Jim's Cafe Wed.Mar.4 - Fri.Mar.6th

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1. Have you ever loved someone in a romantic way so much that it hurt?
Yes...
2. What's the biggest crush you ever had on someone?
My idol, although she is a fictional person.
3. Is there anyone you have a major crush on right now?
No. I am tired enough to deal with my mental issues.
4. If you could pick any famous person to meet, who would it be and why?
A Japanese song writer, and talk about suicide with him haha.
5. If you could pick any person to change places with for a day, who would it be and why?
A princess in England? I dreamt this when I was young. Hahaha that’s crazy.
6. What is one of the best things that has ever happened to you?
I met great teachers in primary school!

 

[britishbloke]

1. Have you ever loved someone in a romantic way so much that it hurt? Yes and sometimes when that ends it's a suffering like any other.
2. What's the biggest crush you ever had on someone? The same that gave me such heartache in the end.
3. Is there anyone you have a major crush on right now? Yes... One of the instructors of a class I go to...
4. If you could pick any famous person to meet, who would it be and why? I think meeting Madlib would be quite an experience...
5. If you could pick any person to change places with for a day, who would it be and why? A woman, coming down to that age old question of what would it be like for men and women to switch places for a day...
6. What is one of the best things that has ever happened to you? The birth of my daughter, the best gift ever.

 

[Lisa the Ferrociraptor]

Hey, hope everyone out there is having an awesome Friday. Today's questions look extra interesting, so i'll join in. Thanks @JMG for opening the cafe and asking those questions, and thanks @someone123 for tagging me. Apologies if my answers are kinda lengthy, i've always been a storyteller.

1. Have you ever loved someone in a romantic way so much that it hurt?
Yes, it was actually a woman, weirdly enough, an American woman. She said she felt the same but the distance was too much for us to work past. I've never known for sure if she meant that, or if she just said that to protect my feelings. I think she might have been the one i could turn straight for.

2. What's the biggest crush you ever had on someone?
Oh, definitely this guy i met in my computing course. He made me break a three year hiatus on dating people. Normally i tend to prefer to maintain a cool facade, but it completely broke down whenever i talked to my friend about this guy, it was like i was 14 again.

3. Is there anyone you have a major crush on right now?
Oh definitely still that guy. I asked him out and he seemed really interested, but i got sick before we could ever go out. That's probably the thing that makes me maddest at the timing of it.

4. If you could pick any famous person to meet, who would it be and why?
Stephen Fry, most likely. He has an amazing mind, he's an all around incredible person, and he's also a fantastic LGBT rights advocate. I just have such respect for the man and everything he's done in his life.

5. If you could pick any person to change places with for a day, who would it be and why?
Probably my best friend. We actually had a conversation the other day about how great that would be, for me to experience a while of not coping with OCD, anxiety, depression, etc. and for him to spend a while experiencing those things, so he could get more of a sense of what living with those things is like, the toll it takes. I think it would just solidify our friendship even more.

6. What is one of the best things that has ever happened to you?
Hmm, a few contenders there. The time i gave flowers to the queen? The time i got offered a whole fridge/freezer for free that works to this day? The fact that after getting out of a very long and abusive friendship, i was becoming friends with somebody who was actually dependable, who actually put work in too? That's actually a tough one for me, it's hard to pick a specific thing to be the best of all.

 

[Road to Nowhere]

1. Have you ever loved someone in a romantic way so much that it hurt?
Yes best feeling in the world.
2. What's the biggest crush you ever had on someone?
Really big but nothing out of the ordinary.
3. Is there anyone you have a major crush on right now?
No
4. If you could pick any famous person to meet, who would it be and why?
Have a beer with Jordan Peterson Views on life and psychology are interesting.
5. If you could pick any person to change places with for a day, who would it be and why? A guru like Sadhguru, or adyashanti see how they reached there awakening personally know there story.
6. What is one of the best things that has ever happened to you?
won some money nothing life changing.

 

[LonelyHiker]

1. Have you ever loved someone so much it hurt?

Not really...

2. What's the biggest crush you ever had on someone?

There was a girl I knew in elementary school that I was pretty obsessed with..

3. Is there anyone you have a major crush on right now?

Nope.

4. If you could pick any famous person to meet, who would it be and why?

Probably a toss up between Bill Nye and Neil DeGrasse Tyson. They made science and reason and humanism cool again.

5. If you could pick any person to change places with for a day, who would it be and why?

Any of the astronauts currently residing on the ISS. Spending a day in space would be amazing, and it'd be liberating to get off this wretched rock for even just 24 hrs..

6. What is one of the best things that has ever happened to you?

The birth of my son.


Runner up: Spending the summer of '89 working in Denali National Park, AK +the year I turned 21).

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

1. Have you ever loved someone in a romantic way so much that it hurt?
Yes, it was actually a woman, weirdly enough, an American woman. She said she felt the same but the distance was too much for us to work past. I've never known for sure if she meant that, or if she just said that to protect my feelings. I think she might have been the one i could turn straight for.

And oddly enough, it wasn't me. Lol I'm jk, we're more like siblings in case anyone is wondering. :P

 

[JMG]

Today's questions look extra interesting, so i'll join in. Thanks @JMG for opening the cafe and asking those questions, and thanks @someone123 for tagging me.

Truly cannot thank you enough for saying this, finally someone in this world seems to actually not only appreciate, but find my questions interesting! I'm glad now that I've resisted all the times of feeling like just giving up cos of the pain of thinking that would never happen, could never fully express just how much this means to me. I don't even care if I come across as insane or "too intense" or w/e other judgemental bs some people would judge me as cos this makes a big difference for me and helps me so much with believing that maybe I do have a purpose for being here after all Sending infinite hugs of gratitude to you today and for all the days of your life. Lots of hugs to everyone else here too ty for answering the q's hope you enjoyed them.

 

[Lisa the Ferrociraptor]

Truly cannot thank you enough for saying this, finally someone in this world seems to actually not only appreciate, but find my questions interesting! I'm glad now that I've resisted all the times of feeling like just giving up cos of the pain of thinking that would never happen, could never fully express just how much this means to me. I don't even care if I come across as insane or "too intense" or w/e other judgemental bs some people would judge me as cos this makes a big difference for me and helps me so much with believing that maybe I do have a purpose for being here after all

You don't come across to me as any of those negative things. I'm glad my words meant so much to you, and yeah, i thought they were some great questions. You definitely do have a purpose here too, i've always liked seeing your input around the site and thought you seemed like a really pleasant person. You've always had the ability to put a smile on my face.

 

[Ash600]

1. Have you ever loved someone in a romantic way so much that it hurt?
Nope, thankfully

2. What's the biggest crush you ever had on someone?
That would've been the time when I tripped over and consequently fell on someone.......oooh you mean that type of crush

3. Is there anyone you have a major crush on right now?
Major crush? Mate not even a minor one

4. If you could pick any famous person to meet, who would it be and why?
Only the one person? But there's so many too choose from....

5. If you could pick any person to change places with for a day, who would it be and why?
But would that mean they will have to assume my place? What if they wouldn't give it back?2

6. What is one of the best things that has ever happened to you?
Apart from finding SF and meeting some amazing people?........

 

[Lisa the Ferrociraptor]

And oddly enough, it wasn't me. Lol I'm jk, we're more like siblings in case anyone is wondering. :P

Good save, you've managed to maintain our cover perfectly. Nah, i'm jk too, as great as Witty is, it was another American woman.

 

[dandelions]

5. If you could pick any person to change places with for a day, who would it be and why?

All day long #5 has had me thinking about the kate bush song Meg Meyers sings. Love em both but here's MM

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Good save, you've managed to maintain our cover perfectly. Nah, i'm jk too, as great as Witty is, it was another American woman.

There's only one guy who's daring enough to put up with my crazy ass. haha

 

[JMG]

You don't come across to me as any of those negative things. I'm glad my words meant so much to you, and yeah, i thought they were some great questions. You definitely do have a purpose here too, i've always liked seeing your input around the site and thought you seemed like a really pleasant person. You've always had the ability to put a smile on my face.

Ty I'm glad I don't come across as those negative things.
When I said the thing about "having a purpose here" I meant on the planet not just on this site (in case there was any confusion about that lol). I'm glad you think I seem pleasant & that I've been able to put a smile on your face before that is nice to know. You seem like a great & caring person also & I enjoyed reading your answers to the q's too! * still more hugs & hoping you are well *

 

[1964dodge]

Omg! There hasn't been a cafe in 3 days lol. So decided I'll just post one again then.
The theme is questions like every other cafe I ever did cos as I've said before I'm a very curious person & enjoy learning more about people. Tried to keep the list short.
Hope everyone has a great day & sending lots of hugs, love & positivity to you all!

1. Have you ever loved someone in a romantic way so much that it hurt?
2. What's the biggest crush you ever had on someone?
3. Is there anyone you have a major crush on right now?
4. If you could pick any famous person to meet, who would it be and why?
5. If you could pick any person to change places with for a day, who would it be and why?
6. What is one of the best things that has ever happened to you?

Tagging: @Witty_Sarcasm @someone123 @Walker @Kiwi2016 @Lane @Auri @Aurelia
Ok I won't tag more than that in this post cos then most people won't get the tags

thank you for opening the cafe @JMG now for the question. these always make my head hurt lol

1.loved so much that it hurt: i was engaged to this girl an she was my soulmate. i still have a special place in my heart for her even though i love my wife very much. she dumped me because i was a workaholic and she ended up marrying an abusive alcoholic.
2. biggest crush: my 6th grade math teacher she was gorgeous
3:crush now: no
4.if i could meet someone: gene roddenberry. he had such a positive outlook for humanity. so ghost or not yes him lol
5.if i could change with anyone: my wife to understand her perspective and learn how she puts up with me.
6. best thing to happen to me. my wife and family and of course my 64 dodge

 

[1964dodge]

Thank you! I love these, but wasn't in the right mood to open it myself! <3

@pooky @Albawolf @Road to Nowhere @1964dodge Will answer in a bit.

thank you for invting me @someone123

 

[1964dodge]

Basically anyone in school that I had a crush on was an ass to me because I was a loser. haha
I'm just amazed that I found someone who likes me as much as I like them.

i doubt that you were a loser because now you're awesome...mike...

 

[1964dodge]

Kiwi and JMG, thank you for the invite.

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And now I would like to say thank you to all of the cafe people. Very soon I am going to be moving along to different places and people and experiences. SF has turned out to not be a place of loving support that it used to be for me. I'll be off to search for somewhere else that can actually be a help to me. God bless you all.

hope you can come back, we will miss you if you go...mike...

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

i doubt that you were a loser because now you're awesome...mike...

Well thank you, I appreciate that. Most people felt the opposite about me back then, luckily a few thought differently about me and I'm glad people still do care.

 

[KM76710]

1. Have you ever loved someone in a romantic way so much that it hurt?

No, but I don't feel much emotion. I can like and enjoy a person, think and wish well for them. Many. And lust is also many.

2. What's the biggest crush you ever had on someone?

Wendy, a woman I have known for 15 years and closest to a real relationship but she is closed off emtionally like me, so we fit well together. Before that a woman I knew when I was in junior college. She was the first one and one of only three people who actually invited and welcomed me into her life. She was married and my crush was more of like a person who has a favorite cousin who is a friend that you have the hots for. Her family moved away after we knew each other for a year or so and just always wondered how her and her family did after that.

3. Is there anyone you have a major crush on right now?

Wendy.

4. If you could pick any famous person to meet, who would it be and why?

Friedrich Spee. Jesuit priest from the 17th century. A person of humanity and compassion during the trials for witchcraft that were destroying thousands. His book Cautio Criminalis eventually led to the end of the trials.

5. If you could pick any person to change places with for a day, who would it be and why?

Al Bundy! Why because he is Al Bundy. Can't think of a real person.

6. What is one of the best things that has ever happened to you?

When my nephew was born, it was fun being a crazy uncle.

 

[KM76710]

Well thank you, I appreciate that. Most people felt the opposite about me back then, luckily a few thought differently about me and I'm glad people still do care.

Back then is less important than now and like many others here I see with their and your comments and support to others is something worthy to take note of be impressed with. Caring about the well being of others is always something that says a ton about a person.