People that avoid you out of nowhere

[Fbr27]

What do you all think of people who avoid you and even ignores you for no reason.

It happened to me for some 2 years now.

I liked this girl, she sometimes tried to talk to me and sometimes she would straight up go out of her way to avoid me.

I never said to her that I liked her, but somehow she still avoided me like if I did something to her

We sort of worked together in the same place in a church that I sometimes go (I'm a kind of amateur musician), so we shared the same space a lot

Sometimes I tried to talk to her, but I never forced her to talk to me, and the times I talked to her, we didn't spoke to each other more than 5 minutes.

I just tried to befriend her on social media, but it was always closed and she denied friendship on social media and never talked to me about that.

After a while she just blocked me from everything on her social media.

I know she has/had a boyfriend while part of the time that I had contact to her, but I don't know for much time she has been in this relation. Fair enough, she didn't had a reason to be friendly to me, but ignoring me, I don't know the reason for why she would do that.

I think I did the right thing in just trying to be friendly and not forcing her to do anything, but she apparently sort of hated me?

Maybe I was naive to think people are friendly, and that people would not treat someone badly just for no reason? But maybe there is something that I didn't percieve.

What do you think? What would you do?

 

[Freya]

I think this sounds like a "her issue" based on what you have written. Of sometimes she tried to speak to you and sometimes avoided you, it could be that on the days she avoided you she wasn't up to the mental weight of trying to be social with someone she didn't know well. I know sometimes I avoid even people I do know well because the effort of conversation is too much extra mental energy.

I know a lot of people who don't accept social media connections from work people and who try to keep work and social life separate.

I don't think you can judge from this that people in general are not friendly. Some people are friendly, some people are unfriendly, and some people would really like to be friendly but for a variety of reasons really struggle with it.

I think all you can really do with this one is try to look forward and not backwards.