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My father talks to me while being so physically close like he is coming onto my face. Everytime I told him to maintain distance and I physically always distance myself when he does this but still to tell him to be away so I can be comfortable , he says that other people in house ( especially usually my aunt ) are listening and would think I hate him , plus sometimes when I ask him to maintain distance along with his usual dialogue he gestures like he would hit me so he raises his hand too but he never does.
Because I show only a certain side of myself, it’s just a fraction of who I am. I don’t understand why people can’t get that. I can be serious, funny, emotional, curious, a thinker, and much more than I could ever list. I rarely show the real me because people judge you just for revealing a little. Personality is multifaceted. People are layered.
It's midnight and I've been running fever since this morning (Thursday). Not a high fever but enough I feel crap.
My visiting nurse took a urine sample to the lab for me, as my at home UTI test was positive for infection (but who knows about at home tests!).
In other Angie's Medical News, the surgeon whose office said they would send an Uber for me failed to do that on Tuesday, the social worker who was supposed to schedule the ride said it was a "terrible oversight". And I was upset so didn't get an appointment this week (apparently I'd rather suffer than go). Have an appointment next Wednesday.
I feel trapped.
My visiting nurse took a urine sample to the lab for me, as my at home UTI test was positive for infection (but who knows about at home tests!).
In other Angie's Medical News, the surgeon whose office said they would send an Uber for me failed to do that on Tuesday, the social worker who was supposed to schedule the ride said it was a "terrible oversight". And I was upset so didn't get an appointment this week (apparently I'd rather suffer than go). Have an appointment next Wednesday.
I feel trapped.
The audacity of my mother to do emotional damage on me by saying she feels I dont want to see them.
They know my schedule. They know when I am free and when I am not. Christmas break came by and nothing happened. My cat died and i was still alone.
All because my older brother with stage 4 kidney failure is sick.
So imagine how pissed I am when my mother told me that she will pay me a visit a day before my exam week and when she arrived, it was her, my dad, and my 2 older brothers which includes the sick one. They just dropped by with full knowledge that I am busy and they barged in with no effort or plan what to do with the time they’re with me — so i dismissed them immediately, because if we’re not doing anything, i would rather use that time for academics — something productive.
and now a week later my mom wants to vent how hurt she is.
well sorry you cannot utilize my schedule to which you know 100% when i’m free and when i’m not.
sorry you clearly chose your son and now you want to clean your hands to ensure you didn’t have time with me because of me and not because of your own decisions, poor planning, and just overall being incosiderate.
sorry my school cannot postpone the exam and classes just to accommodate your choice to do things when “you” want to do it because of your disregard of other people’s time.
sorry your favorite son decided to be reckless and also made poor decisions because clearly he did something to himself to end where he is right now, he wasnt born with it, it was also his choice.
They know my schedule. They know when I am free and when I am not. Christmas break came by and nothing happened. My cat died and i was still alone.
All because my older brother with stage 4 kidney failure is sick.
So imagine how pissed I am when my mother told me that she will pay me a visit a day before my exam week and when she arrived, it was her, my dad, and my 2 older brothers which includes the sick one. They just dropped by with full knowledge that I am busy and they barged in with no effort or plan what to do with the time they’re with me — so i dismissed them immediately, because if we’re not doing anything, i would rather use that time for academics — something productive.
and now a week later my mom wants to vent how hurt she is.
well sorry you cannot utilize my schedule to which you know 100% when i’m free and when i’m not.
sorry you clearly chose your son and now you want to clean your hands to ensure you didn’t have time with me because of me and not because of your own decisions, poor planning, and just overall being incosiderate.
sorry my school cannot postpone the exam and classes just to accommodate your choice to do things when “you” want to do it because of your disregard of other people’s time.
sorry your favorite son decided to be reckless and also made poor decisions because clearly he did something to himself to end where he is right now, he wasnt born with it, it was also his choice.
almost unintentionally off myself tonight.
I wanted to destress so I thought a hot steamy shower would help, then I started having difficulty breathing, I thought it’s just me getting winded because of my weight and lack of exercise, it got worse and I thought am I having a panic attack so I tried breathing through my mouth slowly and I noticed I cannot breathe in completely but I can exhale fully, I was gasping for air, I got out of the shower and grabbed my inhaler, that seem to help but every time I moved my breathing got worse again and the breathing through my mouth made me burp, I decided to sit down, focus on breathing, I cannot die now, no one else will take care of my cats but me, I then brought out and use my nebulizer and then googled my s
so it turns out a hot steamy shower can trigger your asthma. Wtf
also found out what I did wrong and correctly the last time I had an anaphylactic shock.
I wanted to destress so I thought a hot steamy shower would help, then I started having difficulty breathing, I thought it’s just me getting winded because of my weight and lack of exercise, it got worse and I thought am I having a panic attack so I tried breathing through my mouth slowly and I noticed I cannot breathe in completely but I can exhale fully, I was gasping for air, I got out of the shower and grabbed my inhaler, that seem to help but every time I moved my breathing got worse again and the breathing through my mouth made me burp, I decided to sit down, focus on breathing, I cannot die now, no one else will take care of my cats but me, I then brought out and use my nebulizer and then googled my s
so it turns out a hot steamy shower can trigger your asthma. Wtf
also found out what I did wrong and correctly the last time I had an anaphylactic shock.
The Systems that control medical care and access to medications. I am in a corner right now, pushed into in the last few days. And it has turned my world upside down. So I'm on my own figuring out what to do after being immediately dropped from a medication I've been on for two years that is working well. It's because I made $10,000 too much in 2024 (from starting to claim my Social Security) and after the 2026 re-enrollment annual process for the medication the pharmaceutical company saw that and cut me off immediately last week without notifying me. The only way I knew was when I called to reorder the meds last Thursday I got informed of the status change. I'm in big trouble around this because I have a partial/focal seizure disorder combined with another diagnosis that makes options for medication choices very slim. I am ready to expatriate ASAP.
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So sorry to hear this. Our medical system is so unfair. Pharmaceutical companies are rolling in money but won't provide it to the people in need. I may have something serious wrong with me as well but can't even get the tests or see a specialist for weeks. It should not be this way. Where would you move to?
This makes me sad for you and all of us that need what we need. it's so wrong and makes no sense for so many reasons. I think I would go to Europe....Ireland or France or Italy....I hear better things about how medical is handled for the population. I will probably sell everything I have and just move with a few suitcases. It's just too much to deal with. I was going to Santa Fe permanently in the next 3 months but I just don't have the strength to make multiple decisions and moves. I just want to go somewhere and be at peace and it doesn't seem to be the US when one is on a limited income. Thanks for the interest in where I would move.
I really am sorry for what you are challenged with right now and I hope and pray things work out well for you and soon. Can you get on a cancellation list for the tests and specialists etc. somehow to move up in the queue ?
I really am sorry for what you are challenged with right now and I hope and pray things work out well for you and soon. Can you get on a cancellation list for the tests and specialists etc. somehow to move up in the queue ?