self esteem be at 100 and then -8 after talking to anyone

[aquariusmisery]

i look ok and sometimes nice in pictures, my loved ones say im pretty, and i dont think my reflection is ugly, but if all that were really true people would approach me, wouldnt they?? my friends always have guys after them and i never do... the only time i was talked to by a guy was my first boyfriend who was so toxic i had to go to the psychiatrist. literally every time ive been in love it hasnt turned out right and i dont know if its just bad luck or if im just so ugly that they couldnt find the will to love me back. i mean yeah they like some parts of my body but what about my face? is my undefined jawline, huge nose, and slight double chin SO off putting that i repel the entire male species? are the 2 kilos i keep losing and gaining back THAT noticable? do my undefined eyes that get hidden by my glasses make guys think im a nerd from an 80s movie? its hard to keep a stable self esteem if whenever youre able to find a semblance of beauty in yourself its torn down by being made fun of for being short, stubby and weird. i feel like people that have that disease that makes you stink are less avoided than me.

 

[Gard]

Usually, people don't love you—they love how they feel when they're with you.

 

[Something.idk]

my friends always have guys after them and i never do... the only time i was talked to by a guy was my first boyfriend who was so toxic i had to go to the psychiatrist.

Abusers don't go after people who are ugly rather they go after people who they think will be easier to control.
You don't need a boyfriend to feel pretty.
I understand though it really sucks to have an unstable self esteem.

 

[may71]

but if all that were really true people would approach me, wouldnt they??

Not necessarily. A lot depends on the culture of where you live. In a lot of places, gender relations have gone down the drain. I'm not sure why your friends would have guys after them, it could just be your perception. If they don't actually have boyfriends, it may just seem like guys are after them.

Guys are much more likely to show interest and approach you if they know that you are interested in them and that you would welcome being approached. It could be that your friends are more skilled in getting that message across.

There's a book called "Flirting 101". There may be other books on flirting too. Flirting is a skill. If you can become an expert in flirting, you can make sure that any object of your romantic interest knows that you're interested and would like to be approached.

its torn down by being made fun of for being short, stubby and weird

Who makes fun of you for being short? A lot of guys find short girls especially attractive.

do my undefined eyes that get hidden by my glasses make guys think im a nerd from an 80s movie?

Your glasses are not necessarily a obstacle, but they are one of the things about yourself that you can change easily. Learning how to flirt will probably help you more than anything else, but you find yourself still in a rut, you might want to try a different frame or wearing contacts.

I hope things will get better soon