I registered to this forum specifically so I can post in this thread. This is a very familiar thing that I thought I would be better off in. I thought that this dark, depressed attitude was just plain me growing up and finding my identity. Yes, there was some stuff affecting it like getting rejected from a girl for the umpteenth time, my parents constantly fighting, my mother going to cheat on my dad, and my dad yelling at me and my brother, but I thought that this little area of black was my own. I was "the goth" of my group because I wrote dark poetry, wore nothing but black, told self deprecating jokes, pointed out the worst in things and I had fun with it. Only thing though is that over the years, things got worst, and my depression only grew deeper until it became something that engulfed me. I went insane for the first time in my life and suddenly, this cozy little area that I enjoyed just grew colder and colder and I didn't want to be a part of it anymore, but the thing is that there was some part of me that believed that I enjoyed being in there.
I go out with my friends, we have fun, we enjoy the time that we have with each other, but I always hold myself back from having as much fun as everyone else. I avoid being as social as I can, I avoid taking part in pictures or any other fun event that I could've partook. I keep wondering why I do this to myself and after so long, I only recently figured out why. It's not because it was what I was used to, but because it was so much easier to stay there, than to climb out and enjoy life. The moment we open ourselves up to happiness, we open ourselves up to hope and for the majority the people in this forum, myself included, hope is a foreign concept. At some point in our life, having hope betrayed. Holding on to that little flicker of life, fighting to keep it alive, only to have some shmuck blow it out and have everything turn black again. It's like hope turned around and took a shit in our faces.
Hope betrayed us and we're afraid to open ourselves up to it again. I'm included in this. Whenever someone tells me something that's going on great in their lives, I feel upset rather than happy. Even for my best of friends, good news for them, I treat as if they are trying to shove it in my face and I become angry. It's because I'm still trying to climb out of my dark little hole. A few years ago, I would have stumbled endlessly and given up. Hell, a few years ago, I did give up. I'm still trying to climb out, day after day, and change myself into someone who could be happier. Even if that means eventually opening myself to something that kicked me in the ass then spat on me and left me to rot. Hope.
Basic message is that living in a world of darkness is not healthy. You can pretend that it is, but eventually, you'll learn that all the things in life that you should be getting, you won't be getting because of it.