I am struggling with getting over my ex. I strongly believe she was the one for me. i saw us together for the long haul and then out of nowhere it was over she wont tell me why or how we can work this out. we got engaged on valentine's this year and 2 weeks later she broke it off amd 2 weeks after that was dating someone e else. we have an 8 months old daughter and I know we weren't perfect but I want to be patient and wait for her but I also am so miserable that I have made attempts and failed I'm passed that now but still in a lot of pain. wanting to drowned myself in a bottle to stop felling but I know it wont help. I'm 10 yrs sober but find myself crying amd wanting to drink. I plan on going to a support group but dont have time right now do to work. I want my family back and will do anything to get it. but idk what to do how to do it or anything she is being extremely stubborn and has blocked my number now and i struggle with not calling her. I dont want to piss her off but I miss my girls so much. I am lost without them. help me. i dont wanna be miserable till the day they come home but moving on still feels like cheating to me. what do i do
Sorry that you're going through this
You should have a legal right to at least have visitation with your daughter. If your ex won't grant at least that, you can have your rights enforced in court.
You've really accomplished a lot by staying sober. It's really important to maintain that in order to be able to have a good relationship with your daughter, to keep the door open to reconciliation with your ex, and just for yourself.
Going to meeting sounds like it could help. You might be able to contact them and see if there's something like phone support or one-on-one meetings with a counselor.
How long were you together?
You should have a legal right to at least have visitation with your daughter. If your ex won't grant at least that, you can have your rights enforced in court.
You've really accomplished a lot by staying sober. It's really important to maintain that in order to be able to have a good relationship with your daughter, to keep the door open to reconciliation with your ex, and just for yourself.
Going to meeting sounds like it could help. You might be able to contact them and see if there's something like phone support or one-on-one meetings with a counselor.
How long were you together?
no court just what she allows. and I know she misses me. she has been acting up since we split. her mom never sings to her the way I do. I'm missing so much of her growing up. I never wanted to raise my kids this way. idk how to fix it. everyone says just leave it alone and it may work out in time but it's so damn hard
i'm sorry this happened to you, but now you have to look at the situation logically. I think she's done in that sense of a relationship, try to focus on being friends for the sake of your daughter, and who knows what will happen down the road. if you keep trying to pursue her she will just move further from you. try to get along with her and work out reasonable visitation, if she won't tell her you want to try to work it out but you will go to court if necessary. and this is not worth your life through suicide or the bottle. you have been sobre for 10 years don't lose your battle now. and she clearly moved on so you should also. remember your forever love is out there. mike
It's better to do things outside of court if you can. I don't think it would necessarily make things any worse than they are now.
Having a phone conversation, or sending her an email or letter about this would be better, but if she's shutting you out completely, court may be the only way you get to see your daughter more often.
Having a phone conversation, or sending her an email or letter about this would be better, but if she's shutting you out completely, court may be the only way you get to see your daughter more often.
and I get it she is young and not drank much and every one makes mistakes drunk. I can get over that. but this is to much. i just wish she would talk to me and work this out. im very understanding and forgiving. but ignoring the problems dont fix anything. leaving them like this only makes things worse.
she. extremely hard working 100 plus hrs every 2 weeks. usually kind I thought seems like she was just putting on a mask now though. loving mother a loyal gf that i know of but easily m uh manipulated by outside people of the relationship. she was convinced to leave me be for by a friend of her friend who made her think she was just in lust with me not love only to find out that same weekend all that guy wanted to do was get in her pants and share her with his friends so she came home every night an 8 hour drive and moved back home the same weekend. she is very impressionable. she reasontly started going to the bar with a woman that is by and sleeps around and another woman that thinks men are only good for making babies and then should just leave. so that has something to do with it. there are so many variables and Idk where to even start. it's a lot to type on my phone Haha. we argued about small things a lot and that bothered her and 2 times I scared her when I grabbed her in an arguement not meaning to scare her but has had some scary exs i guess. there are plenti of small things that built up that could have been fixed if she had communicated them with me before giving up
It sounds like she had the wrong kind of people whispering in her ear. Maybe this is going to be something she's going to snap out of eventually. The fact that she's not talking to you and restricting visitation sounds like she's mad about something that she's not talking about though.
Would you be willing to go to couples counseling with her if she agreed to that?
Would you be willing to go to couples counseling with her if she agreed to that?