Examples of awful things strangers have randomly said to me in public. What have I done to deserve this
-"Do you want to go in the bus with me for a shag? I'll pay for it" (interprets my transtypal distress, and transtypal mal-reactions, as sexual desire, which very upsets me as an asexual-identifying person)
claims to be homeless but doesn't look like it, doesn't look scruffy enough with loads of bags "im homeless could you give me 30p for food" (either implies that my act of donating tenners to homeless people is stupid and futile, or worse yet that I spend way too much money on food which really hurts because it implies i am both FAT and IRRESPONSIBLE / MATERIALISTIC, both of which i really don't want to be)
"you haven't been what i've been through" (implies I am over-reacting)
"are you okay?" "yes" "no you're not (elaborates on their serious medical emergence), again this implies i am over reacting
shoving female deodorant or woman-only art club leaflets right in my face for no reasom
electricity bill people "we're not as scary as you think you are" AGAIN, implies over reacting
three kids riding bikes chanting "money money money" as they saw me, implies materialistic tendencies.
someone mistaking my crying for a "meltdown"
De-typing is the transtypal equivalent of misgendering. De-typing is the intentional or unintentional act of perceiving a transtypal person as contrary to their ideal self, and the pain can be alleviated by well ofc typesititioning to their SIT (self identified type, basicslly whatever kind of typology their ideal self would have) hence their typological presentation would synchronise with their internal sense of identity (analogue to how transgender people often like to pass as the gender they identify as). Emotional responses vary between different transtypal people and is not dependent at all (e.g. despite attachmentoids notorious for image concern, even a 3w4 identifying person could be completely unfazed, even an 8-identifying person could burst into tears when perceived as way too dependent. Emotional responses are way more dependent on the transtypal person's ATAB aka assigned type at birth) on their self-identified type- when being de-typed by others, some may feel mildly frustrated , some may feel overwhelming rage or an agonising level of distress, some may lash out others may withdraw, some may not care at all. but in general the experience is rather unpleasant and negative. as an asexual, logical, nonchalant, low-maintenance identifying person, all of those things I listed could indeed count as de-typing (being perceived as over emotional, sexual, dramatic, fat, and obsessed with buying things)
-"Do you want to go in the bus with me for a shag? I'll pay for it" (interprets my transtypal distress, and transtypal mal-reactions, as sexual desire, which very upsets me as an asexual-identifying person)
claims to be homeless but doesn't look like it, doesn't look scruffy enough with loads of bags "im homeless could you give me 30p for food" (either implies that my act of donating tenners to homeless people is stupid and futile, or worse yet that I spend way too much money on food which really hurts because it implies i am both FAT and IRRESPONSIBLE / MATERIALISTIC, both of which i really don't want to be)
"you haven't been what i've been through" (implies I am over-reacting)
"are you okay?" "yes" "no you're not (elaborates on their serious medical emergence), again this implies i am over reacting
shoving female deodorant or woman-only art club leaflets right in my face for no reasom
electricity bill people "we're not as scary as you think you are" AGAIN, implies over reacting
three kids riding bikes chanting "money money money" as they saw me, implies materialistic tendencies.
someone mistaking my crying for a "meltdown"
De-typing is the transtypal equivalent of misgendering. De-typing is the intentional or unintentional act of perceiving a transtypal person as contrary to their ideal self, and the pain can be alleviated by well ofc typesititioning to their SIT (self identified type, basicslly whatever kind of typology their ideal self would have) hence their typological presentation would synchronise with their internal sense of identity (analogue to how transgender people often like to pass as the gender they identify as). Emotional responses vary between different transtypal people and is not dependent at all (e.g. despite attachmentoids notorious for image concern, even a 3w4 identifying person could be completely unfazed, even an 8-identifying person could burst into tears when perceived as way too dependent. Emotional responses are way more dependent on the transtypal person's ATAB aka assigned type at birth) on their self-identified type- when being de-typed by others, some may feel mildly frustrated , some may feel overwhelming rage or an agonising level of distress, some may lash out others may withdraw, some may not care at all. but in general the experience is rather unpleasant and negative. as an asexual, logical, nonchalant, low-maintenance identifying person, all of those things I listed could indeed count as de-typing (being perceived as over emotional, sexual, dramatic, fat, and obsessed with buying things)