long.
If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be?
Remove some of the stress.
What historical moment stands out most in your memory?
One I was around and properly aware for - 2016 election.
Events that I weren't around for but stick out to me - WW2, WW1, War of the Seventh Coalition, Seven Years' War.
What did you find most difficult about growing up?
Getting bullied.
Were your parents strict or lenient?
Down-the-middle. Pretty reasonable.
Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like?
I do remember one, but they weren't around for long.
If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be?
Remove some of the stress.
Well as they say better late than never....thanks @Champagne for opening and the tag....
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What historical moment stands out most in your memory?
9/11 from a personal perspective---remember hearing it on the radio as driving to work and Executive Order 9066 from having been a curator of a Japanese American historic house and learning of the impact of this on over 110,000 individuals
What did you find most difficult about growing up?
Being an only child it was being the recipient of all my parents attention coupled with being expected to be a responsible adult despite my age
Were your parents strict or lenient?
My father was strict and extremely controlling. My mother was passive so rarely intervened.
Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like?
My mother's dad died before I was born, my mother's mom was always a bit distant and don't think she liked children very much. My dad's mom was amazing-a true grandmother in all the right ways . eg spoiled me rotten looking back. My dad's father was a bit of a curmudgeon so never felt really close to him.
If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be?
To be more assertive in creating time/physical space for myself
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What historical moment stands out most in your memory?
9/11 from a personal perspective---remember hearing it on the radio as driving to work and Executive Order 9066 from having been a curator of a Japanese American historic house and learning of the impact of this on over 110,000 individuals
What did you find most difficult about growing up?
Being an only child it was being the recipient of all my parents attention coupled with being expected to be a responsible adult despite my age
Were your parents strict or lenient?
My father was strict and extremely controlling. My mother was passive so rarely intervened.
Do you remember your grandparents or great-grandparents? What were they like?
My mother's dad died before I was born, my mother's mom was always a bit distant and don't think she liked children very much. My dad's mom was amazing-a true grandmother in all the right ways . eg spoiled me rotten looking back. My dad's father was a bit of a curmudgeon so never felt really close to him.
If you could change one thing in your life right now what would it be?
To be more assertive in creating time/physical space for myself
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