Jim's cafe Sunday 27th September

[dandelions]

I absolutely need to barge in and make everyone uncomfortable.

hey welcome Juella - if i say so myself! welcome to SF (since i don’t think we’ve met yet) and please know that barging in to the café is the way to go if you don’t get a tag. (its not really barging since the door is always open!!!🙀😊🌞. we always love people to just show up. tagging is a very tentative thing anyway and everyone is alway happy to meet someone new, expected or not. very glad to see you here!!!😊

 

[Juella]

@extraterrestrialone Thank you!
Glad to know this is a kind of thread you can just randomly join.

 

[cymbele]

Tired today and I still have to exercise/grocery shop. It is 3pm and for some reason although I was up at a "normal" time I am drained now. I don't want to exercise but I will do a little...

What is the best and worst thing about your family or extended family?
The best thing is that I am friends with my siblings and we enjoy hanging out together. The worst part is that we are a small group. Which is both good and bad. I am lucky to have the sibs as part of my family but since I am divorced it is just me and my daughter.
What is the best aspect of your personality? How about the worst aspect? The best and worst is the same: my generosity. I am generous to a fault and then no one pays me back although I would like them to try. It makes me resentful although the people need the money at the time.

What separates true friends from acquaintances?

Unconditional love although it is friendship love not romantic love. For example, I have two friends who never quit on me, sometimes don't understand me but accept me and my actions. But you have to learn to trust and that's pretty scary.


What is a creative gift you have given or received?

I have given away many a unique craft to people. Homemade lamps, wood crafts, sewing crafts etc. Most of the time I get a present I wonder if the person even knows me but I know I have gotten many a creative gift that was striking. My friend just gave me a piece of pottery that is a flat piece of clay that is turned up like a taco and it is for holding wet sponges on the sink. Beautiful piece of pottery!

Can a person change their personality?

I think it is difficult but doable.

I am running out of steam on the questions. Maybe I'll answer them later...
How have standards of beauty changed over the years?

What’s a big favor you have done for a friend? How about a big favor that a friend has done for you?

 

[JMG]

Ty for the tag @Champagne Hope everyone is having a nice day.

What is the best and worst thing about your family or extended family?
Best - They could be worse
Worst - They could be better

What is the best aspect of your personality? How about the worst aspect?
Best - That I'm accepting
Worst - How extremely misunderstood I am and that I can sometimes be impatient

What separates true friends from acquaintances?
As lots of others have already said here, true friends are just a lot closer, there is a much deeper level of trust, you've revealed more about yourself and are able to appreciate each other on a much deeper & more meaningful level.

What is a creative gift you have given or received?
Can't think of anything but I've been given lots of nice gifts over the years anyway
A creative gift I've given is I made my sis (and her husband) a calendar for 2018 I think it was.

Can a person change their personality?
Somewhat but I think it's kind of limited. I agree with what some others have said though that you can at least learn a better way to "act" but in terms of the true personality I'm not sure.

How have standards of beauty changed over the years?
I like to think they've improved and maybe in some ways they have (at least more shapes, sizes & types are shown in ads and movies somewhat, never really get the feeling that they are really thought of or appreciated by many people as being truly beautiful though) but ya the ones that seem to get the most positive attention, adoration, worship, etc. are still quite limited and limiting. We need to keep trying very hard to appreciate and celebrate everyone's differences in truly sincere ways not just pretending/fake/phony kinds of ways.

What’s a big favor you have done for a friend? How about a big favor that a friend has done for you?
Some things I've done for my friend are washing some dishes in his place over the past couple years, bought him various kitchen things, a couple hats a month or so ago, sometimes bought KFC & shared it with him, shared ice cream, chocolate, crackers, chips and various other kinds of things with him.
Things he has done for me are drive me places I needed to go, make me dinner, make me breakfast, buy me dinner, let me pick movies or shows to watch at his place, listen to me when I've been upset about things, cared and tried to be supportive of me.

 

[WolfGoddess]

What is the best and worst thing about your family or extended family?
I've pretty much lost contact with my family - I can say the worst part is that there is some real bigotry in several people (including my sister), the best is that others have been very supportive at key moments

What is the best aspect of your personality? How about the worst aspect?
I think my best aspect is being non-judgmental, the worst is being very sensitive (too much so sometimes)

What separates true friends from acquaintances?
That's really hard to answer, and yet it feels very easy to know the difference.

What is a creative gift you have given or received?
the most creative gift I've rec'd was a painting that my friend made of a monkey in a tuxedo (it was a period of my life where I found that concept very funny). I'm having a hard time thinking of one that I've given...I know there are some, just harder to recall

Can a person change their personality?
This is the question that made me want to answer these today I think people are changing their personalities constantly. It may be in less noticeable ways, but it's a non-ending process. That happens without necessarily thinking about it, but it can also happen intentionally - I think, for example, that it happens through therapy, by becoming more aware of our thought processes and how that impacts behavior we can change both. The problem is if you try to change SOMEONE ELSE'S personality, that's a non-starter.

How have standards of beauty changed over the years?

What’s a big favor you have done for a friend? How about a big favor that a friend has done for you?

 

[Lane]

Tired today and I still have to exercise/grocery shop. It is 3pm and for some reason although I was up at a "normal" time I am drained now. I don't want to exercise but I will do a little...

What is the best and worst thing about your family or extended family?
The best thing is that I am friends with my siblings and we enjoy hanging out together. The worst part is that we are a small group. Which is both good and bad. I am lucky to have the sibs as part of my family but since I am divorced it is just me and my daughter.
What is the best aspect of your personality? How about the worst aspect? The best and worst is the same: my generosity. I am generous to a fault and then no one pays me back although I would like them to try. It makes me resentful although the people need the money at the time.

What separates true friends from acquaintances?

Unconditional love although it is friendship love not romantic love. For example, I have two friends who never quit on me, sometimes don't understand me but accept me and my actions. But you have to learn to trust and that's pretty scary.


What is a creative gift you have given or received?

I have given away many a unique craft to people. Homemade lamps, wood crafts, sewing crafts etc. Most of the time I get a present I wonder if the person even knows me but I know I have gotten many a creative gift that was striking. My friend just gave me a piece of pottery that is a flat piece of clay that is turned up like a taco and it is for holding wet sponges on the sink. Beautiful piece of pottery!

Can a person change their personality?

I think it is difficult but doable.

I am running out of steam on the questions. Maybe I'll answer them later...
How have standards of beauty changed over the years?

What’s a big favor you have done for a friend? How about a big favor that a friend has done for you?

Good on the exercising @cymbele ! I've been wanting to but I'm just a couch potato at the end of the day. What are you doing for exercise?