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Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder

Kira

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#2
I looked into this extensively a while back because I'm almost certain that I had it and looked into seeing a specialist to look into it because it was severly impacting my life in an unhealthy way. Covid prevented this from happening (seeing a therapist) and it's something that I've now moved on from. I suffered with it for years and realised that it was a very unhealthy way of existing and "coping" with reality.

I suppose it's easy to dismiss as just "daydreaming" but it's so much more than that. You can't lead a truly productive life because you're basically living an alternate reality created by your mind.

This is just my personal experience but I lived with it (on and off) for many, many years. It's not a good way to live and it's best if you can break free from it as it's just an unhealthy coping mechanism.
 

Quietus

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#3
Yes, I have it. Just as @Kira, said, it is an unhealthy coping mechanism that can severely impact your life. I think that this is one of the main reasons why I pretty much remained stagnant, and reclusive for my entire life - the reality of my actual existence could never live up to the fantasies I conjured in my mind. I believe it contributed to my lack of emotional maturity as well.

Though I did take comfort in finding a famous poet/philosopher who I surmised as having the same problem. His name is Fernando Pessoa. His book, The Book of Disquiet which is like a post-mortem assembly of his journal entries, thoughts, etc, clearly depict a lonely man living in semi-isolation, who lived in his head and created alter-egos for himself.
 
#4
Yes, I have it. Just as @Kira, said, it is an unhealthy coping mechanism that can severely impact your life. I think that this is one of the main reasons why I pretty much remained stagnant, and reclusive for my entire life - the reality of my actual existence could never live up to the fantasies I conjured in my mind. I believe it contributed to my lack of emotional maturity as well.

Though I did take comfort in finding a famous poet/philosopher who I surmised as having the same problem. His name is Fernando Pessoa. His book, The Book of Disquiet which is like a post-mortem assembly of his journal entries, thoughts, etc, clearly depict a lonely man living in semi-isolation, who lived in his head and created alter-egos for himself.

Fernando Pessoa is such a great poet from my country! we study him a lot and his life was so curious and amazing to me. here in Portugal, we have a tourist guide to go trough his house and where he wrote his books. if you are interested in him, i could recommend you a couple of books!
 

Auri

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#5
Huh, I didn't know about that either. I definitely had all the symptoms from the list as a teenager... with the significant exception that my daily life was still just as productive, so I wouldn't have called it a 'disorder' in my case. I can see how that may be though.
I stopped daydreaming because it started making me sad about my real life, and nowadays I believe it would bring me more anxiety than anything.
 

Dante

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#6
I only ask because I daydream all the time, I fit every damn descriptor of this. -_- everything is a damned disorder nowadays.
 

Dante

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#7
Ok, maybe it is a mental disorder, I forced myself not to daydream for the last 6 hours and I ended up exercising, picking up an an old hobby, cleaning up the house and doing some DIY home repairs (fixing the tumble dryer), none of which I have done for over a year (except for the cleaning up, which is still rare, but more of a half-hearted once a week thing). Just 6 hours and I ended up being productive out of boredom and feeling better about myself for it. My head even feels a tiny bit clearer.

Short term is easy, but long term this is gonna suck to fix *sigh*
 

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