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Lost

Nicole tuecke

Well-Known Member
#1
I have lost so many loved one and havent grieved for any yet and im going to be losing my dad sometime soon im so sad. I dont know what to do or how to handle all this. So exhausted
 
#2
Yo losin loved ones and friends people ur loyal too it's gotta be the worst pain in this life. Unfortunately if ya can't save em yourself jus gonna have to let em go think bout the good times ya had and grieve then move on. Jus the way it is. Regardless Ya got my support hit me up if ya need anythin. I got you. Peace.
 

Walker

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#3
Hi there. Most people here understand the loss of people very close to us so venture out and tell us how you're feeling and vent a little if you need to. We're all here to help you in any way we can ok? Losing a parent is pretty terrible. I've been there myself. I'm sorry you're feeling bad. Keep posting ok? Be safe and take care.
 

Kiwi2016

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#4
Losing those you love is never easy...I lost my mother 2 years ago and the pain is still there but it has changed over time to thoughts of the good memories/times we shared...I am so sorry to hear about your dad...i wondered are you able to spend some quality time with him ....encourage you to keep posting as we're all here for you...sending you hugs...
 

Kiwi2016

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SF Pro
#6
Yes i can only imagine my heart goes out to you and you are in my thoughts. Do you have friends that you can talk with about this as that can help...always here if you need to talk...sending you hugs
 

justrob

Keep on keeping on.
#7
Hope you can grieve and feel better. So sorry to hear about your Father. Spend time with your father, but take breaks for yourself to keep your strength up.
 

Losing it

Active Member
#8
13th of June will be 7 years since I lost my dad. I'm not going to tell you lies and say it's not hard but you can make through it. 7 years in my case and I often still get tears in my eyes when I think about dad. Since I've had this last round with depression it didn't stop with just tears coming to my eyes but often I sat and cried until the hurt would start to feel better. My dad passed away at my house of a heart attack associated with congestive heart failure. I performed CPR on him until EMS got there. I've often wondered if I'd started CPR sooner if he'd still be with us. I can't dwell on that if I did I'd run myself even crazier than I already am. The best thing you can do is try to prepare yourself for when it happens and be prepared for the hurt that comes along with the death of any loved one. Take all the time to grieve you need the time frame is different for different people. There's no set time frame and no right or wrong way to grieve. Even though it's been 7 years since I lost my dad I still need to take time to grieve his loss from time to time. I've found that making regular visits to his grave site help me, it gives me a chance to feel close to him and remember the good times we had together. After dad was buried and the grave started to settle I took a shovel and rake to the graveyard with me. I filled in low spots, raked away all the large clumps of dirt and rock. My dad always liked his lawn to look nice kept cut and groomed so I've done my best to make his grave site look nice and a place he would be proud off. There have also been times when I've been down or having problems that I'd go to his grave site and talk to him like I used to do when he was alive and I needed help with a problem. Just because he's gone physically doesn't mean his memory isn't still in my heart. Good luck with whatever the future throws at you and do your best with it, that's all any of us can do. Don't be ashamed to cry regardless of who's around I'm a 57 year old male and if the urge hits me I'm not holding it back.
 
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Magree

SF Supporter
#11
Hi hunni believe me I know what ur going through. Without being patronising I have walked in shoes just like yours.
I will not lie and tell you that time heals u will never stop hurting but I can assure u the pain will become bearable.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you.
Massive hugs and love for you x
 

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