Not my problem

[mtLife]

Hi,

I registered because I'm struggling and want to know people's thoughts.

I'm a single educated professional, with a good job and perfect children.

But I struggle to continue in life because of failures in the world.

I'm fine with me, but everything outside is completely fucked up and only getting worse.

I don't want to be part of this joke of a society anymore.

Politicians waging wars, laws that make no sense and favour the law breaker, taxes that rape the middle class whilst giving to the lazy and super rich.

Unqualified people making decisions affecting millions of people's lives without justification or recourse.

With each day that passes, I just want to be here less and less, and of it wasn't for my children, I would've already been gone by now.

I cannot effect change in what's causing my want to leave, and with every passing day, there's just another reason to go.

I've fought to get what I have and where I am, but I'm tied and worn out.

Can I have thoughts please?

 

[1964dodge]

welcome to SF @mtLife we are a peer community that cares but never judges. please look at the different forums and post when you feel comfortable or go to chat if you prefer real time.

you said that you worked hard to get where you are and you raised great children which is hard these days. there is so much misery and unfairness in the world, i agree with you. there is also kindness and wonderful people in the world. read some of the posts on this site and you'll see a lot of good people.

you may want to talk to your doctor to find an appropriate therapist. i don't know what it's called but there is a condition where people see mostly bad in the world and feel helpless.

you can also do a lot to help this world if you want to try. you can do more because you are educated and can raise awareness on issues and actually do things to make a difference. you can also make this world a little better doing small things. you can volunteer at a shelter or food pantry and help with a small donation. if you give one homeless person a sandwhich you have changed the world by one kind act. if you ever want to talk feel free to use my inbox.

mike...

 

[may71]

Acceptance is a piece of armor that all those who wish to better the world must wear. It may be necessary even just to live in it.

Try not to be overwhelmed by what it wrong with the world; light your candle and step forward.

A daily meditation practice might help you cultivate some inner peace that might make acceptance easier.

I hope something can help.

 

[FlamingoWrangler]

Hey there @mtLife

Welcome to SF. sorry to hear you are exhausted by the outside world.
Opinions: Sounds like control is important to you. So focus on the things you can do. Be the change that you want to see in the world. And most importantly try to cut back on sources that make you grieve. Regardless of the terminology, there will always be evil & good. I don’t know your specifics, but if you are in an unsafe area due to civil unrest, I humbly encourage you to get your chilldren, prized possessions& valuables collected so you can get to safety. Drop everything and run If you have to. If you really think you cant fight for your life, even for the sole purpose of your children, i unfortunately understand. but you need to make sure they have a passage to safety.
i think it is possible to regain hope in your future. you have found a pocket of good in an otherwise upset world. We are hear to listen & encourage you. Do your best to keep yourself & your family safe.

i look forward to seeing you around more. 🦩

 

[may71]

And most importantly try to cut back on sources that make you grieve

I agree with @FlamingoWrangler

It sounds like the news and the media in general is a source of distress, so taking an extended vacation from that might help.

 

[KM76710]

Hello and welcome to the group. I am pretty much like yourself. I see very little positive and most downhill in direction, but that is the human race and its tendency as groups to just destroy much of what is around you. It is what I expect. But you just continue on and live the life that you are most satisfied with and whatever happens just happens.

 

[mtLife]

Thanks for the replies, but things are only ever going to get harder, people are only going to get more selfish, governments will only want more control and more tax money. Restrictions will get tighter, you become less and less "free". Why carry on when you already struggle to find a reason to? I feel most for my children as for them, it's already impossible. At least I have insurance and assets that would see them get a footing in life. I just hate waking up every day. I hate the thought on another day in this disgusting world. I can see no positive here.

 

[mtLife]

I agree with @FlamingoWrangler

It sounds like the news and the media in general is a source of distress, so taking an extended vacation from that might help.

No, it's the continual oppression by government, ever increasing taxation, ever reducing services, whilst telling us to do one thing whilst doing the complete opposite themselves. It's the selfishness of humanity. It's the complete lack of logic in our laws. It's everything, it's not the media at all. In fact I very rarely listen to the media, I experience my issues first hand.

 

[FlamingoWrangler]

Hi there again @mtLife ,

sometimes it helps to just complain. We will listen. If you‘d prefer to private message, you can do that too. i will listen.

how many kids do you have?

 

[mtLife]

3. I'm only happy when I'm with them.

 

[FlamingoWrangler]

3. I'm only happy when I'm with them.

kids are amazing!

 

[RuCubedbiX]

Hi,

I registered because I'm struggling and want to know people's thoughts.

I'm a single educated......

Thanks for the replies, but things are only ever going to get harder, people are only going to get more selfish, governments will only want more control and more tax money. Restrictions will get tighter, you become less and less "free". Why carry on when you already struggle to find a reason to? I feel most for my children as for them, it's already impossible. At least I have insurance and assets that would see them get a footing in life. I just hate waking up every day. I hate the thought on another day in this disgusting world. I can see no positive here.

No, it's the continual oppression by government, ever increasing taxation, ever reducing services, whilst telling us to do one thing whilst doing the complete opposite themselves. It's the selfishness of humanity. It's the complete lack of logic in our laws. It's everything, it's not the media at all. In fact I very rarely listen to the media, I experience my issues first hand.

Mate I pretty much feel similar to you, though I really don't have my own family. At the crux of it, my mentality goes like this: "Do I really want things to change?"... If I want things to change then I have to set change in motion. I would say I despise and have a kind of hatred for the wanton corruption, greed, inequity that pervades society in general. It does seem like the odds are insurmountable. But don't kid yourself, you in your own small way CAN effect change. HOWEVER it may not be necessarily perceivable to you within YOUR lifetime. Most change happens gradually. What may have started out as one man perceived as a sole loon shouting on his soapbox can turn into a historical turning point. Don't try to negate your efforts, and don't give up. Yes, not EVERYONE can be the INDIVIDUAL SOLE cause of change, but everyone TOGETHER can be.... from the soapbox, one man listens, then other people see and maybe want to listen, and then a crowd grows and more people listen and start believing.

I'm just drawing an analogy here, you don't have to go on a podium, but what you can do is try to focus your efforts. You already have children... give them your knowledge. Forget about whether the outside world may or may not corrupt them. Try to give your effort into educating and teaching them. Try to find like minded people.... create a community.. it doesn't have to be a physical community, but a network. If you want things to change then you have to try to start finding people who believe in that same change and actively start practicing together what you believe and supporting each other. THAT's how we effect change. Sometimes we have to look at the long term plan rather than the short term. We have to sacrifice in the short term to achieve the long term benefits.

This is not a rebuke of your wanting to give up, it's meant to inspire you and agitate your internal stubbornness that WILL NOT LET THIS SYSTEM DEFEAT YOU. You are stubbornly going to resist the system and do whatever you can to propagate your ideals. The networking MAY be the hardest thing. Finding someone with the right mix of shared values/trustworthiness can sometimes be tough. But it is possible. And like I said before, teach your children your knowledge. Show them your mistakes so they don't have to do the same. Remember in time they too can find other similar individuals as they grow up too. It may not be easy, but sometimes the initial effort required for a worthwhile change never is easy.

 

[BlueGreen]

Hi and welcome @mtLife. My thoughts are pretty much the same. I try not to think on it too much as I would just despair all the time. I think like a great many people I have cut down my news checking but it still filters through. I have two grown up sons, still living at home, that I love and love having them with me. They are what I live for. I'm artistic so my painting keeps me grounded (if I don't get caught up in social media and need or lack of likes which gets me down) and generally I need something, a painting or a project to keep my focus on. It does feel so hopeless a lot of the time but if I can't change things, I can do something creative or I can focus on the beauty of our planet - sorry, it sounds corny, but human beings are pretty awful and if they are blind to it at least I can see it for myself and feel I have used my time to witness it. Yep, that is corny sorry but that is pretty much how I get through it.

 

[1964dodge]

i agree with a lot of what you said @RuCubedbiX especially about your kids. i taught my kids some bad things without trying because they learn by example. but i taught them mostly good things. i didn't change the whole world but made it a little bit better by my own children.

i taught them to treat people with respect especially the elderly. i taught them to have a good work ethic, actually too good a work ethic my 2 sons are workaholics like i was. my parents took care of my grandmother so it was natural to help my parents and my wife's parents. well of course my kids grew up watching this and they help their parents (us)
and inlaws. and my grandchildren help their parents and grandparents. which these days less and less kids help their parents as they age.

so if you teach your children positive things then they teach their children and the line keeps going. my wife and i have 3 kids so that's 3 people that have a good moral core. it is those little things that make a difference in the world. and remember it's the bad people that get the press because it sells.

mike...

 

[may71]

@mtLife

You might want to try something like ACT, Acceptance and Commitment therapy. I think the idea is to learn to accept what you can't change, and also make a commitment to changing the things that you can.

However bad things may be now, throughout history there have been worse times. Living under the governments of Hitler or Stalin would have been a lot worse. Living in North Korea would probably be a lot worse. Still people managed to survive that.

While the problems you have may have their root in what other people are doing, you may be able to develop the ability to manage living in a deeply flawed world.

 

[mtLife]

Survive, but not live. Not enjoy. Not be happy. What's the point?

 

[may71]

Usually there's a way to make things better so that you feel glad to be alive.

Is there a treatment method that you'd be willing to try?

 

[Soul flower]

Survive, but not live. Not enjoy. Not be happy. What's the point?

I have chronic illness - I often say I feel like I'm ALWAYS treading water - overwhelmed and I'm tired .... I also work in a highly regulated financial field that require me to be plugged in to global events all day long. I can relate this statement - the world seems quite chaotic right now in the collective.

I have found listening to philosophical lectures very soothing - alan watts, ram dass, sadhguru interviews with neuro doctors or top scholars are my favorites. Helps shift my perspective a bit.

Instead of thinking something is good or bad - I've taken to reprogram my brain to say "isn't that interesting" - because we have such a myopic view of life on the whole, who am I to say that something I see as horrible really won't change things for the better. A very minor example would be someone losing their job .... struggling a bit only to find their dream job a few months later. Sometimes we need a void to make space for the new. We truly only have THIS moment and what if all the chaos happening creates more freedom for your children later - what if it is the destruction creating a void that leads to a path you can't see yet ..... in which the future generations have an even richer life then we do now on some level - we really just do not know the outcomes yet. And maybe we have a point, but can't see it. Maybe life itself IS the point - I do not know. I know I learn more in my times of struggle then complacency. (tho I often prefer the later)

This is not an overnight fix, I've been doing this type of thing for years now but it has helped me. Mindful of the zero point and my ability to choose how I swing. Always keeping that zero point in mind FIRST to realize I am choosing. So I share it with you for what it is worth. It doesn't change the world - it's more about changing how you see the world.

All that being said - I can relate and with 9 nieces and nephews around me, I feel your worry as well. You are not alone. Far from it. But what good is the worry vibe - ? What does it create ? All our vibes create our life ...

Chinese proverb, also sometimes called a curse "may you live in interesting times" - and we sure do!

 

[mtLife]

Unnecessary struggles imposed by people who are unqualified, over paid, unregulated, and unaccountable! THAT my friend will ALWAYS get worse and the affect on me and everyone else increasingly detrimental to our lives, and mental and physical health.

I never asked for or wanted, and certainly didn't want to be forced to pay for, 99% of the shit that's imposed on my life by the government and council. Turned into an oppressed little drone with no voice and no ability to change anything for the better.

More tax rises coming from yesterday's announcement. When will they stop taking and start giving, as all I seen to do is give and get nothing in return.

And people wonder why I want out.

 

[may71]

When will they stop taking and start giving, as all I seen to do is give and get nothing in return

You might want to try applying for disability benefits. If you get them, then you'd be able to get something in return instead of just giving.